Love and sex advice from
Dan Savage
America’s sweetheart
Explore by
Filter by year

With Eli Finkel, author of "The All-or-Nothing Marriage."

Episode #570 — September 26, 2017

A woman is considering finding herself a sugar daddy to make ends meet. Should she tell her boyfriend? A man has a friendly relationship with his ex-girlfriend. He just doesn't want to see her and her new man splattered all over his social media. Would it be petty to mute her for a while? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Eli Finkel, author of "The All-or-Nothing Marriage." And, a woman's husband suddenly has a glamorous job with lots of fancy perks! She has been the bread-winner all this time, and feels resentful of all the fun her gets to have. How can she overcome these nasty feelings?
Magnum Episode
Subscribe to the Magnum
Ad-free episodes with exclusive extended content
Subscribe now

Don't sleep with comedians.

Episode #568 — September 12, 2017

A woman offers proof that sexual harassment is about power. One of her students, a gay man, sexually harasses her regularly. Why would he do this? A fetish too far: A woman's boyfriend can only get off if they are doing play simulating kidnapping, bondage and human trafficking. She broke up with him because she just couldn't go there all the time. But now he feels shamed. Poor baby. Dan welcomes comedian Amy Miller to talk about the inadvisability of fucking comedians, Also, hear the tale of the woman with a dark power. We shall call her the Boner Killer. She didn't ask for this. 206-302-2064
Magnum Episode
Subscribe to the Magnum
Ad-free episodes with exclusive extended content
Subscribe now

Parenting Horror Stories

Episode #522 — October 25, 2016

A man has been with his boyfriend for 1.5 years. The caller's family is loving and welcoming to the boyfriend. But the boyfriend's family won't accept his homosexuality and won't allow the caller to join them at Thanksgiving etc. How long must our caller wait for his boyfriend to grow a pair, and tell his family to piss off already? Next up, we'll just share the title of this call: "Take Your Chances at the All-Girl Orgy?" NOW you're gonna listen aren't you? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the hosts of One Bad Mother, a delightful parenting podcast, about some gnarly situations parents find themselves in. And, a woman is excited to start having three-ways with her boyfriend. EXCEPT. He's a terrible lover, and the caller worries his lack of skill will queer the deal. 206-302-2064
Magnum Episode
Subscribe to the Magnum
Ad-free episodes with exclusive extended content
Subscribe now

Parents: You are bring JUDGED.

Episode #515 — September 6, 2016

A bi man in a poly triad wonders how to bring home his couple to meet the conservative parents. A woman enjoys following men around for the feeling of "predatory power" the pursuit gives her. Is this a problem? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Professor Barbara Sarnecka, in a "What You Got?" showing how uptight our society is about leaving children alone. The study is HERE. And, while on a trip to NYC, and gay man finds someone he knows from back home on Grindr. When he contacted the friend to say "Hi there!" the friend disappeared and blocked him. Awkward? 206-302-2064
Magnum Episode
Subscribe to the Magnum
Ad-free episodes with exclusive extended content
Subscribe now

With dating historian, Moira Weigel

Episode #505 — June 28, 2016

A woman has endured 10 years of sexual harassment from a creep she works with. How can she get him to stop without getting him fired? (Hint: It’s a trick question.) Dan and another gay guy get into a BIG FIGHT about guns!!! In a far more civil discussion, on the Magnum, Dan chats with Moira Weigel, author of “Labor of Love: The Invention of Dating” about how your grandparents viewed dating and going steady. And finally, hear the sordid tale of a man who finds himself cat-fished by his own girlfriend. Oh, the people. 206-302-2064
Magnum Episode
Subscribe to the Magnum
Ad-free episodes with exclusive extended content
Subscribe now

Dan on Bill Cosby and Mark Oppenheimer on Mormons

Episode #462 — September 1, 2015

A man has entered into a committed poly triad… and mom’s not having it. How can the caller get his mother to accept his other girlfriend? Dan’s take on the shenanigans of hilarious comedian, Bill Cosby. A woman’s boyfriend REALLY wants to do anal. He wants this so badly that he’s willing to try it without warning, lube or consent. And it causes her tremendous pain. Can any of you guess what Dan’s advice is? On the Magnum, Dan chats with New York Times religion writer Mark Oppenheimer about his new podcast “Unorthodox,” and the Jewish-Mormon connection. Also, dating a chronic liar; super- fun or super-exhausting? 206-302-2064
Magnum Episode
Subscribe to the Magnum
Ad-free episodes with exclusive extended content
Subscribe now
Subscribe to the Magnum
Ad-free episodes with exclusive extended content
Subscribe now