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He took part in the Moderna vaccine trial, which puts him at the front of the line to get his shot. But he's a young, healthy man who works from home. Should he wait, lest he deny someone who needs it more than him? A woman starting a new relationship used to have an eating disorder that damaged her heart to such an extent that she gets easily winded. What should she say if her new man wants to go mountain climbing? On the Magnum, Dan chats with our favorite lawyer, Diana Adams, about asking your pal to donate his sperm so you and your girlfriend can have a little, bitty baby. Also, they discuss the unholy coupling of poly-minded person with a monogamy-minded person. It's hard! And, a gay man wants an erotic pen-pal relationship like in days of old. Are there any gentlemen out there who would like to use their quills to tickle his fancy?
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Curvy Girl Dating, with Elle Chase.

Episode #735 — November 24, 2020

A man in his 60s is just like a teenager! But in the wrong way- he comes too soon. How can he resolve his little PE problem? After a man's girlfriend came out him (drunkenly) as bi, he realized he is bi too! But now he's jealous of his girlfriend's female exes that she maintains friendships with. He is lost at bisexual sea. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Elle Chase, author of Curvy Girl Sex, about body size issues, and dating as a large woman. And, a woman wonders if she should have pepper-sprayed that guy who asked for directions from his car but really wanted her to watch him touch his wiener. 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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OMG. So. Gay.

Episode #661 — June 25, 2019

Just in time for your pride parade, it's the all gay episode! Calls by, for and about queer people. We got nervous lesbians who are scared to introduce the girlfriend to their moms, we got homos who come too soon, or get spooked by conventionally attractive men. Look! It's a bisexual woman who has never been with a woman before and wants to "scratch the itch" while her boyfriend is out of town. A woman whose trans husband has been outed at work, gay cleaning products...wait. What? Gay cleaning products? On the Magnum, Matthew Riemer, co-author of We Are Everywhere, talks about his work illuminating some of the unsung heroes of gay history. You will raise your fist up high. Happy pride everyone. Keep fighting. 206-302-2064
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With Sex Worker's Rights Advocate Alex Andrews.

Episode #657 — May 28, 2019

Here are the Savage Lovecast we've noticed that we'll get a bunch of calls on a particular subject all at once. This week it was abortion and weddings. A caller asks if we should just sit on our hands and let Alabama and the other states hijacked by their far right politicians reap the political cost of criminalizing abortion. Hear Dan counsel a gay man who is getting married. A straight couple who the caller considered friends revealed that they couldn't come to the wedding because it violates their Biblical principles. (Sounds like 2 less place settings to deal with. Yahtzee!) On the Magnum, Dan interviews Alex Andrews from the great sex workers' rights advocacy group SWOP. They talk about their pen pal program for incarcerated sex workers, and a misguided (at best) piece of legislation coming up in Florida. And hear the tale of the lovelorn lad and The Mooch.
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Parents: You are being JUDGED.

Episode #515 — September 6, 2016

A bi man in a poly triad wonders how to bring home his couple to meet the conservative parents. A woman enjoys following men around for the feeling of "predatory power" the pursuit gives her. Is this a problem? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Professor Barbara Sarnecka, in a "What You Got?" showing how uptight our society is about leaving children alone. The study is HERE. And, while on a trip to NYC, and gay man finds someone he knows from back home on Grindr. When he contacted the friend to say "Hi there!" the friend disappeared and blocked him. Awkward? 206-302-2064
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Premature ejaculation: You needn't freak out.

Episode #396 — May 27, 2014

A woman notices that her gay friend is dating younger and younger guys. At what point does young become too young? A bisexual woman feels stifled in her marriage because she misses ladies. Does this spell inevitable ruin? On the Magnum, Dan and Dr. Debby Herbenick discuss premature ejaculation and why it doesn't have to be the end of the world. Also, a public service announcement from a miffed college professor. And more...
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Well, well, well. What heartwarming tales have we to share on our very special Christmas Lovecast? Why, here's one about the crippling guilt and shame a woman can't shake from her promiscuous past. And look! A lad who snooped on his twin brother's phone discovered naked pictures of his ex-girlfriend! And here we have a gentleman who works up detailed spreadsheets of the qualities he requires from his girlfriends. Kind of like Santa's list, only pathological!   And more about pedophiles. Merry Christmas!    206-201-2720    This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something and be sure to enter EXPLORE2013 at checkout.   This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage 
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Two tales of texting exes: Is obsessive texting a modern way of cheating? Her friend is in a miserable, sexless marriage. Is it wrong to advise her to cheat in order to save the relationship? A betrothed couple have been saving themselves for marriage for religious reasons. But what if they're a lousy match sexually? Would that make God happy? Well would it? Call us at 206-201-2720. This episode was brought to you by Audible.com. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage.
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It's the medical episode! Somehow Dan conned his long-suffering medical expert from the University of Washington to answer your questions. Questions such as "Can I freeze my nipple off?" Some choice quotes: "Drinking menstrual blood is kind of yucky, Dan." "Antidepressants definitely can affect your 'orgasmia.'" Have YOU ever used the word "orgasmia?" You should… Call us up. 206-201-2720
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