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A man has tried group sex a couple times. But when he shows up his dick doesn't. What is going on here? Oh this story! A girl started seeing her therapist at age 17. At age 19, she confessed to her 45 year-old therapist that she loved him. So, naturally he told her that he loved her back. They married and had a kid. (Really.) Then they divorced. (Of course.) Now, when her kid or friends ask how she met her ex, she doesn't know what to say. What should she say? And how can she process all the disturbing, conflicting emotions? On the Magnum: You little whipper snappers! Why, when I was your age, we were doin' it like bunny rabbits all over the damn place! The youth of today are having less sex. They're even calling it a "sex recession." Kate Julian of The Atlantic is on to discuss her article exploring this unlikely phenomenon. And, a man's wife has been engaging in unauthorized wanking. She didn't fill out the proper forms. 206-302-2064
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Ok Seriously. What is up with Adult Babies?

Episode #624 — October 9, 2018

If you found out that your gal pal in her 20s had a hook up with a 17 year-old lad, would you call the cops on her? Should you? Ok, seriously. What is up with adult babies? Dan interviews Lo, of the Dream a Little podcast exploring the relationships between folks who get off on this kind of role play. We suspect you will emerge enlightened. A woman uses the tried and true "pillow humping" technique when she masturbates. Her boyfriend wants her to film it so he can watch. But will he be turned off? Disgusted? Alarmed? And, a woman learned that her monogamous boyfriend has been spending his precious time and money at legal brothels. This broke all the rules. How should she deal with this?
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With Guy Branum.

Episode #619 — September 4, 2018

A woman's mother died last year. Her dad is dating someone new. The caller and her siblings just aren't ready to welcome their dad's girlfriend into their lives, let alone include her at Christmas. The caller feels she has to choose between her siblings and her father. Tough times, these. A straight man felt slighted when a woman wouldn't give him her phone number, and in public! He feels sad and humiliated and wonders if the male ego should be given just a little more weight and protection. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Guy Branum, comedian and author of "My Life as a Goddess," about cosmetic ass surgery among other things. A woman can come easily through masturbation but can't get there with her boyfriend. Dan takes her through the steps of his hallowed technique, guaranteed to get her moaning alongside her man.
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Ask a Fuck-Up.

Episode #605 — May 29, 2018

A woman was chilling with her male friend, you know, the way friends do, and sure, he wishes they were a couple, but she's not into him that way, so anyway, she invited him over after some drinking and masturbated in front of him, you know, the way friends do, except now things are weird? A lesbian was told by a transwoman who still has a penis that it's transphobic to not want to have sex with her. Discuss. On the Magnum, it's time for a Second Opinion! Dan chats with the newest sex advice columnist to hit the scene: Brandy Jensen from The Outline's "Ask a Fuck-Up." And, another mysterious ghosting. Where do the men go when they disappear?
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Dating an asexual.

Episode #602 — May 8, 2018

A woman's husband installed a hidden camera in their house. We aren't saying WHERE he installed it, but you should know that this call made us take off our headphones for a second. As a young man navigates through his dating life, he finds that the girls he's really attracted to ghost him, and the gals he's lukewarm about chase him with conviction. Why?! Dan chats with the lad and gives him a clue. On the Magnum Dan speaks with Dr. Lori Brotto about having a fulfilling relationship with an asexual. Check out her book here. And, THE INTERNET IS NOT SAFE FOR YOU. Our guest, Anthony Hecht is a little less alarmist than that, but not much
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The Art of the Solicited Dick Pic.

Episode #588 — January 30, 2018

Gather round, and hear two nasty tales of violent, crazy girlfriends. Would you date someone who painted all over your sheets and poured liquor on your clothes? You would? Oh, never mind then. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Nicole Mazzeo, founder of Pleasure Pie and creator of "The Art of the Solicited Dick Pic" a zine for the folks out there who love a naughty surprise on their phones. And, a phone sex worker wonders how she can handle men who want to engage in emotionally scarring sex chatter. What a world. 206-302-2064
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With victims' rights avenger Carrie Goldberg.

Episode #574 — October 24, 2017

A married woman is totally accepting of her husband's newfound love of cross-dressing. But! She wishes he wouldn't borrow HER clothes. Dan interviews high powered lawyer Carrie Goldberg about her work prosecuting online harassers, revenge pornography and domestic violence abusers. She is a hero. On the Magnum, how can a woman stop masturbating to thoughts of her ex? Finally, a father worries that his children's idea to go as "gay rights" for Halloween might be...misguided?
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Cuckolding with Ben Steel.

Episode #548 — April 25, 2017

A man has been with his lady for one year. She has lost her sex drive, and asks for him to find ways to limit his libido. Should they try counseling? Meditation? Chemical castration? Or maybe there's another option... A gay man and his straight friend used to fool around together when they were children. After a long silence, the straight friend has reemerged with a proposal to resume. It's a small town. There are aren't many gay people. The guy is totally hot. Should the gay man take him up on his offer? On the Magnum, sex and relationship expert Ben Steel welcomes you to his world of cuckolding. He and Dan discuss the alchemical process for turning jealousy into a big horny turn-on. And, a treatise on nipple stimulation. 206-302-2064
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Dr. Rachel Gelman

Episode #547 — April 18, 2017

A woman's in-laws have 12 cats. They won't travel to see the caller's family (including the 2 small children,) because they can't bear to leave the mewling kitties. Are they mentally ill and is there any way to explain this behavior to the kids? A bondage-loving lass goes to clubs and gets tied up by a strictly platonic tying partner. Her boyfriend is ok with it, but feels a little spooked. How can she reassure him that what she and the tying partner do isn't sex? On the Magnum, it's our first do-over! Dan realized he cocked up the answer to the woman who would lose bladder control when she gave blow jobs. This time, Dan brings in Dr. Rachel Gelman- an actual pelvic health specialist who knows what the hell she's talking about. She lives in the UK, he in the States. He is her dom, and also her cousin. They are deeply closeted about their relationship to family and friends. So, what's the problem? 206-302-2064
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Dan's response to the Orlando massacre.

Episode #503 — June 14, 2016

Please listen to Dan's response to the Orlando massacre. In lighter fare... A 19 year-old bi lass worries that she’ll never get to try ladies if she stays with her monogamous-minded man…forever. Is there any hope for her? A man is about to meet a woman he’s been having phone sex with for the first time. Where he just wants to “bone down,” she’s been talking about moving to his town to start a relationship. How can he proceed with caution in this delicate situation? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Vocative writer Tracy Clark-Flory about the plight of the virtuous pedophile. Also, a man is considering sex work. So long as he keeps himself safe, is this a good idea? Dan chats with sex worker and sex worker’s rights activist Mike Crawford. 206-302-2064
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