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Bad Blood

Episode #620 — September 11, 2018

A young woman's boyfriend regularly gets her sexually aroused and then rolls over and goes to sleep without finishing the job. And then they fight. Why would he do this? A young gay man doesn't understand why his fuckbuddy only texts him when he wants to...well, fuck. On the Magnum: If you are a gay man, and want to give blood, you're out of luck. Blood centers do not accept blood donations from gay men. Is this based on science or stigma? It's a little of both, as it turns out in this discussion with Dr. Nick Cuneo, a physician at Harvard who has written about the subject. And, remember that scene in Purple Rain where a woman gets thrown into a dumpster? We are very sad to report that it happens in real life too.
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Dating an asexual.

Episode #602 — May 8, 2018

A woman's husband installed a hidden camera in their house. We aren't saying WHERE he installed it, but you should know that this call made us take off our headphones for a second. As a young man navigates through his dating life, he finds that the girls he's really attracted to ghost him, and the gals he's lukewarm about chase him with conviction. Why?! Dan chats with the lad and gives him a clue. On the Magnum Dan speaks with Dr. Lori Brotto about having a fulfilling relationship with an asexual. Check out her book here. And, THE INTERNET IS NOT SAFE FOR YOU. Our guest, Anthony Hecht is a little less alarmist than that, but not much
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The Urologist is IN.

Episode #596 — March 27, 2018

A straight man is having a hard time getting laid. His female friends tell him he has to be more aggressive and less respectful with the ladies. Dan weighs in. The "baby" in a baby/daddy relationship is jealous because her daddy is getting it on with a couple and not inviting her. No, crying is not a solution. Sometimes you gotta reach out to a dick doc. (The more dignified word is "urologist." ) On the Magnum, Dan does just that, chatting with the good Doctor Stephen King, to answer a couple questions about curved dicks, and a mysterious clit-like growth. Hot! And, the Madonna/Whore Complex: It's not just for breeders!
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A sex toy to help you DO YOUR KEGELS.

Episode #585 — January 9, 2018

A man is into being tied up and pegged. But his wife finds it dull, tedious, boring and stultifying. Should he give up on the idea, or find a way to convince his wife that she could have some fun here. Oh no! More S&M trouble! A woman had a great date with a hot dom who dommed her so, so right. But now she feels nothing but shame. How can she clear out all the kink-phobia from her naughty brain? On the Magnum, our resident sex toy reviewer Erika Moen has found a toy to help you DO YOUR KEGELS. Do them now. And, can we accurately gauge how good a parent someone will be based on how they treat a cute, little puppy-dog? 206-302-2064
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A man is enjoying his new cool girlfriend. The thing is? She isn't an insane lunatic like his other girlfriends. Is this a problem? Oh man. This one's good. Should a woman accept her ex's offer to give his KIDNEY to her desperately ill father? Will there be strings attached? Oh my god? On the Magnum, Dan chats with stand-up comedian Cameron Esposito. And, a woman had some awesome group sex at an Air BnB. The owner gave her a very public negative review. Was she sex-shamed? Should she be more discreet next time?
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The WEED Episode with David Schmader.

Episode #576 — November 7, 2017

Fire up a giant J-bone, brothers and sisters cuz it's the WEED EPISODE. With professional marijuana enthusiast David Schmader -author of "Weed: A User's Guide." David joined us in our studio to talk about how marijuana can enhance sex, what strains are the sexiest, what to do if you NEED marijuana to get off, and more.
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So many sex toys!

Episode #551 — May 16, 2017

A man and a woman used to date, but now they're just friends. The woman got married and doesn't want her rich husband to know that she used to date the caller. Is it because she's embarrassed that the caller doesn't make enough money? From three-way to third wheel...a gay man with a long term boyfriend opened up their relationship to bring on another man. But now the boyfriend is getting closer and closer to the new guy. Do we have a problem here? On the Magnum, Dan chats with our go-to sex toy expert Erica Moen, to discuss "a whole bunch of dildos," a comprehensive round-up of anal lubes, and a toy for women with a misguided name. And, a Jewish woman wonders if it's racist to donate her eggs to a couple that wants a Jewish donor. 206-302-2064
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Our new sex toy review!

Episode #528 — December 6, 2016

A poly woman is very happy with her much older dom. But ever since her mother saw some photos of her daughter all trussed up and naked, the boyfriend is totally not invited to Thanksgiving or Christmas. Is it the age difference? How can our caller convince her mother that her lover is a good guy? A hand-wringing, feminist, good-hearted man wants to try rape-play with his wife. How can he delicately, tenderly suggest he pretend to rape her. You know, if she wants him to. Welcome to our first installment of the Monthly New Sex Toy Review. (We'll think of a clever name for it later.) Erika Moen of "Oh Joy Sex Toy" is on to tell us about a piece of furniture you JUST MIGHT NEED. A woman is about to get married. Her bestie just confessed that she is having an affair with a married man. How could she?! The caller was going to ask her to be her bridesmaid, but now that she has besmirched the sanctity of marriage, well... huff! She's having second thoughts! Dan schools her real good. 206-302-2064
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Episode 500! With David Schmader and Doc Barak.

Episode #500 — May 24, 2016

This is our 500th episode. And we’re just getting started! This week, Dan chats with stoner, writer and delightful person David Schmader about his book “Weed: The User’s Guide.” Speaking of green, Dan has a thing or two to say about the Green Party. A 24 year-old Texan woman worries that if she breaks up with her boooorrring boyfriend she’ll be called an “old maid.” And, guess who sashays in to harsh our mellow with “science?’ It’s Doc Barak! 206-302-2064 Thanks for listening for so long, you guys. Stick with us, won’t you?
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With Jillian Keenan and Joan Price

Episode #499 — May 17, 2016

What is the etiquette for when you run into someone who stood you up on a date? A woman’s friend is in a crappy marriage with 4 kids and a lying, cheating husband with a high profile in their church community. How can the caller convince her friend to DTMFA? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Jillian Keenan, author of “Sex with Shakespeare ” about vetting a dom, and her new book. Also, a caller wonders how to help his 96 year-old grandmother experience sexuality in her life. It’s Joan Price to the rescue! She and Dan discuss sex for the senior set. 206-302-2064
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