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Psychedelics for the Win!

Episode #760 — May 18, 2021

Boundaries are hard! For instance, a married couple of 12 years decided to open the relationship. So naturally, she started sleeping with her husbands brother in their own house. Of course. And! If you knocked on the door, and your kid confessed that they were masturbating, would you A) Mutter, "Sorry!" and walk away. B) Walk in and chuckle at the site of their underpants. C) Run screaming from the building. You'll have to listen to learn what this lady did. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Alan Davis, who studies the effects of psychedelic mushrooms on depression. It turns out magic mushrooms might just help with mental health in the long term. (The tech-savvy- at-risk youth could have told you that.) And, Dan deconstructs the difference between appreciating the beauty of Asian people and having an Asian fetish.
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It's a boy! A pregnant woman upon learning the sex of her unborn baby is devastated that she's not getting the daughter she always dreamed of. Can she learn to love...a son? Have you heard the Death, Sex & Money podcast with Anna Sale? Well! Anna joined us to talk about her new book "Let's Talk About Hard Things." She and Dan answered a few calls together, which somehow leads to a discussion about an esoteric BJ technique. Some is on the Micro, all is on the Magnum. A married lesbian found out that her wife is cheating on her, on her own damn birthday. Now the wife is asking for an open relationship. After 10 years of monogamy, can they make it work? Finally- "Wanted: sex worker to service my elderly father. Must also cook for him." Does this kind of specialist exist?
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With Big Mouth's Nick Kroll!

Episode #753 — March 30, 2021

Let the swooning begin. Dan brings on one of his heroes, comedian Nick Kroll to answer some questions and to talk about his show Big Mouth. They chat about meeting sleazy, pre-teen masturbation, dating while famous and many other things. We love Nick Kroll, and so do you. Some of the interview is on the Micro version and all of it is on the Magnum. Have you ever been eaten out while on acid? The caller in our opening sexcess story heartily recommends it. A male erotic massage therapist has only had one client this year. When, oh when are we allowed to have sex again? Finally, an obedient gay rights ally asks if he is permitted to use the term "butt hurt."
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Insta-Apocalypse with JoEllen Notte.

Episode #741 — January 5, 2021

Ah, the pleasures of getting rimmed! But what if you are alone, during quarantine times? Is there a sex toy out there to help a lass get off? Starting in kindergarten, a woman began masturbating using a very specific and very odd technique. Now she needs to do this, and she's super-embarrassed about it. How can she get over her shame, and possibly move on to more conventional orgasm inducers? On the Magnum version of the show, is Instagram going the way of Tumblr- removing all sexual content? Writer and sex educator JoEllen Notte is on to explain the sitch. A woman had a fun fling with a man 17 years her senior. She ended the sex, but they became good friends. Now, 2 years later, she's changed her mind again, and wants him to be her boyfriend. How can she lure him back?
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Is polyamory still cancelled?

Episode #727 — September 29, 2020

Some rando started following a woman on Insta. He confessed that he jerks off to her yoga photos. She told him she would have to charge him a fee for this. He agreed. The question is... how much? A woman Googled her dad. What did she find? She found videos of women in bathing suits. If you Googled her dad, you would see this. Should she tell her dad? Good lord, how? On the Magnum, let's talk about anal prolapse, shall we? Because it's so sexy! Tristan Taormino, author of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, talks about ways to mitigate this common problem. She and Dan also revisit the question of whether polyamory is cancelled in the time of Covid-19. And, when you think your mom is cool with you being gay, but then re-posts some Trumpy nonsense, should you try to educate her?
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Ask a Mortician!

Episode #725 — September 15, 2020

A woman was babysitting her neighbor's 3 year-old daughter. The girl took her clothes off and started touching herself. Should the caller say something to the parents? Is this behavior a red flag for abuse? Or is this just how the 3 year-olds roll? A man with a very girthy penis can't come without extended penis-in-vagina action. But sometimes his ladies can't handle it. He started faking his orgasms. Any other solutions here? On the Magnum version of the show, Caitlin Doughty (host of Ask a Mortician on YouTube,) is on to discuss how the pandemic is changing the way we handle funerals, grieving and possible positive changes in the death industry. She is the most charming goth mortician you'll ever encounter. And, in the response calls, our ever-pragmatic listeners offer great suggestions on how to make a bed work for three people.
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It's not easy being poly...

Episode #708 — May 19, 2020

A married man is sick of his military husband being overseas all the time. How can they make their chronically long-distance relationship work? Ok, here's something you've all wondered: how do you get rid of sex dolls? Are they too toxic for the landfill? Is there a market for "gently used?" On the Magnum, how are the poly people supposed to do their poly thing, right now? Dan chats with Diana Adams, a lawyer and mediator who specializes in LGBTQ and polyamorous families. Is there a polite, non-confrontational, and effective way to ask a lover to delete your nudes? You know, before things get bad?
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The Epidemiologist and the Avenger.

Episode #705 — April 28, 2020

Hear the tale of the Garden Wanker, or "What Really Happens in the Asparagus Patch." Dr. Bummer is back! Our epidemiologist pal Dr. Daniel Westreich has returned to talk about the state of the pandemic, how the physical distancing is working, and to mull over the possibility that this could be an opportunity to eliminate ALL STIs. We can dream. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Katelyn Bowden, founder of the BadAss Army- a group that fights for victims of revenge porn. And, we end with a heartwarming coming-out story from a woman who recorded a video for her family and sent it out via group chat. Their response...may shock you. Remember: Not everyone is totally awful.
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With America's Sweetheart, Erin Gibson!

Episode #703 — April 14, 2020

We open with a quarantine sex story, in which a woman's boyfriend pulls on one of her dresses, and things get even better from there. A woman in a poly relationship knows she has to end things soon with her primary partner. So, naturally, she started sleeping with her roommate. Is it time to pull the plug? During these terrible times? How? At long last, it's the guest we've all been waiting for. Feminist comedic genius Erin Gibson, co-host of the Throwing Shade podcast and author of Feminasty: The Complicated Woman’s Guide to Surviving the Patriarchy without Drinking Herself to Death is on to answer some questions, and keep us all company in quarantine. A NYC sex worker who specializes in latex, wonders if it would be safe for her to keep seeing clients in person if she wore a high quality gas mask.
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Spanking is for grownups. With Jillian Keenan.

Episode #694 — February 11, 2020

A young man has been dating a woman for a short time. She seems great...except. Except she is anti-abortion, and anti-gay in a lazy, not very heartfelt sort of way. Can he use his sex powers to change her feeble mind? Meanwhile, a woman is dating a guy also for a short time. He told her that if he got her pregnant, he would insist that she keep the child instead of have an abortion. Should she, maybe, dump him immediately? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the writer Jillian Keenan about spanking: It's for grown-ups only please. They discuss the origins of a spanking fetish and whether corporal punishment as a child seeps into an adult's erotic imagination. A married man with a religious upbringing feels shame and guilt about masturbating. His wife contributes to this mindset. His marriage is sexless and even his urologist agrees that he needs to ejaculate already. How can he learn to wank with pride? Shame and guilt. Keeping us in business since 2006. 206-302-2064 or voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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