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The sordid history of STDs. With Ina Park.

Episode #770 — July 27, 2021

A nice bi man just wanted to join a nudist community and hang out with his nudist homies, not wearing any clothes and being naked. He certainly DID NOT want to be ogled or groped by the creepy leader of the group. So now what? Should he try to oust the creep, give up on the group, or return and try to avoid him? A woman learned that her boyfriend has been leading a secret double life. Have you ever led a secret double life? Well! This man's secret double life involves an online dom commanding him to crawl around like a dog and urinate in the home's cups and cookware. So. Your secret double life seems a little less "edgy" now doesn't it? Dan's advice...may shock you. On the Magnum, learn about the sordid, gnarly history of sexually transmitted diseases. Dan interviews Professor Ina Park about her book Strange Bedfellows: Adventures in the Science, History, and Surprising Secrets of STDs. Oh, the things you will learn! Finally, hey listeners! A little help? Let's all put our heads together and a find a way to convince this caller to let his fiancé peg his ass already. 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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Yes, Vasectomies Are Safe.

Episode #762 — June 1, 2021

Dan! Dan! My dildos melted together in the drawer! Horrifically, this is not uncommon if you buy cheap-ass sex toys. A gay man is establishing a potentially great friends-with-benefits relationship. The problem? The guy won't stop sending him stupid little memes all the damn day long. How can our caller put an end to this childish behavior? Over on the Magnum, a Nervous Norman is worried about possible harm that could come to his willy if he got a vasectomy. Reassurance arrives in the form of Dr. Tobias Kohler from the Mayo Clinic. He and Dan discuss the safety of this utterly routine procedure. And because this is the Savage Lovecast, Dan blindsides him with a question about smashing balls. And, can you cuddle? Can you platonically cuddle? Can you platonically cuddle with a conservative Catholic when you are a liberal Jew? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com Keep it under 3 minutes, ya'll.
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Psychedelics for the Win!

Episode #760 — May 18, 2021

Boundaries are hard! For instance, a married couple of 12 years decided to open the relationship. So naturally, she started sleeping with her husbands brother in their own house. Of course. And! If you knocked on the door, and your kid confessed that they were masturbating, would you A) Mutter, "Sorry!" and walk away. B) Walk in and chuckle at the site of their underpants. C) Run screaming from the building. You'll have to listen to learn what this lady did. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Alan Davis, who studies the effects of psychedelic mushrooms on depression. It turns out magic mushrooms might just help with mental health in the long term. (The tech-savvy- at-risk youth could have told you that.) And, Dan deconstructs the difference between appreciating the beauty of Asian people and having an Asian fetish.
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With Big Mouth's Nick Kroll!

Episode #753 — March 30, 2021

Let the swooning begin. Dan brings on one of his heroes, comedian Nick Kroll to answer some questions and to talk about his show Big Mouth. They chat about meeting sleazy, pre-teen masturbation, dating while famous and many other things. We love Nick Kroll, and so do you. Some of the interview is on the Micro version and all of it is on the Magnum. Have you ever been eaten out while on acid? The caller in our opening sexcess story heartily recommends it. A male erotic massage therapist has only had one client this year. When, oh when are we allowed to have sex again? Finally, an obedient gay rights ally asks if he is permitted to use the term "butt hurt."
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Jon Ronson on porn and cancel culture.

Episode #746 — February 9, 2021

In the intro: You wanted to hear what Dan Savage thinks of the Armie Hammer scandal? Now he will tell you. A sugar baby had been seeing a married man for 2 years, when they fell in love. Now that there's nothing transactional going on, is it less ethical? Finally! Dan Savage deconstructs drag. Are we allowed to enjoy it? (Spoiler: Yes, yes we are.) On the Magnum, all hail Jon Ronson! The author of The Psychopath Test, The Butterfly Effect and many other works in various media, is on to help Dan sling advice. They tackle subjects in Ronson's wheelhouse- cancel culture, porn, and Trumpy acquaintances. And, a complicated polyamory quandary rears its head. A woman with a husband and a boyfriend has been invited to a wedding. Her boyfriend is also invited, but NOT her husband. And the boyfriend's girlfriend is also NOT invited. THERE WILL BE FEELINGS. 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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With comedian London Hughes.

