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Kink by Gender, with Dr. Justin Lehmiller.

Episode #673 — September 17, 2019

A married woman has just hosted her mother-in-law in their small apartment. After seeing her husband and his mother interact, she just doesn't fell like having any sex at all. How can she clear out the in-law vibes? Morning! A woman emerges from sleep in the full throes of an orgasm. But her dream was mundane and not even close to sexy. What in god's name is going on here? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Lehmiller of the Kinsey Institute about whether men and women are equally kinky. And, a young man wants to ask out a bunch of women at work. What is the best approach? 206-302-2064
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Get On Your Knees!

Episode #668 — August 13, 2019

A man keeps sending his female friends sexual texts and pics, later apologizing saying it was a mistake and sent to the wrong person. Both our caller, and podcast host know better. A man's husband will sometimes wake in the middle of the night and have wild, uninhibited sex. Then he forgets it happened in the morning. Is it wrong for the caller to enjoy these midnight romps? On the Magnum, Dan chats about one of his favorite subjects: blow jobs- with comedian Jacqueline Novak. And, a bi man's 16 year-old son has come out as bi as well. Naturally, the dad wants to buy his son some anal sex toys. But maybe he should hold off a bit?
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Is it common for straight men to be "secretly into dick?" Because that's what this woman's boyfriend is. A transwoman got together with a guy in a dungeon. But she forgot to tell him that she is trans. Her lover told her it would be wise to reveal this detail early on. Should she? Must she? On the Magnum, a middle-aged woman is too damn horny. Dan brings on the ever-helpful Dr. Debby Herbenick to see if there's a medical cause or source of relief. And, a "poly-minded" man is only poly-minded when he's the one who gets to shtup other people. He's aware of the hypocrisy. How can he get over it?
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It's the One-Minute Wonder Show!

Episode #662 — July 2, 2019

That's right. Your calls were one minute or less. Dan's answers were 2 minutes or less. We blasted through so much, it feels like a blur. Blowing air in vaginas, toxic Drag Race fans, squirting cleanup, anal skin tags, finding that clit, how to avoid getting things stuck up your butt, jizz enemas, micro infidelities, orgasm farts, figging, Gallagher, sounding- this is just a fraction of the rich content you'll hear today. We are all exhausted, actually. 206-302-2064
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With Eric Leue from the Free Speech Coalition.

Episode #642 — February 12, 2019

A woman makes twice as much as her boyfriend. When he learned this his eyes went wide. Now she feels guilty. Should she start paying more of the bills? Do you like piña coladas? A kinky woman started dating a new man. Before she could tell him about her kinks she discovered that the dude she's been talking dirty with on Fetlife is THE SAME GUY, but he doesn't know it yet. How can she tell him that they are already...acquainted? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Eric Leue from the Free Speech Coalition about the rise of sex censorship on the internet. Then Eric stayed on to help Dan answer some questions about using dom/sub sex to relieve anxiety, inhibiting your gag reflex, and straight bartenders in gay bars. 206-302-2064
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With Stormy Daniels!

Episode #631 — November 27, 2018

Well looky who blew into town! Stormy Daniels came on over to our studio to answer callers' questions about blow jobs, toxic men, protecting the male ego and other hazards. Stormy and Dan got on like a house on fire, and you must listen to it. A couple questions are on the Micro version and many more are on the Magnum. Also, how to get used to using "they/them" pronouns, and how to explain the Black Lives Matter movement to your clueless, idiotic relatives. 206-302-2064
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Are Sugar Babies Sex Workers?

Episode #623 — October 2, 2018

A married couple's teen daughter gets super-irritated when her parents have noisy sex. She sends them snarky texts imploring them to stop. Maybe she includes an eye-rolling emoji or a throwing-up kitten or some such teenaged thing. The dad in this couple doesn't want to "break her." What does Dan Savage have to say? Our guest this week, (on the Micro! You're welcome!) is Brook Urick of Seeking.com- a site where sugar babies can meet their ideal sugar daddy. Hooray! But is this relationship by nature commodified? Is it sex work? Dan and Brook don't see eye to eye on this one. On the Magnum, an out bi guy keeps getting rejected by women once they learn he's bi. Are there any women out there who can handle it? And, a ridiculous sitcom comes to life, when a woman AND HER FRIEND have both set up dates WITH THE SAME GUY.
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With Lizz Winstead of The Daily Show!

Episode #622 — September 25, 2018

Parents, hear this cautionary tale: A man has been in his loving, kinky, poly marriage for 21 years. His wife accidentally clicked the wrong button and synched up her super gnarly BDSM pics onto her 9 year-old daughter's phone. So now there's some 'splaining to do. A woman lives in an apartment building in NYC. At first, her neighbor appeared to be really nice! Then he started sending her dick pics with his infant in the background. On the Magnum: "Honey? What would you like for your birthday?" This innocent question, asked by a 70 year old woman of her 80 year-old husband was answered thusly: "Why, I would like 2 Asian ladies to bath me, please." (We added the "please" in this reenactment.) Godsmacked, Dan enlists the help of comedian, writer and creator of The Daily Show Lizz Winstead to help answer. And, Dan counsels a miserable man, who is still heartbroken 6 months after being vaguely, but gently dumped by a woman he had enjoyed three dates with. (We considered playing a sad violin underneath his call, but Dan wouldn't let us.)
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Second Opinion with Hola Papi!

Episode #621 — September 18, 2018

A woman enjoys anonymous webcamming with older men. But do they cross a line when they both pretend that she's... very young? A poly father doesn't know how to explain his healthy, happy relationships to his 5 year old daughter. On the Magnum, Dan enlists JP Brammer, author of the "Hola Papi" advice column to talk about interracial dating and to take down a personal trainer/tease. And, a guy with a girlfriend is sick of everyone asking when they're going to have kids. They don't want kids. What is wrong with people? 206-302-2064
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Where do kinks come from?

Episode #608 — June 19, 2018

A woman had offered an Amazon delivery guy a drink of water in her house, and gave him her phone number. One year later he started sending her nasty messages and dick pics. Should she report him to his employer? Call the cops? A divorced man's 13 year-old daughter came out to him as a "homo-romantic asexual." Should he tell her conservative Christian mother? Also, is this just a phase? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Phd student Sam Hughes about his work exploring why some people are kinky. And, hear the tale of the lice-ridden, bed bugs-carryin', panty-free hippy chick.
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