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Drinking in Moderation?!

Episode #629 — November 13, 2018

Here in Seattle, we have a sportsball team called "The Sounders." On the Savage Lovecast, well, it's another matter altogether. Oh look! It's Nancy, putting the men who fear/refuse vasectomies on blast. Dan's on your side, fellas. Nancy is not. On the Magnum, a caller has hit rock bottom and quit drinking. But he wonders if he can ever have a single beer again. Is it possible to drink in moderation if you're an alcoholic? Dan brings on clinical psychologist (and co-founder of CheckUp & Choices) Dr. Reid Hester to puzzle this one out. And, a heartbreaking, kind-of terrible call from a woman whose son has been convicted of sexual assault discovers "ravishment porn" on her boyfriend's computer. Oh, it is all just such a mess. We have it on good authority that you too, are a mess. 206-302-2064
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Where do kinks come from?

Episode #608 — June 19, 2018

A woman had offered an Amazon delivery guy a drink of water in her house, and gave him her phone number. One year later he started sending her nasty messages and dick pics. Should she report him to his employer? Call the cops? A divorced man's 13 year-old daughter came out to him as a "homo-romantic asexual." Should he tell her conservative Christian mother? Also, is this just a phase? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Phd student Sam Hughes about his work exploring why some people are kinky. And, hear the tale of the lice-ridden, bed bugs-carryin', panty-free hippy chick.
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Erotica by and for women? Yes please...

Episode #604 — May 22, 2018

A 60 year-old man has been dating a woman for 4 months. He wishes she would lose some weight. Oh, and also? She lost her breasts to cancer. Does he have the right to ask her to get a boob job too? Sidle up, dear listener, and hear the tale of the woman, her much older boyfriend, and...and her boyfriend's...son? After hearing this, one of the tech-savvy at-risk youth had to take a walk around the block. But fearlessly, we continue! On the Magnum, Dan interviews Inka, the creator of ForPlay Films: Erotica made by women, for women. And somehow Dan convinced Nancy to talk about sex during a woman's "moon time." This show is a banger. 206-302-2064.
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2014 is looking just as pervy as 2013.

Episode #375 — December 31, 2013

A gal is convinced her good friend is a homo. Should she use her wiles to lure him out of the closet? A lad is good friends with a woman who admitted she has a crush on him. He doesn't feel the same way about her, but knows she would make a great life partner. Should he suggest a companionate marriage from the get-go? On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with psychologist and sex researcher Dr. Lori Brotto about women's libido, and the need for variety in both genders. Also, some loud neighbors were either acting out a rape scenario, or an actual rape was taking place. Would you call the cops? Or would you just call us?
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Paging Miss Manners! A man's mother detests his wife's mother so much, that she wants to exclude her from the baby shower. How can he tip-toe his way through this field of turds?  A woman very much wants to pursue amorous relations with a hot fireman. But she has insider information suggesting he might be a dick-head. Should she throw caution to the wind?  Hear mighty Dan Savage blush like a schoolboy at theater camp as he interviews the swoon-worthy Andrew Rannells from Book of Mormon. And some super-sad stuff too.  206-201-2720 People! We need more tales of creepy sex, vampires you've dated, methy zombies and other blood curdling encounters. Our Halloween show is fast approaching.   This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something by October 14, 2012 and you just might win $500. Be sure to enter GGG500 at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage 
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Do you know what a "'bater" is? A 'bater only wants to masturbate. No sex. Now, now would a relationship between a 'bater and a sex-loving fella work out, you think?  A bride-to-be enlists Dan's advice on how to bring her rape fantasy to life on their honeymoon.  A woman has sex-crippling vaginal pain. Dan speaks with human sexuality expert Dr. Debby Herbenick on what she can do.  And more.  206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.  Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast
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Dan counsels a very GGG woman on how she can lovingly kick her boyfriend in the nuts.   Rape scenarios are tricky, aren't they? You have to plan and communicate clearly, or you might end up in jail. But does it kill the sexy to say, "Okay, honey, I'll rape you next Tuesday"?   And "Miss Manners" Savage has the solution for how to send the third in your three-way off to the guest bed.   Is there nothing Dan Savage can't solve? 206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by Xandria.com. Enter the code “SAVAGE” and get 20% off your entire order.   Now, people, listen up. Earlier, the tech-savvy at-risk youth commanded you to listen to My Brother, My Brother and Me, which you are still contractually obligated to do. But now you must also listen to Throwing Shade. Both podcasts will send milk shooting out your nose if you aren't careful.
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It's Lucy's last show. Hats off to Dan's brave, plucky assistant. Small hands- big heart.  The calls! Wood. He shows it and grows it at the earliest opportunity. Is this a turn-off or something to cultivate?  A woman discovers her boyfriend has stashed away some women's underpants. They're definitely not hers…is this a problem?  A stunningly insecure gay man wonders if he should get circumcised to please his rude lover.  And so much more.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage  Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast
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What is the proper etiquette when you are offered $20 on the street to perform a sex act? A female sex worker in a new relationship wants to leave the life. Her boyfriend wants her to leave the life. But the money is so damn good! Can she ask him to support her while she gets her new life together? Can slapping a girl who didn't want to be slapped be reasonably construed as a "dick move"? We thought so, too. 206-201-2720 Oh! And we almost forgot! Hear Rachel's response to last week's marriage proposal… This episode is brought to you by FyreTV: the ultimate adult video experience. Sign up for FREE at www.FyreTV.com Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast Get yourself a copy of the Savage Love App (SLAP) for iPhone or Android while the gettin's good. Get yourself a copy of the Savage Love App (SLAP) for iPhone or Android while the gettin's good.
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A meddling, deluded mother changes the relationship status on her gay son’s Facebook page to say he’s interested in women. How can this patient son help his mother through her tantrum phase? A young woman’s 19-year-old cousin is planning on meeting a 42-year-old man she met online. He claims to be in an open relationship. What could go wrong? A woman and her Method-actor boyfriend planned a night where they acted out their rape fantasy. Let’s hear how it went, shall we? Call us up and ramble on: 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by FyreTV—the ultimate adult video experience. Sign up for FREE at FyreTV.com. Today’s episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter “Savage” at checkout. Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast
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