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Happy poly homes with Dr. Elisabeth Sheff.

Episode #692 — January 28, 2020

Have you ever experienced conflict during a family vacation? The first call on this show might put it all in perspective for you. A protective big sister can't stand that her 17 year-old sis is dating a 21 year-old man. Their parents don't mind. Should big sister give the guy a chance, or is the age difference unacceptable? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Elisabeth Sheff from Psychology Today about raising children within a polyamorous household. And finally, a woman is considering becoming a fin-dom, with the power to financially ruin her client. But she doesn't want to ruin anyone. Is there a way to ethically do this?
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Hypnokink! With Michal Daveed.

Episode #691 — January 21, 2020

A happily single woman finally broke down after pressure from her friend to have some sex. Against her misgivings, he convinced her to pursue a relationship, promising that if it didn't work out, they could go back to being friends, easy-peasy. Guess what! Now that she wants to break it off, he can't deal with being just friends AND they are starting a business together. Please take heed to this cautionary tale. A pregnant woman can't stand the consistency of her husband's thick, slimy spit. If he drinks more water, will it change? Can she demand he do so? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with writer Michal Daveed about hypno-kink. You know, erotic hypnosis? She explains how god damn sexy it can be, and dispels some myths too. And, hear a most UNwholesome tale about what goes down under the mistletoe. Seriously, that whole mistletoe thing has always been a recipe for disaster, don't you think? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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The Origins of Herpes Hysteria.

Episode #688 — December 31, 2019

It's kind of the bad actors show. A biting biter bit her boyfriend and drew blood. He didn't like it, so she calls him a baby. A dude wonders if can catch a contact high from sleeping with someone who is on meth. A man is miffed because a couple who came to the wedding didn't sent them a gift. Dan sternly chastises them all. People! It's 2020! Behave yourselves! On the Magnum, Dan interviews journalist L.V. Anderson about the history of herpes hysteria. And, vampire porn: How popular is it? Let's have some stats.
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Erika Moen's holiday sex toy picks!

Episode #686 — December 17, 2019

The show begins with an insecurity vampire. You know the kind. A person who sucks you dry with their endless need for praise and reassurance. This man is dating one, but is she entirely to blame? It's complicated. And, it's a wedding battle royale! In one corner we have our caller getting married to a man who has a child by a previous marriage- living out of town. In the other corner is the fiancé's mother, who wants to minimize contact between the kid and the caller. Whose side are you on? Grab some popcorn and listen in. On the Magnum, Santa's rollin' up! What's he got this time? Well, if he listens to resident sex toy expert Erika Moen (and he does,) out tumbles a massive cache of marital aids, including a cock sleeve that spins! A bullet vibe! A dual density dildo! "Sex in a Can! " And a Sex Machine. Like an actual machine. Not Santa himself. Is it January yet? And finally, a lesbian is in a stable, joyful, poly relationship. But she is grappling with a new partner in the scene, who has a medical condition that causes her to burp and fart all the time. It's driving the caller bonkers. She considers this a real torment. We consider it podcast gold. 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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Kink by Gender, with Dr. Justin Lehmiller.

Episode #673 — September 17, 2019

A married woman has just hosted her mother-in-law in their small apartment. After seeing her husband and his mother interact, she just doesn't fell like having any sex at all. How can she clear out the in-law vibes? Morning! A woman emerges from sleep in the full throes of an orgasm. But her dream was mundane and not even close to sexy. What in god's name is going on here? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Lehmiller of the Kinsey Institute about whether men and women are equally kinky. And, a young man wants to ask out a bunch of women at work. What is the best approach? 206-302-2064
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With Stormy Daniels!

Episode #631 — November 27, 2018

Well looky who blew into town! Stormy Daniels came on over to our studio to answer callers' questions about blow jobs, toxic men, protecting the male ego and other hazards. Stormy and Dan got on like a house on fire, and you must listen to it. A couple questions are on the Micro version and many more are on the Magnum. Also, how to get used to using "they/them" pronouns, and how to explain the Black Lives Matter movement to your clueless, idiotic relatives. 206-302-2064
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Second Opinion with Hola Papi!

Episode #621 — September 18, 2018

A woman enjoys anonymous webcamming with older men. But do they cross a line when they both pretend that she's... very young? A poly father doesn't know how to explain his healthy, happy relationships to his 5 year old daughter. On the Magnum, Dan enlists JP Brammer, author of the "Hola Papi" advice column to talk about interracial dating and to take down a personal trainer/tease. And, a guy with a girlfriend is sick of everyone asking when they're going to have kids. They don't want kids. What is wrong with people? 206-302-2064
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With Caitlin Doughty and Roxane Gay

Episode #591 — February 20, 2018

A gay man's boyfriend insists on showering just before sex, every single time. But the caller likes a little funk! How can they reconcile this fundamental difference. Dan's answer is sneaky. Don't be alarmed, but one of this week's questions requires the expertise of a mortician. On the Magnum, Dan enlists New York Times rival columnist Roxane Gay for a Second Opinion on some folks who got dumped, and can't deal. Also, hear the tale of the man and his very, very rich employer- a petty woman who doesn't hesitate snub and insult his girlfriend.
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Whoa, no way! It's Sarah Silverman!

Episode #587 — January 23, 2018

This week Dan caught up with Sarah Silverman to chat about her show "I Love You America." They also answered some callers' questions about conquering jealousy, and kids sticking things in their butts, among other things. She is a superior human and you should listen to the whole thing. A sub woman has been chatting with a dom. But he lacks experience, and he's maybe too short? How can she end it without offending him? Also, a woman just can't reclaim the inherent sexiness of her breasts after nursing her child. How can she get her boob-pleasure back? And, so, so, so much more. 206-302-2064
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Parents of teens: we feel you.

Episode #566 — August 29, 2017

We start the show with a cavalcade of yucky calls about Nazis! Can a dom command his sub to come? Does this really happen? On the Magnum, Dan answers a bunch of calls from parents of teens with Deb Hauser, President of Advocates for Youth. 206-302-2064
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