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Sometimes the "happy ending" in an erotic massage can go both ways. Our caller enjoyed orally pleasuring his masseuse so much that he wants to continue the relationship outside the parlor. What is the proper etiquette in asking out an erotic massage practitioner? (Sorry LMTs! We know you don't want to hear ANY of this...) A married woman discovered a gif of jiggly boobs with her sister's face superimposed over them. Where did she see this? On her husband's computer of course. So now what? On the Magnum, a proud, strong feminist woman has rape fantasies that flood her with shame. Dan brings on Dr. Justin Lehmiller, author of Tell Me What You Want, to unpack the origins and nature of problematic fantasies. And, somewhere in the deep South, a bisexual man wants ungodly things done to him...
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Yes, Vasectomies Are Safe.

Episode #762 — June 1, 2021

Dan! Dan! My dildos melted together in the drawer! Horrifically, this is not uncommon if you buy cheap-ass sex toys. A gay man is establishing a potentially great friends-with-benefits relationship. The problem? The guy won't stop sending him stupid little memes all the damn day long. How can our caller put an end to this childish behavior? Over on the Magnum, a Nervous Norman is worried about possible harm that could come to his willy if he got a vasectomy. Reassurance arrives in the form of Dr. Tobias Kohler from the Mayo Clinic. He and Dan discuss the safety of this utterly routine procedure. And because this is the Savage Lovecast, Dan blindsides him with a question about smashing balls. And, can you cuddle? Can you platonically cuddle? Can you platonically cuddle with a conservative Catholic when you are a liberal Jew? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com Keep it under 3 minutes, ya'll.
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It's a boy! A pregnant woman upon learning the sex of her unborn baby is devastated that she's not getting the daughter she always dreamed of. Can she learn to love...a son? Have you heard the Death, Sex & Money podcast with Anna Sale? Well! Anna joined us to talk about her new book "Let's Talk About Hard Things." She and Dan answered a few calls together, which somehow leads to a discussion about an esoteric BJ technique. Some is on the Micro, all is on the Magnum. A married lesbian found out that her wife is cheating on her, on her own damn birthday. Now the wife is asking for an open relationship. After 10 years of monogamy, can they make it work? Finally- "Wanted: sex worker to service my elderly father. Must also cook for him." Does this kind of specialist exist?
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Happy Infertility Awareness Week!

Episode #756 — April 20, 2021

When your baby has a peanut allergy and your in-laws don't take it seriously, well, the sparks are gonna fly. The eternal question: can you make your penis bigger? Dan's answer may not shock you. ON the Magnum version, Dr. Shanna Swan author of "Countdown" is on to talk about declining sperm counts, environmental toxins and the fate of the human race. We recommend you celebrate 4/20 or pop yourself Xanax before listening. And, hear two separate tales of women looking to hire unicorns for one special evening.
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With comedian Justin Randall.

Episode #755 — April 13, 2021

In our opening Sexcess Story, a German man offers this kind-hearted maxim: "It's hard to stay mad when you are covered in come." A man wonders if his covid vaccine is what caused his libido to spike. His female friend said the same thing! She claims she had 10 ORGASMS right after getting her shot. So, hey Science! Is this causation or correlation? On the magnum, Dan chats with Justin Randall of the "We Were Christian Kids" podcast, about relationships after you've grappled with a hyper-religious upbringing. And, doing her due diligence, a woman discovers her new Tinder guy did a little car-jacking 10 years ago. Is this a deal-breaker? Or can he be redeemed? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Doordash. Get breakfast, lunch, dinner and more delivered from your favorite restaurants right to your doorstep with one easy click. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code SAVAGE. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.
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Evangelicals and "Sex Addiction."

Episode #754 — April 6, 2021

In our opening Sexcess story, a very delightful woman in her 60s has discovered that one wee edible before sex can yield untold orgasms. A gay man has discovered that he enjoys voyeurism and exhibitionism. But how can these be acted out ethically? On the Magnum, Dan talks with Kelsy Burke, a sociologist who studies the intersection of sex and religion. They talk about the recent Atlanta murders of sex workers, and how the Evangelical Christian conception of "sex addiction" may have warped the killer's mind. And, everybody is looking forward to the slammin' bachelorette party in Las Vegas this May! But one of the pals has no intention of getting vaccinated. This makes some of the gals nervous. Should the bride-to-be confront her anti-vax friend and issue an ultimatum? Or should she take the...gamble?
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With Big Mouth's Nick Kroll!

Episode #753 — March 30, 2021

Let the swooning begin. Dan brings on one of his heroes, comedian Nick Kroll to answer some questions and to talk about his show Big Mouth. They chat about meeting sleazy, pre-teen masturbation, dating while famous and many other things. We love Nick Kroll, and so do you. Some of the interview is on the Micro version and all of it is on the Magnum. Have you ever been eaten out while on acid? The caller in our opening sexcess story heartily recommends it. A male erotic massage therapist has only had one client this year. When, oh when are we allowed to have sex again? Finally, an obedient gay rights ally asks if he is permitted to use the term "butt hurt."
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With Cory Doctorow

Episode #729 — October 13, 2020

A woman's friend is acting like a damn fool. Again. She plans to travel across the country to meet a man she met online, without even having spoken to him on the phone. Is she getting catfished? Who knows? Should the caller try to talk her gullible, sensitive friend out of this recklessness? An erotic dancer feels guilty when her customers fall in love with her. Is she leading them on? On the Magnum, Dan welcomes back writer and digital rights activist Cory Doctorow. They discuss the appeal of conspiracy theories, Joe Biden, and texting expectations among many other things. And, a man and his long term girlfriend have mis-matched libidos. He is poly and horny. She is asexual. They are about to adopt her cousins and raise them together. So now would be a difficult time to begin a relationship with a dear friend of theirs, right? Maybe, maybe not. It's always so complicated! 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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Gigolo please...

Episode #728 — October 6, 2020

A woman would like a gigolo please. Or two. She knows she could score a man for free, but likes the idea of paying for it. Is this possible? How? Whoopsy daisy! A woman was texting her friend about the crippling crush she has on a co-worker, when she realized she was texting the co-worker herself. The gal reacted gracefully, but now what? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Dr Raphael Landovitz, about the promise of a new injectable version of PrEP. And, a 17 year old girl had penetrative sex for the first time. She's psyched! But she was very, very wet, and he was... not all that hard. Don't worry, teens! It gets better.
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The Planned Parenthood Show!

Episode #715 — July 7, 2020

Hear the tale of the NB lesbian who snooped and found out that the sex worker they want to hire makes more money than they do, and finds this unacceptable. (Confidential to the caller: you'll eventually get over the pummeling Dan gives you.) We were so honored to welcome Dr. Erin Berry -regional Medical Director of Planned Parenthood. Dan and Dr. Berry blasted through a bunch of your questions (HPV vaccine for men, molluscum, IUDs, bidets for women, more!) and of course they discussed abortion and the recent Supreme Court decision. Dr. Berry is a rock star. Some of it is on the Micro version and all of it is on the Magnum. Listen in. And, a queer woman enjoys using her strap-on as if it were a penis. But do gay men do the same? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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