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Dan Savage worships Goddess Charlotte Lashes.

Episode #771 — August 3, 2021

Our opening "sexcess" story will make all the licensed massage therapists cringe. We are truly sorry. A woman and her girlfriend have gotten in the habit of using baby voices with each other. They know this is terrible, but they can't stop. Dan! Make them stop! On the Magnum, Dan continues crushing out on dominatrixes. This week, he interviews Goddess Charlotte Lashes about financial domination, kinky conservatives, and boyfriends who are being dominated by their mothers. Goddess Charlotte COMMANDS YOU TO LISTEN. A bisexual woman is very attracted to penises. She likes everything about cis women except their vaginas. And she's attracted to trans folks...but only if they have a dick. So, is this wrong? When she's on a date, how and when should she ask what they have down below? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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A bi woman wants to try threeways with her boyfriend. He enthusiastically agrees. But it's been a while since she's been with a woman, and wants to have a trial run with just her unicorn. Now, he's getting a little nervous... A woman with a 12 year-old son has been toying with the idea of starting an Only Fans account. The problem? Her son might see some of her content. How can she have this very difficult parental conversation? In one of our favorite interviews of all time, Dan brings on linguist and literature professor John McWhorter, author of "Nine Nasty Words: English in the Gutter: Then, Now, and Forever." They gab about the origins of the word "fuck" and "faggot," how the nature of profanity has changed over the years, and why some words are both sexy and unutterable. And, a man planning a hook-up hears that they can go to the other guy's home, but only if the dog watches. Is this innocent and ok or so, so far from innocent and ok?
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Oh no it's MRSA! With Dr. Paul Pottinger.

Episode #767 — July 6, 2021

Dear Emily Post: What am I to do when I encounter my boyfriend in the basement enjoying large amounts of cocaine, in women's attire, with a gentleman we both know very well? A kinky woman already agreed to open up her relationship with her boyfriend. So why did he have to go out and cheat? On the Magnum, a very ethical stripper, bartender and sugar baby has contracted MRSA and worries she is putting others at risk. Not sure what MRSA is? Well, you will know plenty about it after you listen to Dan's interview with infectious disease expert Dr. Paul Pottinger. Does she have to quit her jobs? Find out. A woman with a great sex life always has to think about porn in order to come. Is this normal? Must she change her erotic inner life?
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It's a boy! A pregnant woman upon learning the sex of her unborn baby is devastated that she's not getting the daughter she always dreamed of. Can she learn to love...a son? Have you heard the Death, Sex & Money podcast with Anna Sale? Well! Anna joined us to talk about her new book "Let's Talk About Hard Things." She and Dan answered a few calls together, which somehow leads to a discussion about an esoteric BJ technique. Some is on the Micro, all is on the Magnum. A married lesbian found out that her wife is cheating on her, on her own damn birthday. Now the wife is asking for an open relationship. After 10 years of monogamy, can they make it work? Finally- "Wanted: sex worker to service my elderly father. Must also cook for him." Does this kind of specialist exist?
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"Get your vax!" says Doc Barak.

Episode #757 — April 27, 2021

"Soooo. About my daddy." A gay man has developed a pleasant non-monogamous sugar baby/sugar daddy relationship. How can he tell his dates and boyfriends about his very special daddy? A woman has discovered that her boyfriend of 2 years has been seeing cam girls and compulsively giving them money. He isn't interested in sexy pictures of the caller, poor thing. Should she accept this...proclivity... as a healthy sexual outlet? He's back! The good doc! Doc Barak! He and Dan talk about vaccine hesitancy, and how to gently coax the skeptics into rolling up their sleeves. And, of course, because he always does this to the long suffering doctor, Dan sneaks in a question about ass-eating. There's some of their conversation on the Micro and all of it on the Magnum. And, have you ever found yourself in a confusing unicorn situation? As part of their sexual adventures, a couple started sleeping with a friend. But the friend has a husband. And the husband is NOT into it. What responsibility does this couple have if their unicorn pal wants to keep it up with them in a lying, cheating kind of way?
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Happy Infertility Awareness Week!

Episode #756 — April 20, 2021

When your baby has a peanut allergy and your in-laws don't take it seriously, well, the sparks are gonna fly. The eternal question: can you make your penis bigger? Dan's answer may not shock you. ON the Magnum version, Dr. Shanna Swan author of "Countdown" is on to talk about declining sperm counts, environmental toxins and the fate of the human race. We recommend you celebrate 4/20 or pop yourself Xanax before listening. And, hear two separate tales of women looking to hire unicorns for one special evening.
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Serial Cow Pie Copulators

Episode #751 — March 16, 2021

"Dear Miss Manners, Am I obliged to respond to the gentlemen I encounter on 'Grindr,' even if I am not in the least bit interested?" Dan counsels yet another woman who lays herself down as a human doormat. DTMFA! If your man hasn't yet told his friends that he's dating you, it's time to move on. On the Magnum, we have a very special What You Got?: Listen, we can't put this delicately. There are birds out there that prefer to have sex with cowpies over the females of their species. Dan interviews Dr. Gail Patricelli, a (delightful) researcher who studies the freaky sage grouse. She and her scientist pals trick these pathetic birds with robots and round flat turds. So that's a job you could have. And, a woman insists that uncircumcised penises feel better inside than cut ones. Could be!
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After the shot: dating post-vaccination.

Episode #749 — March 2, 2021

Have you ever been blocked? This man was! When he and his boyfriend of 6 months had their first big fight, they broke up, and the boyfriend slammed the door shut. Now the caller wants closure. Dan Savage is here to hold his hand through it. A man is attempting to grow some foreskin through...techniques. He thinks circumcision should be outlawed. But when he discusses this with some of his Jewish or Muslim pals, it doesn't go over well. On the Magnum version, Dan chats with Dr. Stacy De-Lin about dating and covid-safety now that many of us are beginning to get vaccinated. Also, is it safe to have your poly sister babysit for your kid? And, a woke woman is annoyed that her friend has invited her to a Zoom gender-reveal party.
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Dr. Sarah Hunter Murray, on the science of male desire.

Episode #747 — February 16, 2021

A woman has discovered she has a taste for bisexual dudes. But so many are closeted, or don't lead with their bi-ness on apps. How can she root them out? Dan wades into drama, intrigue and subterfuge! A gay man's acquaintance has dark designs on a straight man in their life. Should the caller warn his unwitting straight friend? Or stay out of it? On the Magnum, Dan welcomes Dr. Sarah Hunter Murray to discuss the misperceptions about male sexuality and desire. C'mon! Fellas need to feel like sex objects too... And, an introverted lass has a bunch of demanding alpha friends. How can she explain to them that sometimes she needs to curl up by the fire?
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He's baaaaack. It's Dr. Bummer!

Episode #734 — November 17, 2020

Have you ever had to quickly mute yourself on a Zoom meeting because your girlfriend was getting spanked in the other room? Just asking. Dan brings back Lina Dune from Ask a Sub to discuss the ethics of public displays of *kinky* affection. You know, like, leading your slave around by his leash in the grocery store. On the Magnum, it's the anxious return of the esteemed epidemiologist Dr. Daniel Westreich, aka Dr. Bummer. He's on to talk about the spiking spike of cold cases across the United States. But what a time to be an epidemiologist, am I right? And, a 41 year old man recalls when he was young, he showed up at the studio of his local newscaster to ask her out. He claims he wasn't attracted to her fame. He just thought they would make a good couple. She politely refused. Now he wonders. Was that creepy?
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