Episode #745 — February 2, 2021

Sure, sure. He's a good boyfriend...during a pandemic. But when the covid glasses come off, will he still be right for her? After 20 years of marriage, a woman finally understands that she is asexual. She wants nothing of sex, whatsoever. She would love for him to get laid outside of their relationship, but he's an introvert, and not inclined to open their marriage. And if he found a woman to have sex with, would he leave her? On the Magnum, degenerate homosexual Dan Savage teaches potty-mouthed comedian London Hughes all about anal sex! And, they discover that they share a super-power. Listen in. Finally, what is the purpose of using a cock ring around the scrotum? After you listen to this show, you will know the answer.
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Breakup Bootcamp with Amy Chan

Episode #736 — December 1, 2020

A woman is worried because her boyfriend claims he doesn't have any kinks. Is he covering something up? HOW CAN HE NOT HAVE ANY KINKS? A straight man enjoys photoshopping the heads of his female friends over naked bodies. He then deletes his masterpieces. Is this wrong? Should he feel bad? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Amy Chan of the Breakup Bootcamp, about how to recognize recurring patterns we go through when we break up over and over again. And, a caller wonders if the American flag must go the way of the Hitler mustache.
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With disabilities expert Andrew Gurza.

Episode #730 — October 20, 2020

A woman is considering becoming a 24/7 slave for a man in a don't-ask-don't-tell relationship with his wife. But maybe he's just cheating on the wife? How can you be sure? Over a decade ago, a woman was in an abusive relationship. He went too far and they broke up. He has been apologizing ever since. Now that she has forgiven him, she wants to connect with him again. Should she? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with disabilities activist Andrew Gurza about some very inappropriate PDA in a park by folks with cognitive delay. He also unveils his new line of sex toys by and for disabled people. And, is it an acceptable move to guide a woman's hand down to your dick when you are making out? Check out Handi at www.thatshandi.co and, pre-order the book here: https://thatshandi.co/collections/pre-order
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With Cory Doctorow

Episode #729 — October 13, 2020

A woman's friend is acting like a damn fool. Again. She plans to travel across the country to meet a man she met online, without even having spoken to him on the phone. Is she getting catfished? Who knows? Should the caller try to talk her gullible, sensitive friend out of this recklessness? An erotic dancer feels guilty when her customers fall in love with her. Is she leading them on? On the Magnum, Dan welcomes back writer and digital rights activist Cory Doctorow. They discuss the appeal of conspiracy theories, Joe Biden, and texting expectations among many other things. And, a man and his long term girlfriend have mis-matched libidos. He is poly and horny. She is asexual. They are about to adopt her cousins and raise them together. So now would be a difficult time to begin a relationship with a dear friend of theirs, right? Maybe, maybe not. It's always so complicated! 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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Cuckolding with Venus

Episode #722 — August 25, 2020

A woman started dating a transman. But then his personality completely changed. I this just a trans thing? Or a coincidence? A verse dyke working as a nanny in an uptight conservative community can't find any other lesbians. She's so horny she would settle for a man. But how can she find someone willing to be her "walking dildo?" On the Magnum, a deep dive into cuckolding, with the utterly charming Venus from the Venus Cuckoldress Podcast. What drives a man to be turned on watching his partner get together with other men? What's in it for the woman? It's a wild, wild world and Venus takes us through it. And blechhhh! Her man douses himself in cologne. She HATES the smell of cologne. (Don't we all?) He knows this, and still pours buckets of expensive chemicals on himself to mask his natural, lovely body scent. Why? Why do they do this? Our caller is worried about hurting his feelings. So she sits there and suffers. If you smell something, say something. 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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