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The Sex Robots are Coming!!!

Episode #526 — November 22, 2016

Here's a happily married couple. He digs exhibitionism, which she indulged after taking a deep breath. She wants to try BDSM, but he isn't having it. Is it her right to demand it, and what's his god damn problem? A married woman likes to be fashionable and step out looking GOOD. But guess what! Her husband, wishes she would wear jeans and a grubby tee so all the men will stop looking at her. Dan wants to help her pick out a smart outfit for divorce court. On the Magnum, make way for the robots! Google's (human- we assume) head of machine intelligence, Blaise Agüera y Arcas, talks about the inevitable arrival of sex robots, along with the ethical challenges we'll all face. Hello Westworld! And, a woman with a boyfriend of one year, wonders if he'll present her with a ring during their upcoming trip to Paris. Oh! Oh, how she hopes he will!
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Dan's response to the Orlando massacre.

Episode #503 — June 14, 2016

Please listen to Dan's response to the Orlando massacre. In lighter fare... A 19 year-old bi lass worries that she’ll never get to try ladies if she stays with her monogamous-minded man…forever. Is there any hope for her? A man is about to meet a woman he’s been having phone sex with for the first time. Where he just wants to “bone down,” she’s been talking about moving to his town to start a relationship. How can he proceed with caution in this delicate situation? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Vocative writer Tracy Clark-Flory about the plight of the virtuous pedophile. Also, a man is considering sex work. So long as he keeps himself safe, is this a good idea? Dan chats with sex worker and sex worker’s rights activist Mike Crawford. 206-302-2064
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The tricky question of how to treat pedophiles.

Episode #472 — November 10, 2015

Hear the sordid tale of what the gay man saw when he woke up to find his boyfriend absent from the guest bed while they were visiting a …friend. Meanwhile in another corner of the cheat-o-verse, a man sees his best friend’s girlfriend on a daitng app. He thought they were monogamous. Should he rat her out to his pal? On the Magnum, Dan brings on a couple of guests. Debra Soh is a writer whose latest article in Salon ruffled some feathers. She wrote about our dysfunctional approach to treating pedophiles and the people started freaking. And, Dan brings on OB/GYN and writer Dr. Jen Gunter to discuss abortion and concept of a “little soul.” Do you have a family? Do you want to ask a question about them? Call us! 206-302-2064
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Premature ejaculation: You needn't freak out.

Episode #396 — May 27, 2014

A woman notices that her gay friend is dating younger and younger guys. At what point does young become too young? A bisexual woman feels stifled in her marriage because she misses ladies. Does this spell inevitable ruin? On the Magnum, Dan and Dr. Debby Herbenick discuss premature ejaculation and why it doesn't have to be the end of the world. Also, a public service announcement from a miffed college professor. And more...
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In our first installment of "Second Opinion," Dan and Slate's "Dear Prudence" face off on how to deal with poisonous in-laws, and how much to tip when you receive an unexpected happy ending. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Paul Vasey about feeders, and whether it's possible to re-wire your kinky brain. And so much more.
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What are lesbians- chamomile tea?

Episode #337 — April 9, 2013

A woman caring for her father with dementia discovers that he is a pedophile, though she thinks he never acts on his desires. Should she tell her mom? The nurses in his house? A man needs to think about lesbian relationships before he can nod off to sleep. What are lesbians- chamomile tea? Ken Cuccinelli: What does his name *really* mean? You're gonna tell us. 206-201-2720
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There's a lot of cheating in this episode. Through the miracle of audio, you'll experience the world through the eyes of a former cheater, an aspiring temptress and the judgmental sister of a home-wrecker.  And just to make sure you feel some feelings, Dan's rant is about guns. And there's a self-loathing pedophile in here too.  Call us up.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage  Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.
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A woman gets paid to dress up like a superhero and roll around in bed. Nothing sexual. Is she obligated to tell her boyfriend about this revenue stream? A 40-year-old man is dating a 20-year-old man who was a friend of his kids from a previous marriage. Is it just one of love's many whims or is he the mayor of Creepytown? And hear a cautionary tale of lies, passion, and extortion on Grindr. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.
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Dan speaks with Dr. James Cantor, professor of Psychiatry at the University of Toronto, about pedophilia. What the hell can be done?  Also, Science weighs in on the mysterious case of the mushroom in the jizz.  Happy New Year.  206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast
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What does a neglectful drunk have to do to win his wife back? A man with a doll fetish wonders if his turn-on for the "little girl" look automatically makes him a pedophile. An attractive man with a homely girlfriend wonders if he's missing out by leaving all the world's hotties on the table. And more. 206-201-2720 Hello Randy Marquardt from West Bend K-12! Email ole Randy at rmarquardt@west-bend.k12.wi.us Or give him a friendly jingle at 262-306-2601 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Today's episode is brought to you by Netflix. For a free 30-day trial, go to netflix.com/savage. You can and should comment on this show over at www.thestranger.com/lovecast
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