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Ok Seriously. What is up with Adult Babies?

Episode #624 — October 9, 2018

If you found out that your gal pal in her 20s had a hook up with a 17 year-old lad, would you call the cops on her? Should you? Ok, seriously. What is up with adult babies? Dan interviews Lo, of the Dream a Little podcast exploring the relationships between folks who get off on this kind of role play. We suspect you will emerge enlightened. A woman uses the tried and true "pillow humping" technique when she masturbates. Her boyfriend wants her to film it so he can watch. But will he be turned off? Disgusted? Alarmed? And, a woman learned that her monogamous boyfriend has been spending his precious time and money at legal brothels. This broke all the rules. How should she deal with this?
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Dr. Rachel Gelman

Episode #547 — April 18, 2017

A woman's in-laws have 12 cats. They won't travel to see the caller's family (including the 2 small children,) because they can't bear to leave the mewling kitties. Are they mentally ill and is there any way to explain this behavior to the kids? A bondage-loving lass goes to clubs and gets tied up by a strictly platonic tying partner. Her boyfriend is ok with it, but feels a little spooked. How can she reassure him that what she and the tying partner do isn't sex? On the Magnum, it's our first do-over! Dan realized he cocked up the answer to the woman who would lose bladder control when she gave blow jobs. This time, Dan brings in Dr. Rachel Gelman- an actual pelvic health specialist who knows what the hell she's talking about. She lives in the UK, he in the States. He is her dom, and also her cousin. They are deeply closeted about their relationship to family and friends. So, what's the problem? 206-302-2064
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At the Trump rally with Ana Marie Cox.

Episode #512 — August 16, 2016

Special guest ranter Ana Marie Cox tells us what it's actually like at a Trump rally. (Spoiler: terrifying.) A gay man is living in a group house with a straight couple. When the man in the couple drinks, he gets a bit...handsy, much to his girlfriend's delight. Should the caller get together with his roommate? Will the girlfriend give her permission? What exactly is the etiquette when you discover that your long distance boyfriend of 4 years actually has a wife and kid? Should you ghost him? Or confront him? On the Magnum, author, feminist pornographer, and sex educator Madison Young chats about making the porn you want to see. Also, Dan advises a woman who has been HIV positive from birth, on how to disclose her status, and own it without shame. 206-302-2064
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With Dr. Lori Brotto.

Episode #481 — January 12, 2016

What to do when your drunken cousin starts blabbing about all the affairs she’s having and all the cocaine she’s snorting and all the traffic accidents she’s having? A professor is in anguish because she is about to sleep with a much younger, very good looking FORMER student. A couple of her (male) colleagues think this is a bad idea. Most of them (all women) say “ Go for it.” What do you, dear listener, think she should do? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Lori Brotto, about a woman’s numb clitoris. She feels nothing, poor thing. And, a college student wonders if it’s a good idea to chat about her schoolwork naked with a man she found on Craigslist. He would pay her. What could go wrong? 206-302-2064
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With AIDS activist Peter Staley.

Episode #477 — December 15, 2015

A stoned gentleman is wracked with guilt for making the dog he’s caring for stop masturbating already! (Maybe he should be hitting the indica rather than the sativa, say the TSARY.) “Virginity is obsolete as a concept,” declares this 20 year-old woman, who is seeing an 18 year-old lad with precious little experience. How can she take care of her little darling and gently guide him to the land of sexual pleasure, honoring the campsite rule? A strident feminist has found a man who can really get her off. The problem is that he is a chauvenist pig! Is it ethical to sleep with the enemy? On the Magnum, Dan and AIDS activist Peter Staley get into a dust-up over PreP and its effect on rising STD rates among gay men. (Don’t worry, they’re still friends.) Get your Savage Lovecast coffee mugs over at www.thestranger.com/savageswag 206-302-2064
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Neil Steinberg on tolerance and Charlie Hebdo.

Episode #431 — January 27, 2015

On this, the week of Dan and Terry's 20th anniversary, Dan grapples with some tricky, tricky questions: At exactly what point in the dating process would it be polite to disclose that you are already in an open relationship? A woman likes to be thin. Her man prefers a more hefty physique. How can she deal with his compliments if they only come when she feels bad about herself? And, a woman's boyfriend is losing his hair, and plans to get a buzz cut. But she really likes a head of long, luxurious hair! If he won't wear a hat or a wig, is it...over? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Chicago Sun-Times columnist Neil Steinberg about tolerance in the wake of Charlie Hebdo. And, a woman's boyfriend wants to spend a wild weekend in Vegas with his buddies. Fine! But does she really have to do the three hour drive each way to take him to the goddamn airport? Both ways? 206-201-2720
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The swirling controversy around PrEP.

Episode #423 — December 2, 2014

A woman dating a water-sports enthusiast is having a hard time, just "letting go." A straight man is horrified by misogynistic, abusive porn. Why is it popular? How can he avoid it? In another instance of straight male bewilderment, a man in his 50s doesn't "get" bondage. How can he find a woman who isn't interested in 50 Shades of anything? On the Magnum, Dan spars with family therapist Damon L Jacobs on the PrEP controversy. And a sad tale of yet another rape at a fraternity, with a victim who didn't report it. 206-201-2720
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Katha Pollitt on abortion rights.

Episode #418 — October 28, 2014

It's the triumphant return of Dr. Barak, here to reassure us that drinking pee is still "pretty darn safe." Is guzzling jizz the equivalent of drinking a protein shake? Should a man rat out his boss for watching porn on his phone after work? On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with Katha Pollitt about her new book, Pro: Reclaiming Abortion Rights. And more. 206-201-2720
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A sturdy pair of panties.

Episode #410 — September 2, 2014

What do you do when your potential new roommate comes with his very own stalker? Dan chats with Dr. Vy Chu about the real risks of sleeping with honest, HIV pos guys. On the Magnum, we are delighted to bring back fashion force-of-nature Simon Doonan, to discuss the feminist implications of camel toes. And a ton more.
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With Mary Martone!

Episode #409 — August 26, 2014

Dan and his old co-host Mary Martone talk about cat jealousy, mate poaching, and have an epic, drag-out battle over fat-shaming.
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