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The Nanny and the Handyman.

Episode #573 — October 17, 2017

A woman has been monogamous with her boyfriend for 5 years. But she really wants to fuck the Swedish handyman. Should she fuck the Swedish handyman? A white woman and her boyfriend are into the whole Japanese schoolgirl thing. Is this racist? Is it wrong? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Carsie Blanton, creator of a dirty, nasty, filthy card game that sounds really fun. Check it out at www.thefingtruth.com. And, a divorced man finds he keeps dating women who say they are down for casual relationships, but when push comes to shove, they are really playing "the long game."
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Wonder Woman!

Episode #572 — October 10, 2017

The Kissing Clause: should kissing come standard in a relationship? Dan interviews Angela Robinson, the director of "Professor Marsten and the Wonder Women"- a bio-pic about the poly, Dom/sub, super-freak creator of the Wonder Woman comics. On the Magnum, a woman's male co-worker is getting pimped out against his will by his boyfriend. Dan brings on sex worker rights activist Mistress Matisse to discuss how to support the lad. And, a man in a 7-year triad, fears he will soon be replaced.
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Parents of teens: we feel you.

Episode #566 — August 29, 2017

We start the show with a cavalcade of yucky calls about Nazis! Can a dom command his sub to come? Does this really happen? On the Magnum, Dan answers a bunch of calls from parents of teens with Deb Hauser, President of Advocates for Youth. 206-302-2064
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The science of DTMFA.

Episode #564 — August 15, 2017

A seemingly kind man only gets off when his girlfriend is in pain. She noticed this and plays it up to please him. Don't tell him this, but she isn't in pain. She loves it. But what if her acting skills fail? A woman has started dating a man who travels a lot and has a girlfriend in every city. Should she join his sprawling harem? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Dr. Samantha Joel, in a "What You Got?" about the psychology of what make someone finally decide to end a relationship. And, a woman gets cold easily and likes to wear socks during sex. Her lovers tell her to take them off, because...visuals. Dan enlists science to defend this shivering lass. 206-302-2064
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Dr. Rachel Gelman

Episode #547 — April 18, 2017

A woman's in-laws have 12 cats. They won't travel to see the caller's family (including the 2 small children,) because they can't bear to leave the mewling kitties. Are they mentally ill and is there any way to explain this behavior to the kids? A bondage-loving lass goes to clubs and gets tied up by a strictly platonic tying partner. Her boyfriend is ok with it, but feels a little spooked. How can she reassure him that what she and the tying partner do isn't sex? On the Magnum, it's our first do-over! Dan realized he cocked up the answer to the woman who would lose bladder control when she gave blow jobs. This time, Dan brings in Dr. Rachel Gelman- an actual pelvic health specialist who knows what the hell she's talking about. She lives in the UK, he in the States. He is her dom, and also her cousin. They are deeply closeted about their relationship to family and friends. So, what's the problem? 206-302-2064
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Cannibal Cop

Episode #543 — March 21, 2017

A woman's father is planning to go to Russia to fetch his new mail-order bride. How can the caller convince her delusional father that this is not such a good idea? Hear the sordid tale of the Ambien-befuddled, drunky, but also kind of hot step-mother who came on to her step-son in a most aggressive and lascivious way. Now that some years have passed should the caller seek redress? On the Magnum, remember the "Cannibal Cop?" He was the NYPD cop who chatted with his buddies about plans to kidnap, kill and eat ladies. And now he's an author! Dan interviews co-author Brian Whitney about the book, and the...unsavory issues it raises. A woman is dating a man who is so jealous that he insisted that she get rid of her bed, sheets, pillows- everything associated with a previous lover. And guess what? She did it! 206-302-2064
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With Lindsey Doe from "Sexplanations."

Episode #541 — March 7, 2017

Are you, (or is someone you love) stuck in a region which refuses to teach realistic sex ed? Never fear, Lindsey Doe from the YouTube channel "Sexplanations" is here to infiltrate and educate. She's our new fave, and you will love her. She and Dan talk about explaining porn to kids, nudist households, and actionable advice to counter meds that dampen libido. Listen to this interview and then go watch all of her videos. Like, right now. What happens when a sugar daddy relationship ends? Can you go on being friends? Or are some connections meant to be severed? On the Magnum, a woman, (like Dan) kind of hates cats. And guess what her boyfriend has! He lets it sleep with him, doesn't wash his hands after petting it, and won't alter this behavior. Dan's disgust is palpable. (The tech-savvy at-risk youth didn't have the heart to explain that we all sleep and cuddle with our cats on the regular. Don't tell him!) 206-302-2064
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The Neuroscience of Orgasm

Episode #538 — February 14, 2017

A couple tricky pregnancy situations on this show: A newly pregnant woman has discovered that her boyfriend snoops through her personal stuff with no apology. Should she dump him and embrace single motherhood? Our other pregnant woman misjudged the timing, and now has the unenviable duty of telling her current boyfriend that he is probably not the father. Bummer right? On the Magnum, Dan chats with researcher Adam Safron for a "What You Got?" about the neuroscience of female orgasm. Finally, welcome to the SIGN WARS. A liberal woman put up Hillary Clinton signs. Her right wing neighbor put up Trump signs. It escalated until the election. Now that we are where we are, should she take down her signs already? 206-302-2064
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Poly Life with Cunning Minx

Episode #537 — February 7, 2017

A man's girlfriend moved to NYC to become a ballerina. But instead she's been boozing and eating food! Is it his place to tell her that ballerinas don't actually, you know, eat? A transwoman has moved heaven and earth to get herself through college, despite her parents cutting her off. But then! Her school sent their choir to sing at You Know Who's inauguration. She's considering dropping out in protest. Don't worry, Dan talks her out of it. On the Magnum, welcome to Poly Land! Dan chats with Cunning Minx, from the Polyamory Weekly podcast about the joys and pitfalls of poly living, complete with strategies for keeping your head together. If you are curious about how the poly folk get all their loving done, then be sure to tune in. Also, a woman is horrified to discover that her new boyfriend is pathologically messy. 206-302-2064
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Lesbians and Syrian Refugees

Episode #536 — January 31, 2017

A married Canadian lesbian is about to meet the Syrian refugees that her parents are hosting. But she worries that they will not approve of gay people. How should she present herself and her wife to these traumatized people from a different culture? A woman gets strep throat every time she gives head. What the hell? On the Magnum, a gay man's mother keeps expecting him to go back in the closet when he visits with relatives. How can he train his mother to act like a decent human being? A poly woman had kinky sex with her dom boyfriend. But the boyfriend has a wife and he tells her EVERYTHING. How can the caller maintain some privacy in her new poly world? 206-302-2064
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