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With Sex Worker's Rights Advocate Alex Andrews.

Episode #657 — May 28, 2019

Here are the Savage Lovecast we've noticed that we'll get a bunch of calls on a particular subject all at once. This week it was abortion and weddings. A caller asks if we should just sit on our hands and let Alabama and the other states hijacked by their far right politicians reap the political cost of criminalizing abortion. Hear Dan counsel a gay man who is getting married. A straight couple who the caller considered friends revealed that they couldn't come to the wedding because it violates their Biblical principles. (Sounds like 2 less place settings to deal with. Yahtzee!) On the Magnum, Dan interviews Alex Andrews from the great sex workers' rights advocacy group SWOP. They talk about their pen pal program for incarcerated sex workers, and a misguided (at best) piece of legislation coming up in Florida. And hear the tale of the lovelorn lad and The Mooch.
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With Maddie Corman

Episode #656 — May 21, 2019

A woman is dating a man who used to be a sex addict. He slept with hundreds of women. Now their relationship is solid and monogamous, but his many former lovers keep texting him and trying to keep in touch. The caller feels threatened and creeped out. A man has started going to hot yoga to get in shape. The room is filled with gorgeous women stretching and sweating and wearing next to nothing. Is the sexual vibe just in the caller's head? How can he approach some of them without looking like some kind of tantric perv? On the Magnum, a woman's new boyfriend confided in her that he had spent 2 years in prison for downloading child pornography. But she really likes him and wants to believe that he is a good person. Dan speaks with actor Maddie Corman about her similar experience with her husband, about porn addiction, her one-woman show, and how we sometimes can make the choice to forgive. And, a closeted bisexual man is sick of his queer friends trash-talking bisexuals. How can he muster the courage to come out to them?
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All Hail Cameron Esposito!

Episode #468 — October 13, 2015

At the top of the show, Dan speaks with a clever lass with a foolproof plan to ensure the defeat of Canada’s dreadful Stephen Harper. A man is very close to an old childhood friend. Although they have always had a platonic relationship, his girlfriend of 6 months is beginning to freak out. If he attended a wedding as his pal's plus-one, would that be crossing a line? A woman's new boyfriend told her he's into cuckolding. But how soon is too soon to indulge this complicated fetish? A self-professed sex addict jerks it so hard and so often that he has a raw dick with scars to show for it. But is this really sex addiction? Dr. David Ley, author of "The Myth of Sex Addiction" begs to differ. Dan chats with that hilarious, half-mulleted lesbian Cameron Esposito! They talk about shaving down there, letting go of exes and desperate, sex-starved, pregnant straight ladies. Some of their conversation is on the Micro and the whole dang thing is on the Magnum. Cuz that's how we hook you in. 206-302-2064
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How to find ethically made porn.

Episode #413 — September 23, 2014

A man's wife uses their dom/sub relationship as ammo when they are fighting out of the bedroom. And THAT AIN'T FAIR! Should it be a deal-breaker if your boyfriend doesn't like your sense of humor? (Hint: YES.) A gay man is having some complicated orgy issues. Don't we all? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Sarah Mirk- the online editor of Bitch Magazine about feminist-friendly porn; how to find it, and how to avoid the bad stuff. And more, more, more. 206-201-2720
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Do ex-girlfriends make good unicorns?

Episode #376 — January 7, 2014

Red Bull and Vodka makes him last and last and last. But is it the Red Bull or the Vodka? A man and woman want to try a three-way. Do ex-girlfriends make good unicorns? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Diana Adams, a lawyer who specializes in polyamorous families. It's the new frontier. Also, a woman wonders if she has to tell her new boyfriend about her financial troubles, and a straight man wonders how he's going to get laid when everyone thinks he's gay.
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Hooray for happy rants! Dan tells you how he felt and what he did when he found out that DOMA was repealed. A man's random ejaculation resulted in a child. Now the child is 12 and neither she, nor her mother's husband knows that he is her biological father. Should he tell? Is there a way to warn the straight females of the world about your sociopathic sex addict ex-boyfriend? On the Magnum version, an interview with the father of the modern marriage movement, Evan Wolfson, on the implications of DOMA's repeal. Remember this political moment, children. And, a long rant on the Republican war on women in general, and abortion specifically. And the usual tales of sordid depravity.
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Lucy is back to help Dan navigate his way through questions about dicks snapping right off, living with sex addiction, and a triad of soft weenies.  Happy Thanksgiving, one and all.  206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast
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A woman loves fucking a man who's convinced she's going to hell. A man broke his cock whilst betwix his lady's legs in the shower. Is it time to see a doctor? Ever seen a dick that looks like a soup can? Well HAVE YOU? Don't stew. Call us at 206-201-2720. This episode was brought to you by wwwDigitalDesire.com/savage. This episode was brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today: http://j.mp/savageaudible
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A man used to getting it every day "at least once a day" is engaged to a woman who won't put out. Should he call it off? A teenage lesbian has a super-creepy neighbor who hits on her and threatens suicide. Classy, right? Hear the disturbing tale of the sex-crazed lawyer. And more. Call us at 206-201-2720. This episode was brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today: http://j.mp/savageaudible
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Is impotence a silent epidemic afflicting our nation's menfolk? Why would anybody want to be friends with an ex? What on earth is that brown fluid? These and other questions you never knew you had are answered by America's Sweetheart: Dan Savage. Ask away: 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com.
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