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Episode #637 — January 8, 2019

A Jewish woman is bringing her boyfriend to the Hanukkah party. Great, right? But as always, there's a problem. He has a HITLER MUSTACHE. Because he "likes the look." Dan chats with this woman, and you get to listen. A young man's parents discovered kinky sexts on his phone. How can he explain BDSM to his freaked out mom n' pop? On the Magnum, a man is in an open relationship, but his girlfriend doesn't like that he sees sex workers. He just likes it. Should he try to stop? Or keep doing it and lie? Or break up? And Dan counsels a bi woman on how to support her younger gay cousin growing up in a hostile environment, just like she did.
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With Guy Branum.

Episode #619 — September 4, 2018

A woman's mother died last year. Her dad is dating someone new. The caller and her siblings just aren't ready to welcome their dad's girlfriend into their lives, let alone include her at Christmas. The caller feels she has to choose between her siblings and her father. Tough times, these. A straight man felt slighted when a woman wouldn't give him her phone number, and in public! He feels sad and humiliated and wonders if the male ego should be given just a little more weight and protection. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Guy Branum, comedian and author of "My Life as a Goddess," about cosmetic ass surgery among other things. A woman can come easily through masturbation but can't get there with her boyfriend. Dan takes her through the steps of his hallowed technique, guaranteed to get her moaning alongside her man.
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Teen Sexting = big trouble.

Episode #592 — February 27, 2018

A woman gave her husband permission to see an escort when he was out of town. But she didn't give him permission to spend a small fortune on her!! An open-minded straight man has had quite enough with the sexual cavorting that takes place in his gym's hot tub, thank you very much! Is he being homophobic? Should he rat them out? On the Magnum, kids are getting in big trouble for sexting, sending pics and other activities that most teens routinely engage in. Dan speaks with Robby Soave from Reason.com about the need to lawyer up if your kid faces such a threat. How can a woman explain to her newly divorced father that she suspects he's gay, and that it's a-ok with her?
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Emily Galati, live in Madison!

Episode #506 — July 5, 2016

The ins and outs of HUMP! Dan chats with Hump! Producer Tracey Cataldo about the Hump! Film Festival- what kinds of films you can expect to watch and how to make the kind of porn we want to see. What to do when your open relationship comes to a screeching halt? A married woman has been getting it on with her married female friend, but neither husband can handle it. Should they continue in secret? On the Magnum, It’s Emily Galati, live at our show in Madison, Wisconsin. This is some seriously funny shit, people. Listen. Learn. Laugh. Also, why do all the men in this woman’s life have a problem with her adorable, fuzzy, little teacup puppy hopping up on the bed to sniff around when they’re trying to fuck?
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With Peggy Orenstein.

Episode #494 — April 12, 2016

A woman loves sexting with strangers she meets online. But she has no desire to meet in person. How and when should she let her fellas know this about her? What happens when homophobic parents never come around? Dan speaks with writer Aaron Hartzler, author of “Rapture Practice,” about coming out to intractable family. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Peggy Orenstein, author of “Cinderella Ate My Daughter” and “Girls and Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape” about the distorted expectations women face the in the bedroom. 206-302-2064
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With Seattle journalist Eli Sanders.

Episode #488 — March 1, 2016

A man raised fundamentalist Christian has discovered the pleasures of “titty-bars” where he can behold “beautiful boobies.” Now that he’s getting divorced, how soon should he tell the lucky ladies that he plans to date about his marital status? A woman’s boyfriend tells her to be quiet when they are having sex. “Shhhhhh,” he says. How can she get him to cut that shit right out, and also get a little freaky in bed? Dan welcomes Seattle journalist Eli Sanders to discuss his new book, While the City Slept. Eli stuck around in the Magnum to dole out the kind of sex advice you would expect from a couple of homos who have worked side by side for years. A Jewish man is attracted to religious Jewish women. But he is an atheist himself. How can he meet secular Jewish hotties? 206-302-2064
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With Bailey Jay

Episode #483 — January 26, 2016

A woman’s roommate up and left without notice, leaving behind some expenses in the care of her sick, aged cat. Dan gets in full Judge Judy drag to help arbitrate this rather mundane dispute. Meanwhile, a lesbian wants her butt-plug back! She lent it to her girlfriend and then they broke up. Although things are friendly, should the caller make that awkward ask? Don’t you just love horses? Enough said. On the Magnum, Dan chats with porn star Bailey Jay about the pleasures and perils of sharing photos and camming. Be careful out there, people. 206-302-2064
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Duct tape, chair, vibrator...tonight.

Episode #424 — December 9, 2014

A bisexual man from a conservative Christian family had been through conversion therapy twice as a child. Strangely enough, it didn't work. He's all grown up now and coming out for real. How can he maintain a decent relationship with his "family?" A high school teacher and his entire class is horrified to see a female student masturbating in class. How can he teach her the timeless lesson that wanking in pubic is more trouble than it's worth? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with a researcher on the science of teen sexting. (Spoiler: Teens be horny.) And, a gay man is attracted to transmen. Where can he find them? And so much more. 206-201-2720
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Cameron Esposito and her side-mullet too.

Episode #415 — October 7, 2014

A man is getting a yucky feeling from his best friend's new girlfriend. They've never met, mind you. But she seems kind of superficial? On social media? Should he speak up to protect his friend, or butt out already? A very naughty woman is sexting with her ex-boyfriend. AND HE DOESN'T KNOW IT'S HER. On the Magnum, Dan and comedian Cameron Esposito yak about straight men in lesbian bars, pathetic closet cases, and a woman who is trapped in and oppressed by her given name. Cameron's got a real pretty voice. 206-201-2720
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The Gay Voice.

Episode #394 — May 13, 2014

Can two Aquarians last as a couple? Can they really? Pop quiz! When is the best time to tell your girlfriend that you have crabs: a) Before you make sweet love to her all weekend. b) After you make sweet love to her all weekend. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Christian Grov for a "What you Got?" about what genuinely concerns male sex workers. Also Dan chats with filmmaker David Thorpe on gay voices, and why people have such strong reactions to them. And so very much more. 206-201-2720
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