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Where do kinks come from?

Episode #608 — June 19, 2018

A woman had offered an Amazon delivery guy a drink of water in her house, and gave him her phone number. One year later he started sending her nasty messages and dick pics. Should she report him to his employer? Call the cops? A divorced man's 13 year-old daughter came out to him as a "homo-romantic asexual." Should he tell her conservative Christian mother? Also, is this just a phase? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Phd student Sam Hughes about his work exploring why some people are kinky. And, hear the tale of the lice-ridden, bed bugs-carryin', panty-free hippy chick.
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Teen Sexting = big trouble.

Episode #592 — February 27, 2018

A woman gave her husband permission to see an escort when he was out of town. But she didn't give him permission to spend a small fortune on her!! An open-minded straight man has had quite enough with the sexual cavorting that takes place in his gym's hot tub, thank you very much! Is he being homophobic? Should he rat them out? On the Magnum, kids are getting in big trouble for sexting, sending pics and other activities that most teens routinely engage in. Dan speaks with Robby Soave from Reason.com about the need to lawyer up if your kid faces such a threat. How can a woman explain to her newly divorced father that she suspects he's gay, and that it's a-ok with her?
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Burlesque vs. Stripping

Episode #354 — August 6, 2013

A straight man has been the recipient of some rather shoddy pegging. Dan sets him on a better course. A woman's older boyfriend insists her gay friends are out to sleep with her. Dan senses dark machinations at work. Are you, a straight woman, obliged to inform your hook-up that his dick stinks to high heaven? On the Magnum version, Dan interviews feminist blogger Amanda Marcotte on the hysteria surrounding female sexuality and hook-up culture on college campuses. A woman is so darned pretty that she can't have any male friends because they ALL want to sleep with her. Dan speaks with male burlesque sensation Waxy Moon on the differences between burlesque and stripping, and what to do if your boyfriend doesn't want to see you in pasties.
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Dad likes to wear women's clothing. This doesn't bother his daughter, but she doesn't want to hear much more. (But knowing his dress size might come in handy over the holidays.) When your "straight" friend appears on a gay online dating site, does that mean he's out?  A gay man loves to huff his boyfriend's body odor. The boyfriend finds this revolting, and prefers to wear deodorant and cologne. Whose side will Dan Savage take in this skanky debate?   You'll have to listen to find out.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage  Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.
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This week, Dan is joined by his animal handler, Lucy! Lucy can answer questions about shit skid marks left on couches, cheating lying girlfriends, jerk dom creeps AND do Dan's laundry with a smile. She is truly a wonder. Call us with your questions. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast
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A gay man's entire Catholic family knows he's gay. When will he come out already so they can meet his boyfriend? Want to punish your parents? Why not join a queer porn collective? Birthday etiquette: A concerned aunt gives her lesbian niece a packet of ex-gay propaganda, warning that she will go to hell if she doesn't magically turn straight. Is this a) kind, b) polite, c) a fun gift to get, or d) none of the above. Relatives! 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today here: http://j.mp/savageaudible
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A woman in a four-year relationship prefers anonymous sex without love. Her boyfriend wants monogamy. How can they reconcile this? How much porn does it take to call it a porn addiction? Two sordid tales of barebacking... And tons more. Call us at 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam Male: Get 50 percent off when you enter GUYS at checkout. http://j.mp/SavageAdamMale Today's episode is brought to you by Sex Is Fun. www.sexisfun.net
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Dear girlfriend. I love you so much. But can you please wash your vagina? A woman at the beginning of an online dating adventure is warned that her potential paramour has a terribly bruised penis from extreme masturbation. Hot or not? A man wants to date dominatrixes, but not because he wants to be a sub. He just thinks they're hot. And tons more. Call us at 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com www.ExtremeRestraints.com
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Angry gay fucking: Her neighbors are doing it. How can she tell them to knock it off or at least keep it down? The tragedy of our inadequate sex education in the U.S. reveals itself in this call, in which a young man wonders how to get an abortion without telling his parents and how to find out if his girlfriend is indeed pregnant. Dan talks a man out of castrating himself. Seriously. And tons more. Call us at 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve This episode was brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today here: http://j.mp/savageaudible
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Can you think too hard about S&M? More pertinently, who really needs the gag? A young homo is joining the air force. How carefully should he cover his tracks when he goes back into the closet? Speaking of being careful, this man's girlfriend is on the pill and makes him wear a condom AND pull out. Would you put up with this? We wouldn't. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent off your order when you enter "Savage" at checkout: http://j.mp/SavageKitten
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