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Yes, Vasectomies Are Safe.

Episode #762 — June 1, 2021

Dan! Dan! My dildos melted together in the drawer! Horrifically, this is not uncommon if you buy cheap-ass sex toys. A gay man is establishing a potentially great friends-with-benefits relationship. The problem? The guy won't stop sending him stupid little memes all the damn day long. How can our caller put an end to this childish behavior? Over on the Magnum, a Nervous Norman is worried about possible harm that could come to his willy if he got a vasectomy. Reassurance arrives in the form of Dr. Tobias Kohler from the Mayo Clinic. He and Dan discuss the safety of this utterly routine procedure. And because this is the Savage Lovecast, Dan blindsides him with a question about smashing balls. And, can you cuddle? Can you platonically cuddle? Can you platonically cuddle with a conservative Catholic when you are a liberal Jew? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com Keep it under 3 minutes, ya'll.
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Psychedelics for the Win!

Episode #760 — May 18, 2021

Boundaries are hard! For instance, a married couple of 12 years decided to open the relationship. So naturally, she started sleeping with her husbands brother in their own house. Of course. And! If you knocked on the door, and your kid confessed that they were masturbating, would you A) Mutter, "Sorry!" and walk away. B) Walk in and chuckle at the site of their underpants. C) Run screaming from the building. You'll have to listen to learn what this lady did. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Alan Davis, who studies the effects of psychedelic mushrooms on depression. It turns out magic mushrooms might just help with mental health in the long term. (The tech-savvy- at-risk youth could have told you that.) And, Dan deconstructs the difference between appreciating the beauty of Asian people and having an Asian fetish.
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Insta-Apocalypse with JoEllen Notte.

Episode #741 — January 5, 2021

Ah, the pleasures of getting rimmed! But what if you are alone, during quarantine times? Is there a sex toy out there to help a lass get off? Starting in kindergarten, a woman began masturbating using a very specific and very odd technique. Now she needs to do this, and she's super-embarrassed about it. How can she get over her shame, and possibly move on to more conventional orgasm inducers? On the Magnum version of the show, is Instagram going the way of Tumblr- removing all sexual content? Writer and sex educator JoEllen Notte is on to explain the sitch. A woman had a fun fling with a man 17 years her senior. She ended the sex, but they became good friends. Now, 2 years later, she's changed her mind again, and wants him to be her boyfriend. How can she lure him back?
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Stock up on Sex Toys with Erika Moen!

Episode #712 — June 16, 2020

Oh Jesus Mary and Joseph, our opening sex during quarantine story is scorching hot this week, hoo boy. A woman is working from home with her boyfriend. He sets up his computer monitors with one screen always playing Twtich streams with young blonde hotties. Is the caller allowed to be annoyed by this? On the Magnum, sex toy expert and generally charming person Erika Moen is on to make a bunch of recommendations for gear to get you through these extremely challenging times. Also, what is up with sex dolls? A deep discussion ensues. A woman asked her man to dominate her. He responded "You suck at doing dishes!!" That's not what she had in mind. How can she learn him to boss her around? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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Why does Dr. Barak keep returning to the show?

Episode #710 — June 2, 2020

A remote controlled buttplug? In the bath? This pandemic is getting pretty fun! A woman asks a question that so many of us are also wondering: is it safe to be romantically intimate with someone who has already recovered from covid-19? When? Dan brings on the intrepid Dr. Barak to answer, and as usual hits him with a gnarly second question just to make the good doctor squirm. Are you a parent? Have you had some challenges raising your kids? Is your kid a foot fetishist? If you answered either yes or no to any of these questions, then you're going to want to listen in. And, a man in an open relationship feels empty and sad after he orgasms with anyone but his primary partner. How can he retrain his brain? Tickets to the Savage Lovecast Livestream are at www.savagelovecast.com/events Send your written questions ahead of time to livestream@savagelovecast.com 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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With comedian Pete Dominick

Episode #702 — April 7, 2020

We open the show with a quarantine sex story featuring some very mysterious noises... Have no fear Doc Barak is here! Dan brings on our long-suffering medical expert to reassure us about how covid-19 can and cannot be transmitted. The good doctor's giggle is, dare we say...infectious. On the Magnum, Dan interviews comedian and podcast host Pete Dominick to help him answer some questions from the hard-to-find straight male perspective. And, after a one night stand, a woman and her lover are still communicating. They had planned to meet in Moscow for a second date, but then the pandemic happened. Is she falling in love? Is it just the stress? Should she tell him? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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Monogamy is looking pretty good!

