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Is there a urologist in the house?

Episode #627 — October 30, 2018

A sugar baby has fallen in love with her sugar daddy. He loves her too! Except, he kind of doesn't want her to meet his actual daughter. Does she have the right to demand it? A coach at a college has been asked to drive one of her students to get an abortion. Because of where they live, it will take 4 hours. Should she do it? Welcome to America. On the Magnum, things get a little gnarly with our urologist pal, Dr. Stephen King. How many times you can handle hearing the words "dorsal slit" being said without squirming just a little? And, a dad is concerned that his 10 year-old daughter wants to compete for the center position on her co-ed football team. With those boys reaching down there to do whatever it is they do in football...poor dad. 206-302-2064 Thanks to Audible for supporting the Savage Lovecast. For a free audiobook with a 30-day free trial, go to audible.com/savage or text savage to 500-500. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for up to $55 Free postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial.
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With Justin Lehmiller & Parker Molloy

Episode #626 — October 23, 2018

In the intro, Dan and blogger/trans rights activist Parker Molloy fume over 45's latest anti-trans bluster. A straight man who is apparently just learning some basic facts about our world, wants to know: Do gays ever get divorced? On the Magnum, things get a bit more complicated. Dan interviews Dr. Justin Lehmiller, author of "Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life.” They discuss the origins of kinks, and if you can shut them off if they bum you out. Finally, a woman is majorly skeezed whenever she thinks about the existence of incest porn. She just can't go there. Dan's suggestion? ***SPOILER*** Don't go there.
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Bad Blood

Episode #620 — September 11, 2018

A young woman's boyfriend regularly gets her sexually aroused and then rolls over and goes to sleep without finishing the job. And then they fight. Why would he do this? A young gay man doesn't understand why his fuckbuddy only texts him when he wants to...well, fuck. On the Magnum: If you are a gay man, and want to give blood, you're out of luck. Blood centers do not accept blood donations from gay men. Is this based on science or stigma? It's a little of both, as it turns out in this discussion with Dr. Nick Cuneo, a physician at Harvard who has written about the subject. And, remember that scene in Purple Rain where a woman gets thrown into a dumpster? We are very sad to report that it happens in real life too.
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Sub Drop

Episode #615 — August 7, 2018

A woman keeps dating men who hide her and won't acknowledge that she exists on social media. What on earth is going on here? A woman knows that her personal trainer is a Christian. But is he the good kind or the bad kind? Should she find out before she continues her patronage? On the Magnum version, Amp from "Watt's the Safeword" is on to explain and discuss the phenomenon of "sub drop" in pornography and in the wild. And, what it really means when you're attracted to Wonder Woman.
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A poly deep dive...

Episode #611 — July 10, 2018

A liberal, PC, feminist, woke man loves to humiliate, slap and call women sluts in the bedroom. (Always consensually.) How can he reconcile the two opposing sides of his personality? A woman and her husband have befriended another family in their new town. The couple revealed that the man is a transman, and that she should ask any questions she wants to. But the caller clammed up and didn't ask. Is it too late to ask about them? How can she learn about the trans experience without offending? In a heavy call, a man relays the tale of how he shoved his girlfriend in a jealous rage. Now that the relationship is over, he wants to make sure he never does anything like that again. How can he keep himself from being "that guy?" On the Magnum: Ready for a polyamory deep dive? Dan interviews Sophie Lucido Johnson, author of Many Love: A Memoir of Polyamory and Finding Love(s).
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Is porn getting more and more violent?

Episode #609 — June 26, 2018

A woman's boss did something so nasty that she successfully prosecuted him and got him on the sex offender registry. But how can she get a new job with such an uncomfortable story to tell about her last one? Dan brings on Rob Walker, a.k.a. The Workologist from the New York Times to strategize. A skinny, insecure gay dude likes big muscle men. But he can't understand why they like him. On the Magnum, Dan interviews sociologist Eran Shor about his work analyzing pornography and whether it is getting more and more violent. And, a caller asks Dan to write his wedding speech. Dan has a better idea.
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Erotica by and for women? Yes please...

Episode #604 — May 22, 2018

A 60 year-old man has been dating a woman for 4 months. He wishes she would lose some weight. Oh, and also? She lost her breasts to cancer. Does he have the right to ask her to get a boob job too? Sidle up, dear listener, and hear the tale of the woman, her much older boyfriend, and...and her boyfriend's...son? After hearing this, one of the tech-savvy at-risk youth had to take a walk around the block. But fearlessly, we continue! On the Magnum, Dan interviews Inka, the creator of ForPlay Films: Erotica made by women, for women. And somehow Dan convinced Nancy to talk about sex during a woman's "moon time." This show is a banger. 206-302-2064.
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A woman went on a date, and everything went so well. Until...he disappeared without a trace. Did this man truly turn into a ghost? Dan calls her back and gets the full story. On the Magnum, for a "What You Got?" Dan chats with Kristen Mark on how to maintain sexual desire in long term relationships. And, a woman's husband suffered an injury that he is slowly recovering from. But it has wreaked havoc on their sex life. How can they get back to the good times? This "In sickness and in health" stuff is hard!
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Robotic pornographers with Erika Lust.

Episode #589 — February 6, 2018

A female college student is busy planning her orgy. She wants to make sure the night is comfortable, fun and safe, with minimal awkwardness. Dan Savage, (the Martha Stewart of orgy planning,) is here to help. A man's good (female) friend is planning to go on a date with one of his acquaintances. What the man knows, and the friend doesn't is that this date is a transman. Should he tip off his friend ahead of time? Or let it unspool in it's own sweet time? Yikes! The robots are making the porn now! Erotic film director, screenwriter and producer Erika Lust is on to raise the alarm about our dystopian porny future. After a lot of seriously GGG effort, a woman has finally learned to enjoy anal sex. The problem is she comes too fast, and then wants that dick OUTTA THERE before her man can get his orgasm. Dan has some power bottom tips to share. Got real just there didn't it? 206-302-2064
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Luke Burbank is utterly delightful!

Episode #583 — December 26, 2017

A woman struggles to advise her friend who is intolerant of her husband watching a little porn. Hear the dark drama of a gay man who made plans to get tied up by a stranger. All hail Luke Burbank! The clever and kindly host of TBTL and Live Wire Radio demeans himself to discuss open relationships, anal sex as revenge, and the rise of the sex robots. How he manages to keep his dignity intact is a bit of a head-scratcher. Also, a woman is burdened with unwanted cuckold fantasies. Should she purge her brain of them, or try to embrace them? 206-302-2064
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