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Episode #637 — January 8, 2019

A Jewish woman is bringing her boyfriend to the Hanukkah party. Great, right? But as always, there's a problem. He has a HITLER MUSTACHE. Because he "likes the look." Dan chats with this woman, and you get to listen. A young man's parents discovered kinky sexts on his phone. How can he explain BDSM to his freaked out mom n' pop? On the Magnum, a man is in an open relationship, but his girlfriend doesn't like that he sees sex workers. He just likes it. Should he try to stop? Or keep doing it and lie? Or break up? And Dan counsels a bi woman on how to support her younger gay cousin growing up in a hostile environment, just like she did.
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Using the poly label to cheat, cheat, cheat.

Episode #636 — January 1, 2019

The first call of 2019 is all about public sex. So that's how things are looking. We then move on to a deep, methodical analysis of the life cycle of your vibrator. How long should those things last anyway? On the Magnum, Dan chats with queer sex writer Sophie Saint Thomas about her article in Playboy titled "Are Some People Just Slapping the Poly Label on their Cheating?" We are very sorry to report that the answer is yes, yes they are. And, an anxious sister wants to counsel her 16 year-old brother on his plan to initiate a three-way with a couple of lucky young ladies in his class. Ah to be 16... 206-302-2064
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A man has tried group sex a couple times. But when he shows up his dick doesn't. What is going on here? Oh this story! A girl started seeing her therapist at age 17. At age 19, she confessed to her 45 year-old therapist that she loved him. So, naturally he told her that he loved her back. They married and had a kid. (Really.) Then they divorced. (Of course.) Now, when her kid or friends ask how she met her ex, she doesn't know what to say. What should she say? And how can she process all the disturbing, conflicting emotions? On the Magnum: You little whipper snappers! Why, when I was your age, we were doin' it like bunny rabbits all over the damn place! The youth of today are having less sex. They're even calling it a "sex recession." Kate Julian of The Atlantic is on to discuss her article exploring this unlikely phenomenon. And, a man's wife has been engaging in unauthorized wanking. She didn't fill out the proper forms. 206-302-2064
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Drinking in Moderation?!

Episode #629 — November 13, 2018

Here in Seattle, we have a sportsball team called "The Sounders." On the Savage Lovecast, well, it's another matter altogether. Oh look! It's Nancy, putting the men who fear/refuse vasectomies on blast. Dan's on your side, fellas. Nancy is not. On the Magnum, a caller has hit rock bottom and quit drinking. But he wonders if he can ever have a single beer again. Is it possible to drink in moderation if you're an alcoholic? Dan brings on clinical psychologist (and co-founder of CheckUp & Choices) Dr. Reid Hester to puzzle this one out. And, a heartbreaking, kind-of terrible call from a woman whose son has been convicted of sexual assault discovers "ravishment porn" on her boyfriend's computer. Oh, it is all just such a mess. We have it on good authority that you too, are a mess. 206-302-2064
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Strap it on... with Tristan Taormino!

Episode #628 — November 6, 2018

A woman has been with her fiancé for 4 years. All of a sudden, out of nowhere, he's started moaning and groaning in bed like a porn starlet. Why the sudden vocalizations? IS HE CHEATING ON HER? An asexual, non-binary person feels like an invader when they show up at BDSM parties. Is it alright to join that community when you are uninterested in sex? On the Magnum, we are delighted to welcome back author, sex educator and bitter podcasting rival Tristan Taormino. She and Dan discuss strap-ons, and how to peg your partner real good. Two HIV negative gay men have been together for 5 years. They started acting out role-play scenes where one infects the other. It's been super hot, but the caller is uncomfortable even pretending such a thing. He is old enough to remember the worst days of AIDs. Is this role play ok? Or a thought crime? Do whatchoo wanna. 206-302-2064
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Is there a urologist in the house?

Episode #627 — October 30, 2018

A sugar baby has fallen in love with her sugar daddy. He loves her too! Except, he kind of doesn't want her to meet his actual daughter. Does she have the right to demand it? A coach at a college has been asked to drive one of her students to get an abortion. Because of where they live, it will take 4 hours. Should she do it? Welcome to America. On the Magnum, things get a little gnarly with our urologist pal, Dr. Stephen King. How many times you can handle hearing the words "dorsal slit" being said without squirming just a little? And, a dad is concerned that his 10 year-old daughter wants to compete for the center position on her co-ed football team. With those boys reaching down there to do whatever it is they do in football...poor dad. 206-302-2064 Thanks to Audible for supporting the Savage Lovecast. For a free audiobook with a 30-day free trial, go to audible.com/savage or text savage to 500-500. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for up to $55 Free postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial.
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Ok Seriously. What is up with Adult Babies?

Episode #624 — October 9, 2018

If you found out that your gal pal in her 20s had a hook up with a 17 year-old lad, would you call the cops on her? Should you? Ok, seriously. What is up with adult babies? Dan interviews Lo, of the Dream a Little podcast exploring the relationships between folks who get off on this kind of role play. We suspect you will emerge enlightened. A woman uses the tried and true "pillow humping" technique when she masturbates. Her boyfriend wants her to film it so he can watch. But will he be turned off? Disgusted? Alarmed? And, a woman learned that her monogamous boyfriend has been spending his precious time and money at legal brothels. This broke all the rules. How should she deal with this?
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Pineapples!

Episode #616 — August 14, 2018

Come hear the sordid tale of the couple who invited a woman over, only to have her wet the bed so thoroughly that she soaked right through to the mattress. Bad unicorn! Erika Moen of "Oh Joy Sex Toy?" is on to review her husband's fave new toy. What could it be? On the Magnum, a woman dislikes her parters the instant she has sex with them. How can she yank out that bad wiring? And, pineapples. They are laden with meaning.
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With Sunny and Ken from the American Sex Podcast.

Episode #600 — April 24, 2018

You guys? We've been making this podcast for 600 episodes. How do we celebrate? By talking about pee pee! A woman who is about to get married is having a total freak-out affair! She's been seeing her lover for only 3 months, but she's convinced it's true love. Should she call off the wedding? A woman spontaneously comes whenever she sits in a sauna. Why Dan, why??!! Dan chats with the charming and super-freaky Sunny Megatron & Ken Melvoin-Berg-- sexuality educators, hosts of American Sex Podcast, and creators of the Sex with Sunny Megatron TV series on Showtime. Clown orgies? Check. Piss Play? Most definitely. Beet juice? Yes, beet juice. And, is it damaging to tell a newlywed couple to "have sex every day?"
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A man is enjoying his new cool girlfriend. The thing is? She isn't an insane lunatic like his other girlfriends. Is this a problem? Oh man. This one's good. Should a woman accept her ex's offer to give his KIDNEY to her desperately ill father? Will there be strings attached? Oh my god? On the Magnum, Dan chats with stand-up comedian Cameron Esposito. And, a woman had some awesome group sex at an Air BnB. The owner gave her a very public negative review. Was she sex-shamed? Should she be more discreet next time?
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