Episode #701 — March 31, 2020

Just when you thought you understood the world, Dan chats with open relationships guru Tristan Taormino, to tell you to CLOSE IT UP. Monogamy is where it's at these days. Just for a while. A woman in a long distance relationship is trying to embrace video sex. But she worries that she doesn't look sexy when she's truly pleasuring herself. How can she learn to do the "performance" of video sex, and still get off? On the Magnum, Dan calls up Searah Deysach from the feminist sex-toy store Early to Bed, to talk about "sleeves." What are they? What are those bumps? Where can I get me one? And, a lesbian decided not to respond to a trans woman on a dating app. Does this make her a transphobic monster? 206-302-2064
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Erika Moen's holiday sex toy picks!

Episode #686 — December 17, 2019

The show begins with an insecurity vampire. You know the kind. A person who sucks you dry with their endless need for praise and reassurance. This man is dating one, but is she entirely to blame? It's complicated. And, it's a wedding battle royale! In one corner we have our caller getting married to a man who has a child by a previous marriage- living out of town. In the other corner is the fiancé's mother, who wants to minimize contact between the kid and the caller. Whose side are you on? Grab some popcorn and listen in. On the Magnum, Santa's rollin' up! What's he got this time? Well, if he listens to resident sex toy expert Erika Moen (and he does,) out tumbles a massive cache of marital aids, including a cock sleeve that spins! A bullet vibe! A dual density dildo! "Sex in a Can! " And a Sex Machine. Like an actual machine. Not Santa himself. Is it January yet? And finally, a lesbian is in a stable, joyful, poly relationship. But she is grappling with a new partner in the scene, who has a medical condition that causes her to burp and fart all the time. It's driving the caller bonkers. She considers this a real torment. We consider it podcast gold. 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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Love Your Curvy Body! With Elle Chase.

Episode #676 — October 8, 2019

An open-minded but shy woman has a gaggle of friends who all talk about sticking their fingers in their boyfriends butts to everyone's delight. But the caller isn't into it. Is she depriving her boyfriend of this singular pleasure? A woman got a tattoo and felt turned on by the experience. Her husband reaped the benefits of this lust later that night. But is it wrong to secretly perv on her tattoo artist? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Elle Chase, author of "Curvy Girl Sex" about LOVING YOUR BODY, damn it, and some other things too. Like having two very different sized boobs, and the message it sends when you have a dizzying array of sex toys hanging over your bed. This is a delightful conversation and therefore, you should listen to it. Also, a gay man is dating a masculine "thug" type who delivers in bed, but won't go out on a date in public. Hmmmm.
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Mob Queens with Michael Seligman

Episode #674 — September 24, 2019

It's your typical story: Man has sex with girl who has only 2 fingers on one of her hands. Man never calls girl again because he only wanted casual sex anyway. Years later, man feels guilty for not calling girl with disability because he worries she will think he ghosted her because of her weird hand. Man calls homosexual sex advice podcaster for absolution. A man and his wife are embarking on some sex club explorations. Dan chats with the man about how to stay safe and keep his head together and his marriage strong. Also, there is talk of glory holes. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Michael Seligman, co-host of "Mob Queens" a podcast about some deliciously sordid gay history. Finally, a woman was hooking up with a guy who came on her chest and then licked it up. So far so good. But her friends, including her gay male friends, are grossed out to hear this detail. What is going on here? Why the squick factor?
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