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The Pain! The Pain!

Episode #665 — July 23, 2019

A woman has been dating a man for 4 months. She just read on his public blog that he thinks he isn't clicking with her. Should she admit she read his blog? Why would he write such a thing? A gay man encountered a willing slave in the bathroom at an orgy. (As one does.) It turns out this slave wants to be in a 24/7 slave/master relationship. He is also closeted, and politically conservative. Sooooo....is his masochism born out of self-hatred? How can (or should) the caller help this twisted soul? On the Magnum, Dan chats with a sex researcher who recently published a paper on how pain is transmogrified into pleasure within the context of BDSM. It's where science meets magic! And, a drunky lady is sick of her drunky boyfriend wetting the bed when he gets drunk. What could the solution possibly be? 206-302-2064
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Who knew science could be so sexy?

Episode #364 — October 15, 2013

THE NEXT SEASON (SEASON 16) OF THE SAVAGE LOVECAST WILL DROP ON OCTOBER 22ND. Come back here to get it then. A gay man wonders if he should bring mace to his first date. Dan consoles a woman who feels horribly guilty for blowing a selfish, but scorchingly hot dude. When a lover threatens suicide as a means to prevent a break-up, is this pure manipulation, or a credible threat? Dan speaks with an expert on suicide prevention. On the Magnums, Dan speaks with Dr. Meredith Chivers for a "What You Got" on masochism, and how the different genders and orientations relate to sexy, sexy stimuli in a freaky, freaky lab. (Confidential to musicians everywhere: Please send us a clever and short little jingle to play before "What You Got?" Like really short. Under 10 seconds. Send an MP3 to nancy@thestranger.com, won't you?) When secret Santas go off the rails: A woman who organizes her family's secret santa exchange wonders if she should have included her lesbian cousin's wife, when they got married in SECRET. Now the whole family knows, including the conservative Christian side. Ho! Ho! Ho! And a ton more. As always.
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Join Dan Savage and guest star Cory Silverberg in a very special sex-with-disabilities episode of the Savage Lovecast. Also, a follow-up call from the French major house of drama. And an awful lot more. Call 206-201-2720 to get on the show. This podcast is brought to you by Audible.com. Download a free audio book of your choice today at www.audiblepodcast.com/savage.
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In a house full of college intrigue, the caller's roommate has invited his French mistress to come visit. Should the roommate bother telling his American girlfriend ahead of time? A self-described self-destructive lesbian wonders how she can lure some emotionally healthy ladies into her life. A straight man was perusing porn when he discovered some creepy pics of his ex! Should he tell her about it or keep it to himself? Should a masochistic lass feel guilty about her troubling rape fantasies? A cure for wet dreams, and so much more. Call us up: 206-201-2720
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