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Are Sugar Babies Sex Workers?

Episode #623 — October 2, 2018

A married couple's teen daughter gets super-irritated when her parents have noisy sex. She sends them snarky texts imploring them to stop. Maybe she includes an eye-rolling emoji or a throwing-up kitten or some such teenaged thing. The dad in this couple doesn't want to "break her." What does Dan Savage have to say? Our guest this week, (on the Micro! You're welcome!) is Brook Urick of Seeking.com- a site where sugar babies can meet their ideal sugar daddy. Hooray! But is this relationship by nature commodified? Is it sex work? Dan and Brook don't see eye to eye on this one. On the Magnum, an out bi guy keeps getting rejected by women once they learn he's bi. Are there any women out there who can handle it? And, a ridiculous sitcom comes to life, when a woman AND HER FRIEND have both set up dates WITH THE SAME GUY.
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Look out, Monogamy. Here comes Esther Perel.

Episode #578 — November 21, 2017

A married man is deliciously conflicted as his wife sleeps with women. It turns him on at first, but then jealousy and resentment settle in. How to reconcile? A woman newly broken up with her boyfriend has some recent boudoir photos kicking around. Should she send them to him? On the Magnum, listen in on our live show in Vancouver with Esther Perel, author of "Mating in Captivity." Dan and Esther take long hard look at the history of human relationships and our culture's obsession with monogamy. YOUR DAYS ARE NUMBERED, MONOGAMY.
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RANDY RAINBOW

Episode #531 — December 27, 2016

In these dark times, there is a man to bring us joy. His name is Randy Rainbow. Dan and Randy talk about his brilliant YouTube videos, dealing with the election and farting. A woman in a long distance relationship doesn't like the way her man goes down on her. So, she just sits there and waits for it to be over. Maybe there's a better strategy to explore? On the Magnum, Dan talks to author and Editor of Bustle.com, Gabrielle Moss about a practice you need to acquaint yourself with: grapefruiting. And, learn how NOT to incorporate nosebleeds into your sex life. 206-302-2064
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Parenting Horror Stories

Episode #522 — October 25, 2016

A man has been with his boyfriend for 1.5 years. The caller's family is loving and welcoming to the boyfriend. But the boyfriend's family won't accept his homosexuality and won't allow the caller to join them at Thanksgiving etc. How long must our caller wait for his boyfriend to grow a pair, and tell his family to piss off already? Next up, we'll just share the title of this call: "Take Your Chances at the All-Girl Orgy?" NOW you're gonna listen aren't you? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the hosts of One Bad Mother, a delightful parenting podcast, about some gnarly situations parents find themselves in. And, a woman is excited to start having three-ways with her boyfriend. EXCEPT. He's a terrible lover, and the caller worries his lack of skill will queer the deal. 206-302-2064
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At the Trump rally with Ana Marie Cox.

Episode #512 — August 16, 2016

Special guest ranter Ana Marie Cox tells us what it's actually like at a Trump rally. (Spoiler: terrifying.) A gay man is living in a group house with a straight couple. When the man in the couple drinks, he gets a bit...handsy, much to his girlfriend's delight. Should the caller get together with his roommate? Will the girlfriend give her permission? What exactly is the etiquette when you discover that your long distance boyfriend of 4 years actually has a wife and kid? Should you ghost him? Or confront him? On the Magnum, author, feminist pornographer, and sex educator Madison Young chats about making the porn you want to see. Also, Dan advises a woman who has been HIV positive from birth, on how to disclose her status, and own it without shame. 206-302-2064
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With MTV's Ira Madison III.

Episode #510 — August 2, 2016

A man has started dating a woman he suspects is a virgin. She's hot, but he doesn't want to have to teach her about sex. Should he bail, or give her a few lessons? A woman fell into bed with a man so drunk, that he didn't remember going down on her. Now he's asking her friends what happened that night. Should she tell? On the Magnum, Dan chats with MTV's Ira Madison III about the complex issues that come with being a black man with submission fantasies. And, the sleepover that fried a mother's brain. 206-302-2064
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Amy Lang on talking to the children about s-e-x.

Episode #440 — March 31, 2015

Her friend's fiancé would rather enjoy congress with an unwashed blow-up doll than his betrothed. Does this spell ruin, or just a happy companionate marriage? Hear the steamy tale of the nude model, the super-hot art teacher and the things he does with his laser pointer. On the Magnum we've been saving up parenting questions for the indomitable Amy Lang, sex educator and creator of Birds + Bees + Kids, to help parents talk to their kids about s-e-x. And, Dan interviews Alison Stevenson about her article in Vice Magazine, about not giving blow jobs. http://www.vice.com/read/why-i-dont-give-blowjobs-323 206-201-2720
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Mistress Matisse throws shade on 50 Shades.

Episode #438 — March 17, 2015

The Lovecast is delighted to welcome Mistress Matisse. Dan and our favorite dominatrix/sex-worker rights activist talk about getting started with domination, the perils of being a sex worker and (what else?) 50 Shades of Grey. When planning a three-way with your wife and a friend of yours, how do you choose the lucky friend? And how can you minimize the awkwardness when you make the ask? On the Magnum, hear the spooky tale of a mother-in-law's mysterious vibrating couch. 206-201-2720
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Anna Sale from "Sex, Death and Money."

Episode #436 — March 3, 2015

The Lovecast welcomes Anna Sale from WNYC's "Death, Sex & Money" podcast to pick over the nuances of Dan's thinking on non-monogamy. We check in on a caller from last year who has recurring cancer, and a boyfriend who wasn't quite ready to marry her. Learn how she is doing, and whether they tied the knot. Hear the tale of yet another deflowered, "abstinence-only" Christian. (It's kind of hot…) So much. Always so much. 206-201-2720
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The triumphant return...OF LUCY!

Episode #404 — July 22, 2014

Dan and his buddy Lucy chat about spanking, cheating, pervy cousins and sleeping with the cab driver.
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