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It's a boy! A pregnant woman upon learning the sex of her unborn baby is devastated that she's not getting the daughter she always dreamed of. Can she learn to love...a son? Have you heard the Death, Sex & Money podcast with Anna Sale? Well! Anna joined us to talk about her new book "Let's Talk About Hard Things." She and Dan answered a few calls together, which somehow leads to a discussion about an esoteric BJ technique. Some is on the Micro, all is on the Magnum. A married lesbian found out that her wife is cheating on her, on her own damn birthday. Now the wife is asking for an open relationship. After 10 years of monogamy, can they make it work? Finally- "Wanted: sex worker to service my elderly father. Must also cook for him." Does this kind of specialist exist?
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"Get your vax!" says Doc Barak.

Episode #757 — April 27, 2021

"Soooo. About my daddy." A gay man has developed a pleasant non-monogamous sugar baby/sugar daddy relationship. How can he tell his dates and boyfriends about his very special daddy? A woman has discovered that her boyfriend of 2 years has been seeing cam girls and compulsively giving them money. He isn't interested in sexy pictures of the caller, poor thing. Should she accept this...proclivity... as a healthy sexual outlet? He's back! The good doc! Doc Barak! He and Dan talk about vaccine hesitancy, and how to gently coax the skeptics into rolling up their sleeves. And, of course, because he always does this to the long suffering doctor, Dan sneaks in a question about ass-eating. There's some of their conversation on the Micro and all of it on the Magnum. And, have you ever found yourself in a confusing unicorn situation? As part of their sexual adventures, a couple started sleeping with a friend. But the friend has a husband. And the husband is NOT into it. What responsibility does this couple have if their unicorn pal wants to keep it up with them in a lying, cheating kind of way?
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Happy Infertility Awareness Week!

Episode #756 — April 20, 2021

When your baby has a peanut allergy and your in-laws don't take it seriously, well, the sparks are gonna fly. The eternal question: can you make your penis bigger? Dan's answer may not shock you. ON the Magnum version, Dr. Shanna Swan author of "Countdown" is on to talk about declining sperm counts, environmental toxins and the fate of the human race. We recommend you celebrate 4/20 or pop yourself Xanax before listening. And, hear two separate tales of women looking to hire unicorns for one special evening.
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Serial Cow Pie Copulators

Episode #751 — March 16, 2021

"Dear Miss Manners, Am I obliged to respond to the gentlemen I encounter on 'Grindr,' even if I am not in the least bit interested?" Dan counsels yet another woman who lays herself down as a human doormat. DTMFA! If your man hasn't yet told his friends that he's dating you, it's time to move on. On the Magnum, we have a very special What You Got?: Listen, we can't put this delicately. There are birds out there that prefer to have sex with cowpies over the females of their species. Dan interviews Dr. Gail Patricelli, a (delightful) researcher who studies the freaky sage grouse. She and her scientist pals trick these pathetic birds with robots and round flat turds. So that's a job you could have. And, a woman insists that uncircumcised penises feel better inside than cut ones. Could be!
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After the shot: dating post-vaccination.

Episode #749 — March 2, 2021

Have you ever been blocked? This man was! When he and his boyfriend of 6 months had their first big fight, they broke up, and the boyfriend slammed the door shut. Now the caller wants closure. Dan Savage is here to hold his hand through it. A man is attempting to grow some foreskin through...techniques. He thinks circumcision should be outlawed. But when he discusses this with some of his Jewish or Muslim pals, it doesn't go over well. On the Magnum version, Dan chats with Dr. Stacy De-Lin about dating and covid-safety now that many of us are beginning to get vaccinated. Also, is it safe to have your poly sister babysit for your kid? And, a woke woman is annoyed that her friend has invited her to a Zoom gender-reveal party.
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Dr. Sarah Hunter Murray, on the science of male desire.

Episode #747 — February 16, 2021

A woman has discovered she has a taste for bisexual dudes. But so many are closeted, or don't lead with their bi-ness on apps. How can she root them out? Dan wades into drama, intrigue and subterfuge! A gay man's acquaintance has dark designs on a straight man in their life. Should the caller warn his unwitting straight friend? Or stay out of it? On the Magnum, Dan welcomes Dr. Sarah Hunter Murray to discuss the misperceptions about male sexuality and desire. C'mon! Fellas need to feel like sex objects too... And, an introverted lass has a bunch of demanding alpha friends. How can she explain to them that sometimes she needs to curl up by the fire?
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He's baaaaack. It's Dr. Bummer!

Episode #734 — November 17, 2020

Have you ever had to quickly mute yourself on a Zoom meeting because your girlfriend was getting spanked in the other room? Just asking. Dan brings back Lina Dune from Ask a Sub to discuss the ethics of public displays of *kinky* affection. You know, like, leading your slave around by his leash in the grocery store. On the Magnum, it's the anxious return of the esteemed epidemiologist Dr. Daniel Westreich, aka Dr. Bummer. He's on to talk about the spiking spike of cold cases across the United States. But what a time to be an epidemiologist, am I right? And, a 41 year old man recalls when he was young, he showed up at the studio of his local newscaster to ask her out. He claims he wasn't attracted to her fame. He just thought they would make a good couple. She politely refused. Now he wonders. Was that creepy?
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With Dr. Jen Gunter of the Vagina Bible

Episode #724 — September 8, 2020

A woman has had a LOT of sex, mostly with men. But she is realizing that she is truly only attracted to women. The problem is, when she talks to a hot woman, she starts stuttering and stammering in terror. How can she grow to be comfortable in her true skin? A man's girlfriend fantasizes that she's a gay man when they have sex. Does this mean she's trans? She insists she's all woman, but the caller is worried, worried, worried. On the Magnum, a deep dive onto vaginas (yup!) with Dr. Jen Gunter, author of the Vagina Bible. She and Dan discuss tipped uteruses, HATING your boyfriend but just before your period, and a rare ear-labia connection. Vaginas are weird and great! And, how can one make one's bed most comfortable for three? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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Mistress Velvet COMMANDS you...

Episode #719 — August 4, 2020

Our opening covid-19 "sexcess" story is extra special this week. You will never think of Tollhouse cookies the same way again. Don't you hate it when your brother-in-law steals your underpants, and uses them to jack off? This little sordid story only gets worse. On the Magnum, meet the dominatrix who forces her clients to read Black feminist theory. Mistress Velvet and Dan discuss performative wokeness, allies vs. accomplices, and the transformative power of S&M among many other things. Mistress Velvet knows her shit. Obey her and listen in. And a woman and her boyfriend keep breaking the bed! Is there a bed frame out there that can withstand this couple's vigorous rutting?
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Love is Not Tourism

Episode #718 — July 28, 2020

An Irish man has found dating success with his "personal operating manual." After the second date or so, he slides over a piece of paper delineating his likes and dislikes, in bed and out. It cuts through a lot of clutter, says he. For those of you separated from your loved ones because of travel restrictions, there could be some hope maybe? Dan chats with Chelsea from "Love is Not Tourism" a group working to allow stipulations for folks who want to reunite with their beloveds in other countries. A kindly aunt has been counseling her newly out niece. The niece and her mother don't get along. Is it wrong for the caller to step in and chaperone her niece on her first date with a slightly older girl? And, one hot day, a woman found her "nubbin" tingling when she thought about ice cream for a second. Panic ensues. Is she some kind of ice cream fetishizing pervert? Her girlfriend tells her to chill out. So do we. Voicemail@savagelovecast.com 206-302-2064
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