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Sub Drop

Episode #615 — August 7, 2018

A woman keeps dating men who hide her and won't acknowledge that she exists on social media. What on earth is going on here? A woman knows that her personal trainer is a Christian. But is he the good kind or the bad kind? Should she find out before she continues her patronage? On the Magnum version, Amp from "Watt's the Safeword" is on to explain and discuss the phenomenon of "sub drop" in pornography and in the wild. And, what it really means when you're attracted to Wonder Woman.
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When your partner has BPD.

Episode #540 — February 28, 2017

A woman's 61 year-old father confided that he has discovered kink. Should she help to connect him to kink resources when she herself is vanilla, and also...his daughter? A man worries that his attraction to East-Indian women might be racist. Dan helps unpack the complicated issues around attraction to specific races. On the Magnum, Dan talks with Randi Kreger, author and expert on Borderline Personality Disorder about dating someone with this unpleasant condition. And, all hail the Cuck-Queen! Dan chats with a woman who gets off on her husband sleeping with other women. Dan instructs her on the alchemical art of turning jealousy into lust.
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Kink Bonanza with "No Safe Word."

Episode #527 — November 29, 2016

A gay man wonders if it's possible to have a happy, healthy, poly triad. Can sex give you acne? Dan consults a professor of dermatology to get to the bottom of this one. On the Magnum, a special treat for you uber-kinksters. The gentlemen from the No Safe Word podcast are on to discuss (among other things,) 24/7 master/slave relationships, scat play, and gay orgies in Texas. You're welcome. 206-302-2064
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Sexual Advance Directives

Episode #521 — October 18, 2016

How is a sex worker supposed to deal with it when her clients keep quoting Donald Trump?! A woman is dating an insecure man who grabs her boobs at inappropriate times and then pouts when she tells him to stop. Can she retrain him to not act like such an imbecile? On the Magnum, Dan talks to Law Professor Alexander A. Boni-Saenz about the tricky concept of sexual advance directives. A man's mother has Alzheimers. His step-father is taking care of her, and confessed to carrying on an affair with his mother's dear friend, who also helps with her care. Should he tell his mother? Heavy, right? 206-302-2064
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With Mistress Matisse

Episode #517 — September 20, 2016

A lesbian is about to go to a wedding with a bunch of conservative guests. And guess who's going to be there! You'll never guess. Ricky Santorum! How should she take advantage of this unusual opportunity? Dan chats with pro-dominatrix, writer and activist Mistress Matisse about SWOP Behind Bars- a project to support incarcerated sex workers. And of course she helps answers some questions about KINKY SEX. Get your naughty ass over to SWOPBehindBars.org this instant. A woman is dating a man who makes her come like a champ. But he never reaches orgasm, like...ever. Do we have a problem here? And more. 206-302-2064
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The Republican Empathy Gap.

Episode #459 — August 11, 2015

Dan on the Republican empathy gap. Why does the Republican party care so much about Fox News’ Megyn Kelly, but not so much about you? A woman doesn’t understand how bondage, S&M, humiliation and rape fantasies can take place in the context of a loving relationship. On the Magnum, Dan and writer/blogger Amanda Marcotte dish about the Republican primaries, and how the “War Against Women” is still very much ON. A man keeps his past open relationship secret. How can he be an ambassador for open relationships without broadcasting his personal business? And more! 206- 302-2064
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Face Tattoos with Ophira Eisenberg

Episode #450 — June 9, 2015

An 18 year-old man and his girlfriend are learning how to get it on. She can make herself come, but he can’t get her there himself. Would a vibrator be such a bad idea? Dan welcomes comedian, writer and actress Ophira Eisenberg (host of NPR’s “Ask Me Another”) to discuss the wisdom of face tattoos and the sexiness of mansplaining. On the Magnum, a family tiptoes around their gay son’s atrocious behavior because they’re afraid he’ll call them homophobic. Hey penis-havers! Do you ever have aftershock orgasms when you pee after sex? Tell us all about it. 206-201-2720
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Mistress Matisse throws shade on 50 Shades.

Episode #438 — March 17, 2015

The Lovecast is delighted to welcome Mistress Matisse. Dan and our favorite dominatrix/sex-worker rights activist talk about getting started with domination, the perils of being a sex worker and (what else?) 50 Shades of Grey. When planning a three-way with your wife and a friend of yours, how do you choose the lucky friend? And how can you minimize the awkwardness when you make the ask? On the Magnum, hear the spooky tale of a mother-in-law's mysterious vibrating couch. 206-201-2720
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Is kink an orientation?

Episode #408 — August 19, 2014

This week, Dan welcomes author Joan Price to talk about sexuality for older folks. Meanwhile, back in high school, a gay lad is suffering because his boyfriend has suddenly decided he's straight. On the Magnum, Dan chats and spars with prolific freelance writer Jillian Keenan about whether kink is a sexual orientation. And, how can a gentle giant figure out how to dominate his lady in the way she really wants?
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