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The Ethics of HIV Disclosure

Episode #643 — February 19, 2019

When bisexual friends go wild: A lesbian has been buddies with a bi woman for a while. Guess what happened when they got drunk! Now, the bi friend is asking her boyfriend for a hall pass to sleep with the lesbian friend. But will their friendship be able to withstand all this newfound passion? Hear two tales concerning the ethics of HIV disclosure: A male/female couple have always been bi and open. But when they both got HIV it became much more difficult to find other partners willing to take the risk. And, a transwoman sex worker also has HIV. She is on meds, and undetectable. Her sugar daddy who wants to take her on a fabulous trip. Should she tell him? Speaking of sex workers, on the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Lucy Platt about her study looking at how criminalization of sex work affects the health of sex workers. And, dating handsome bartenders. It ain't easy.
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The Bad Behavior Show

Episode #639 — January 22, 2019

Some of you are doing terrible things. We start with a teen who has been sneaking off with her mother's vibrator. How can her long-suffering parents encourage her to use one without using *that particular* one? A woman's new boyfriend begs her to let him change her tampon, saying it would bring them closer together. Is this a fetish of his? Is this a fetish of anyone's? This isn't "bad," per se but just what the Sam Hill is going on on here? On the Magnum, Dan chats with bad-assed victims' right's lawyer Carrie Goldberg about the hook-up app Grindr dragging their feet on intervening in some very serious harassment going on. Bad! And, we're not done, just you listen! A woman loves to cheat- she loves the sneaking around, the lying, all of it. She doesn't want poly, she wants to cheat! AND. A gay man regularly "sticks it in" without a condom, even when expressly forbidden to do so. That is so, so bad. Dan has his work cut out for him this week.
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Using the poly label to cheat, cheat, cheat.

Episode #636 — January 1, 2019

The first call of 2019 is all about public sex. So that's how things are looking. We then move on to a deep, methodical analysis of the life cycle of your vibrator. How long should those things last anyway? On the Magnum, Dan chats with queer sex writer Sophie Saint Thomas about her article in Playboy titled "Are Some People Just Slapping the Poly Label on their Cheating?" We are very sorry to report that the answer is yes, yes they are. And, an anxious sister wants to counsel her 16 year-old brother on his plan to initiate a three-way with a couple of lucky young ladies in his class. Ah to be 16... 206-302-2064
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With Lizz Winstead of The Daily Show!

Episode #622 — September 25, 2018

Parents, hear this cautionary tale: A man has been in his loving, kinky, poly marriage for 21 years. His wife accidentally clicked the wrong button and synched up her super gnarly BDSM pics onto her 9 year-old daughter's phone. So now there's some 'splaining to do. A woman lives in an apartment building in NYC. At first, her neighbor appeared to be really nice! Then he started sending her dick pics with his infant in the background. On the Magnum: "Honey? What would you like for your birthday?" This innocent question, asked by a 70 year old woman of her 80 year-old husband was answered thusly: "Why, I would like 2 Asian ladies to bath me, please." (We added the "please" in this reenactment.) Godsmacked, Dan enlists the help of comedian, writer and creator of The Daily Show Lizz Winstead to help answer. And, Dan counsels a miserable man, who is still heartbroken 6 months after being vaguely, but gently dumped by a woman he had enjoyed three dates with. (We considered playing a sad violin underneath his call, but Dan wouldn't let us.)
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Second Opinion with Hola Papi!

Episode #621 — September 18, 2018

A woman enjoys anonymous webcamming with older men. But do they cross a line when they both pretend that she's... very young? A poly father doesn't know how to explain his healthy, happy relationships to his 5 year old daughter. On the Magnum, Dan enlists JP Brammer, author of the "Hola Papi" advice column to talk about interracial dating and to take down a personal trainer/tease. And, a guy with a girlfriend is sick of everyone asking when they're going to have kids. They don't want kids. What is wrong with people? 206-302-2064
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Bad Blood

Episode #620 — September 11, 2018

A young woman's boyfriend regularly gets her sexually aroused and then rolls over and goes to sleep without finishing the job. And then they fight. Why would he do this? A young gay man doesn't understand why his fuckbuddy only texts him when he wants to...well, fuck. On the Magnum: If you are a gay man, and want to give blood, you're out of luck. Blood centers do not accept blood donations from gay men. Is this based on science or stigma? It's a little of both, as it turns out in this discussion with Dr. Nick Cuneo, a physician at Harvard who has written about the subject. And, remember that scene in Purple Rain where a woman gets thrown into a dumpster? We are very sad to report that it happens in real life too.
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With Guy Branum.

Episode #619 — September 4, 2018

A woman's mother died last year. Her dad is dating someone new. The caller and her siblings just aren't ready to welcome their dad's girlfriend into their lives, let alone include her at Christmas. The caller feels she has to choose between her siblings and her father. Tough times, these. A straight man felt slighted when a woman wouldn't give him her phone number, and in public! He feels sad and humiliated and wonders if the male ego should be given just a little more weight and protection. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Guy Branum, comedian and author of "My Life as a Goddess," about cosmetic ass surgery among other things. A woman can come easily through masturbation but can't get there with her boyfriend. Dan takes her through the steps of his hallowed technique, guaranteed to get her moaning alongside her man.
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Abortion in the Bible?

Episode #614 — July 31, 2018

"Dan? If someone sticks a lollypop in my vagina, will I get a yeast infection?" Sincerely, the very first caller. A married woman was horrified to discover raunchy pics of her husband's first cousin on his phone. Would this horrify you? On the Magnum, did you know that you can find instructions for a home abortion...in the Bible?! Well you can, and Dan's guest, the blogger Jesse Cramer tells us all about it. Also, a VERY WOKE man, who ALWAYS OBTAINS CONSENT, because he VERY MUCH CARES ABOUT WOMEN, doesn't understand why his latest girl is giving him the cold shoulder.
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A woman has started up with a great new guy. The problem? He kisses "like a robot." And not a sexy robot! How can she train him to kiss properly? A man's daughter is non-binary, and dating another non-binary. When they have sleep-overs should the father worry about his daughter when her partner is in male mode? On the Magnum, Dr. Justin Lehmiller is on to talk about his latest book Tell Me What You Want and his research studying what people really fantasize about. Don't you want his job? A married woman's husband loves it when she talks about her slutty past. But she's running out of stories! Also, should she tell him about her current crush?
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Is porn getting more and more violent?

Episode #609 — June 26, 2018

A woman's boss did something so nasty that she successfully prosecuted him and got him on the sex offender registry. But how can she get a new job with such an uncomfortable story to tell about her last one? Dan brings on Rob Walker, a.k.a. The Workologist from the New York Times to strategize. A skinny, insecure gay dude likes big muscle men. But he can't understand why they like him. On the Magnum, Dan interviews sociologist Eran Shor about his work analyzing pornography and whether it is getting more and more violent. And, a caller asks Dan to write his wedding speech. Dan has a better idea.
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