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Yes, Vasectomies Are Safe.

Episode #762 — June 1, 2021

Dan! Dan! My dildos melted together in the drawer! Horrifically, this is not uncommon if you buy cheap-ass sex toys. A gay man is establishing a potentially great friends-with-benefits relationship. The problem? The guy won't stop sending him stupid little memes all the damn day long. How can our caller put an end to this childish behavior? Over on the Magnum, a Nervous Norman is worried about possible harm that could come to his willy if he got a vasectomy. Reassurance arrives in the form of Dr. Tobias Kohler from the Mayo Clinic. He and Dan discuss the safety of this utterly routine procedure. And because this is the Savage Lovecast, Dan blindsides him with a question about smashing balls. And, can you cuddle? Can you platonically cuddle? Can you platonically cuddle with a conservative Catholic when you are a liberal Jew? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com Keep it under 3 minutes, ya'll.
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Psychedelics for the Win!

Episode #760 — May 18, 2021

Boundaries are hard! For instance, a married couple of 12 years decided to open the relationship. So naturally, she started sleeping with her husbands brother in their own house. Of course. And! If you knocked on the door, and your kid confessed that they were masturbating, would you A) Mutter, "Sorry!" and walk away. B) Walk in and chuckle at the site of their underpants. C) Run screaming from the building. You'll have to listen to learn what this lady did. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Alan Davis, who studies the effects of psychedelic mushrooms on depression. It turns out magic mushrooms might just help with mental health in the long term. (The tech-savvy- at-risk youth could have told you that.) And, Dan deconstructs the difference between appreciating the beauty of Asian people and having an Asian fetish.
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With Erika Moen & Matt Nolan.

Episode #752 — March 23, 2021

Gather round. Hear the cautionary tale of the gaslighting vibrator thief. It's tough out there for a male gynecologist. A man in his Ob Gyn residency asks for tips on giving exams that put his patients at ease. Dan brings on Dr. Ian Fields, Assistant Program Director for the OBGYN residency at OHSU to discuss being a man in the mix. On the Magnum, our beloved, longstanding guest cartoonist/sex toy expert Erika Moen is on with her partner Matt Nolan to talk about their new book for teens: Let's Talk about It: A Teen's Guide to Sex, Relationships and being a Human. It's fabulous, and if you have or are a teen, you are COMMANDED to buy it. And, rejoice! We have a new sexuality! "Freysexual." What's that, you ask? Why it's someone who is attracted to people until they get to know them better. Are you a freysexual? ARE YOU?
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Serial Cow Pie Copulators

Episode #751 — March 16, 2021

"Dear Miss Manners, Am I obliged to respond to the gentlemen I encounter on 'Grindr,' even if I am not in the least bit interested?" Dan counsels yet another woman who lays herself down as a human doormat. DTMFA! If your man hasn't yet told his friends that he's dating you, it's time to move on. On the Magnum, we have a very special What You Got?: Listen, we can't put this delicately. There are birds out there that prefer to have sex with cowpies over the females of their species. Dan interviews Dr. Gail Patricelli, a (delightful) researcher who studies the freaky sage grouse. She and her scientist pals trick these pathetic birds with robots and round flat turds. So that's a job you could have. And, a woman insists that uncircumcised penises feel better inside than cut ones. Could be!
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Sex advice from a former Republican operative.

Episode #740 — December 29, 2020

In our opening "sexcess story", how to turn your tiny quarantine apartment into a home sex-club discotheque. A woman has thoughtfully chosen to not have children. So why do friends and strangers hassle her about this? On the Magnum, Dan goes toe to toe with his (formerly) Republican enemy Tim Miller. Before Miller saw the light he was the communications director for Jeb Bush's 2016 campaign, and also worked for John McCain and Mitt Romney. Then along came Trump and he became a "never Trumper" and now, has renounced the Republican party. Oh, and he's a big homo. He and Dan used to publicly battle on Twitter, but now he joins us to dispense sex advice. A heartwarming tale for your New Years. And, have you ever heard of an adult man who still has wet dreams all the time? This man does... 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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With Sarah Silverman!

Episode #739 — December 22, 2020

Our opening "sexcess" story features a woman willing to indulge her boyfriend's drool fetish. A woman has come to understand that her husband has a belly fetish. And she has a lot less belly than she used to... Oh, and guess who's here! It's the brilliant Sarah Silverman! She and Dan chat about staying friends with exes, the difference between doing stand-up comedy and recording a podcast, her political activism and so much more. Then, Sarah and Dan take calls together on the Magnum. So if you haven't yet subscribed...now's the time. Here's one of the calls Dan and Sarah discuss: Why do men like to spit on their lovers?
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With Political Gabfest's Emily Bazelon!

Episode #731 — October 27, 2020

A man and his much younger girlfriend decided to seek a unicorn through swinging apps. Her only rule was to set the age limit to women over 30. So, naturally, he went for women in their 20s. What's the problem?! A queer woman is into being choked. She knows it's unsafe. Is there any way to do breath play safely? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the Political Gabfest luminary Emily Bazelon about the conservative shift in the Supreme Court. Sexy! And, a woman's boyfriend was able to get her off using only his foot. What has your boyfriend done for you lately?
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Ask a Mortician!

Episode #725 — September 15, 2020

A woman was babysitting her neighbor's 3 year-old daughter. The girl took her clothes off and started touching herself. Should the caller say something to the parents? Is this behavior a red flag for abuse? Or is this just how the 3 year-olds roll? A man with a very girthy penis can't come without extended penis-in-vagina action. But sometimes his ladies can't handle it. He started faking his orgasms. Any other solutions here? On the Magnum version of the show, Caitlin Doughty (host of Ask a Mortician on YouTube,) is on to discuss how the pandemic is changing the way we handle funerals, grieving and possible positive changes in the death industry. She is the most charming goth mortician you'll ever encounter. And, in the response calls, our ever-pragmatic listeners offer great suggestions on how to make a bed work for three people.
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With Dr. Jen Gunter of the Vagina Bible

Episode #724 — September 8, 2020

A woman has had a LOT of sex, mostly with men. But she is realizing that she is truly only attracted to women. The problem is, when she talks to a hot woman, she starts stuttering and stammering in terror. How can she grow to be comfortable in her true skin? A man's girlfriend fantasizes that she's a gay man when they have sex. Does this mean she's trans? She insists she's all woman, but the caller is worried, worried, worried. On the Magnum, a deep dive onto vaginas (yup!) with Dr. Jen Gunter, author of the Vagina Bible. She and Dan discuss tipped uteruses, HATING your boyfriend but just before your period, and a rare ear-labia connection. Vaginas are weird and great! And, how can one make one's bed most comfortable for three? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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Why does Dr. Barak keep returning to the show?

Episode #710 — June 2, 2020

A remote controlled buttplug? In the bath? This pandemic is getting pretty fun! A woman asks a question that so many of us are also wondering: is it safe to be romantically intimate with someone who has already recovered from covid-19? When? Dan brings on the intrepid Dr. Barak to answer, and as usual hits him with a gnarly second question just to make the good doctor squirm. Are you a parent? Have you had some challenges raising your kids? Is your kid a foot fetishist? If you answered either yes or no to any of these questions, then you're going to want to listen in. And, a man in an open relationship feels empty and sad after he orgasms with anyone but his primary partner. How can he retrain his brain? Tickets to the Savage Lovecast Livestream are at www.savagelovecast.com/events Send your written questions ahead of time to livestream@savagelovecast.com 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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