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Abortion in the Bible?

Episode #614 — July 31, 2018

"Dan? If someone sticks a lollypop in my vagina, will I get a yeast infection?" Sincerely, the very first caller. A married woman was horrified to discover raunchy pics of her husband's first cousin on his phone. Would this horrify you? On the Magnum, did you know that you can find instructions for a home abortion...in the Bible?! Well you can, and Dan's guest, the blogger Jesse Cramer tells us all about it. Also, a VERY WOKE man, who ALWAYS OBTAINS CONSENT, because he VERY MUCH CARES ABOUT WOMEN, doesn't understand why his latest girl is giving him the cold shoulder.
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A woman has started up with a great new guy. The problem? He kisses "like a robot." And not a sexy robot! How can she train him to kiss properly? A man's daughter is non-binary, and dating another non-binary. When they have sleep-overs should the father worry about his daughter when her partner is in male mode? On the Magnum, Dr. Justin Lehmiller is on to talk about his latest book Tell Me What You Want and his research studying what people really fantasize about. Don't you want his job? A married woman's husband loves it when she talks about her slutty past. But she's running out of stories! Also, should she tell him about her current crush?
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Is porn getting more and more violent?

Episode #609 — June 26, 2018

A woman's boss did something so nasty that she successfully prosecuted him and got him on the sex offender registry. But how can she get a new job with such an uncomfortable story to tell about her last one? Dan brings on Rob Walker, a.k.a. The Workologist from the New York Times to strategize. A skinny, insecure gay dude likes big muscle men. But he can't understand why they like him. On the Magnum, Dan interviews sociologist Eran Shor about his work analyzing pornography and whether it is getting more and more violent. And, a caller asks Dan to write his wedding speech. Dan has a better idea.
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A kinky woman is sick and tired of men assuming she's a horny slut ready for anything at any time. How can she explain in her dating profiles that she's kinky AND discerning? A woman was hanging out fishing with her old high school buddy when the buddy asked, "So is it true you like to get peed on?" Don't you hate it when that happens? How should she spread the word among her old friend circle that in fact, this isn't to her taste? On the Magnum, look out! It's a lesbian take-over! The delightful ladies from the Lez Hang Out podcast are here to take on some lezbo questions. And, a woman wonders how to come out to her family as a stripper.
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Mom discovered a portable pussy sex toy in her teenaged son's backpack. Are you a mother? Do you plan to be one someday? What will you do when you discover a portable pussy in your teenaged son's backpack? A man and his girlfriend see each other every few months. And when they do, hoo boy! They have sex every few hours. By the end of their time together she feels sore. Right? She wants to try pegging him so he can understand what it's like to be penetrated so frequently. He wonders if this is even analogous. Dan brings a bit of clarity to this fraught situation. And, oh my god speaking of fraught! A father asked his daughter to lie to mom about the earring in the hot tub and say it was hers, when it WASN'T. At first the daughter agreed to lie for her dad, but then wisely changed her mind. Now what? And, on the Magnum, Dan chats with Slate writer Evan Urquhart- a trans guy who covers LGBTQ issues about dating trans folk.
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Dating an asexual.

Episode #602 — May 8, 2018

A woman's husband installed a hidden camera in their house. We aren't saying WHERE he installed it, but you should know that this call made us take off our headphones for a second. As a young man navigates through his dating life, he finds that the girls he's really attracted to ghost him, and the gals he's lukewarm about chase him with conviction. Why?! Dan chats with the lad and gives him a clue. On the Magnum Dan speaks with Dr. Lori Brotto about having a fulfilling relationship with an asexual. Check out her book here. And, THE INTERNET IS NOT SAFE FOR YOU. Our guest, Anthony Hecht is a little less alarmist than that, but not much
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Male escorting- a sociological study.

Episode #601 — May 1, 2018

A married man and his wife are planning some swinging fun times. But one of the people who responded to his anonymous post is his high school pal! Should he tell her who he is? That he knows who she is? Oh my god, this could be SO EMBARRASSING. A woman and her boyfriend used to have frequent, fantastic sex..when he was drunk. Now that he's sober, their love-life is bland and scant. How can they have hot, booze-free sex? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Dr John Scott, a sociology Professor from Brisbane, Australia about his work studying male escorts. And, a married woman bemoans the fact that her husband won't throw her around and take his pleasure. He won't consent to an open marriage. What's this libidinous lass to do?
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Poly, poly, poly! with Cunning Minx.

Episode #599 — April 17, 2018

"Dear Dan. What is up with cock rings?" Dan is all too delighted to answer. A married woman is in an open relationship, and hooks up with a friend of theirs. This "lover" doesn't make her come. Rather, after her insufficient sessions with him, she returns home to her husband who gets the job done. Should she tell the lover that he is inadequate when it feeds such a hot dynamic with her husband? On the Magnum, welcome to Poly Town! The wonderful Cunning Minx, host of the Poly Weekly podcast, is on to answer a couple head scratchers. How do you merge families? Get one giant house? What about kids? Also, how to do poly real, real wrong. Finally, a woman newly broken up with her boyfriend discovers that he's been looking at YouTube videos with titles like "How to win back your stubborn girlfriend." Should she cut cut him out of her life a little bit, or a lot? What do you think?
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A woman went on a date, and everything went so well. Until...he disappeared without a trace. Did this man truly turn into a ghost? Dan calls her back and gets the full story. On the Magnum, for a "What You Got?" Dan chats with Kristen Mark on how to maintain sexual desire in long term relationships. And, a woman's husband suffered an injury that he is slowly recovering from. But it has wreaked havoc on their sex life. How can they get back to the good times? This "In sickness and in health" stuff is hard!
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The neighbor and the négligé.

Episode #594 — March 13, 2018

After 10 years of marriage, a man is dismayed to admit that he married a jizz-hater. His wife detests the stuff and doesn't want to be anywhere near it. What is the solution? The ever-delightful and intrepid Erika Moen of "Oh Joy Sex Toy" is on to discuss a sex toy that will send you packing. A woman's boyfriend wants to get a $2000 anatomically correct sex doll. The caller, and (as you will hear) Dan Savage are super-squicked. Finally, gather round dear listeners, and hear the story of the neighbor and the négligé
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