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With Caitlin Doughty and Roxane Gay

Episode #591 — February 20, 2018

A gay man's boyfriend insists on showering just before sex, every single time. But the caller likes a little funk! How can they reconcile this fundamental difference. Dan's answer is sneaky. Don't be alarmed, but one of this week's questions requires the expertise of a mortician. On the Magnum, Dan enlists New York Times rival columnist Roxane Gay for a Second Opinion on some folks who got dumped, and can't deal. Also, hear the tale of the man and his very, very rich employer- a petty woman who doesn't hesitate snub and insult his girlfriend.
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Whoa, no way! It's Sarah Silverman!

Episode #587 — January 23, 2018

This week Dan caught up with Sarah Silverman to chat about her show "I Love You America." They also answered some callers' questions about conquering jealousy, and kids sticking things in their butts, among other things. She is a superior human and you should listen to the whole thing. A sub woman has been chatting with a dom. But he lacks experience, and he's maybe too short? How can she end it without offending him? Also, a woman just can't reclaim the inherent sexiness of her breasts after nursing her child. How can she get her boob-pleasure back? And, so, so, so much more. 206-302-2064
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Parents of teens: we feel you.

Episode #566 — August 29, 2017

We start the show with a cavalcade of yucky calls about Nazis! Can a dom command his sub to come? Does this really happen? On the Magnum, Dan answers a bunch of calls from parents of teens with Deb Hauser, President of Advocates for Youth. 206-302-2064
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Going Gay for One Drunken Night.

Episode #554 — June 6, 2017

A woman wants to try a three-way. But all the posts online are riddled with spelling and grammar errors. (Not sexy!) How can she forge a more classy connection? A woman has been with her fiancé for 5 years. He loves to play with her nipples, but she hates it. And guess what? She has never told him this. Before they wed, how can she confess that she's been grinning and bearing it the whole time? On the Magnum, how drunk does a straight boy have to be before he'll get it on with another guy? An intrepid scientific researcher went into the field to find out. And a lesbian wonders how she can improve her relationship with her father, when he thinks she's possessed by the devil. Tricky. 206-302-2064
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with Rachel Lark

Episode #553 — May 30, 2017

Oh, that nasty chef! A woman works in a restaurant where her manager is having an affair with the married chef. Sometimes the caller has to serve the chef's poor innocent wife. It's so cruel that all the servers are about to revolt. A married man harbors a cuckolding fantasy. He is certain his wife would never-ever be into it. But would she? Also, we couldn't help but play a couple of Rachel Lark songs, cuz they're so good. And on the Magnum, have you heard of "Hypersomnia?" A woman can't keep herself awake, sometimes at inopportune times, and she worries she'll be taken advantage of. Dan brings on a sleep medicine expert to discuss. Also, a woman who makes a lot of noise during sex, is confused when she gives her boyfriend the best head ever, and he is...perfectly silent.
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Alice Dreger on bikinis for tweens.

Episode #497 — May 3, 2016

A woman’s sister has been in a secret relationship for 7 years. Can or should she talk her sister out of what she thinks is an unhealthy relationship? A woman discovers that she gets off from spitting in her boyfriend’s mouth. Is this common? Is this wrong? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Alice Dreger, author of The Talk: Helping Your Kids Navigate Sex in the Real World about whether it’s cool to let your 12 year old daughter get that teeny-tiny, little bikini. And a shy straight guy can’t figure out how to ask a girl out even when she’s making ggo-goo eyes at him on the train. 206-302-2064
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With Peggy Orenstein.

Episode #494 — April 12, 2016

A woman loves sexting with strangers she meets online. But she has no desire to meet in person. How and when should she let her fellas know this about her? What happens when homophobic parents never come around? Dan speaks with writer Aaron Hartzler, author of “Rapture Practice,” about coming out to intractable family. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Peggy Orenstein, author of “Cinderella Ate My Daughter” and “Girls and Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape” about the distorted expectations women face the in the bedroom. 206-302-2064
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The Birth of The Pill.

Episode #473 — November 17, 2015

“Bark! Bark! Bark!” That’s what a kinky woman’s dog will say when it hears her getting spanked. She worries that this might be a problem, and so, should she maybe not get a dog? A divorced woman is sleeping with the repair man. Her ex-husband is sleeping with their children’s former nanny. Were you just complaining about your life being too complicated? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Jonathan Eig, author The Birth of the Pill. Finally, a man’s girlfriend catches him masturbating to a picture of her friend. And she’s totally cool with it. Just kidding! All hell breaks loose. And! f you really want to enter to win a horrible gun...go here: http://www.steveking.com/cruz-huckabee-jindal-and-santorum-gun-giveaway-2/
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Amy Lang on talking to the children about s-e-x.

Episode #440 — March 31, 2015

Her friend's fiancé would rather enjoy congress with an unwashed blow-up doll than his betrothed. Does this spell ruin, or just a happy companionate marriage? Hear the steamy tale of the nude model, the super-hot art teacher and the things he does with his laser pointer. On the Magnum we've been saving up parenting questions for the indomitable Amy Lang, sex educator and creator of Birds + Bees + Kids, to help parents talk to their kids about s-e-x. And, Dan interviews Alison Stevenson about her article in Vice Magazine, about not giving blow jobs. http://www.vice.com/read/why-i-dont-give-blowjobs-323 206-201-2720
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Sex at Burning Man.

Episode #407 — August 12, 2014

Take it from us, whatever you do- don't offend the adult baby. Also, how should you respond when you get hit on by a 13 year-old? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with "Lazlo" -organizer of the Orgy Dome at Burning Man about sex at the sandy festival. And, welcome to yet another abstinence-before-marriage train wreck. .
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