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With Parker Molloy.

Episode #475 — December 1, 2015

A man’s boyfriend went as a “slut” for Halloween. It turns out, this was a really bad idea. A woman loves getting tied up. But she also needs to touch herself to get off. So…how is this gonna work? On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans writer Parker Molloy about the challenges of transitioning for both partners in a relationship. And, hear the story of a woman who enters “The Land of Pleasure.” By which she means having sex with over 30 men in one long evening. Dan chats with her about how to enjoy her gang-bang kink safely. 206-302-2064 Get your GGG and FUCK FIRST coffee mugs over at www.thestranger.com/savageswag
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Dan vs. Cheryl Strayed!

Episode #443 — April 21, 2015

After a long dry spell, a woman's husband is finally going down on her. But his stubble is causing considerable discomfort! Dare she use her words and suggest he take a razor blade to his pretty face? A teen girl in Utah has just discovered feminism. She realizes she has only seen images of passive women on the tee-vee, and worries that she won't know what to do in bed. How can she learn to take an active role? On the Magnum, are you ready to rumble? From our live show in Portland this year, witness Dan vs. the mighty Cheryl Strayed from the Dear Sugar podcast in an ADVICE SLINGING CLASH OF THE TITANS. Send us your one minute wonder calls! 206-201-2720
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What does Ann Landers' daughter think about TANTRIC SEX?

Episode #414 — September 30, 2014

This week, Dan brings on heavy-hitter advice columnist Margo Howard (daughter of THE Ann Landers…) to cackle and spar about cooking your way into your boyfriend's heart, and TANTRIC SEX of all things. Also, a very sad call about a woman who can only get off when she watches realistic date rape porn. On the Magnum, Dan brings on super lawyer Diana Adams to discuss custody battles and whether your open relationship can be held against you in court. And a lot more. 206-201-2720
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The rich slut-shaming the poor.

Episode #406 — August 5, 2014

To start the show, Dan invites co-ranter Congressman Patrick J. Murphy to discuss why democrats treat military personnel better than the Rs. A gay man is getting cat-called by his horn-dog neighbor. How can he politely tell him to knock it off? On the Magnum, you'll hear a "What You Got" with Sociology Professor Elizabeth Armstrong, about how rich girls slut-shame poor girls on college campuses. Also, does anybody have a lead on really great Slovakian dating sites?
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Ask an Ethicist!

Episode #383 — February 25, 2014

This week on the Magnum version of the Lovecast, Dan enlists heavyweight ethicist Randy Cohen (the former New York Times columnist) to help answer some pretty twisted questions. A woman feels guilty for dumping her boyfriend. She dumped him because he didn't so much kiss her as stab her with his tongue sword. Could she have maybe taught him the subtle art of kissing instead? An impatient male unicorn wonders if he should call, text and otherwise pester his intended couple. And so much more. 206-201-2720
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We open with a heartrending call from a woman in the Bible belt, whose own children condemn her for dating a black man. The year is 2014. Dan chats with Hanna Rosin (Author of "The End of Men",) on women's changing relationship with their careers vs. partners. On the Magnum, a fascinating "What You Got" with Professor Jennifer Glass. Her study shows that conservative Christians not only have a higher divorce rate, but anyone who lives near their communities have higher divorce rates too. And, hear the woes of a man who likes blow jobs just a little too much.
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Slut-shaming roommates gone wild!

Episode #372 — December 10, 2013

A sexually active woman is slut-shamed by her own roommates in a prudish house intervention. A caller wonders if gay men will pay to be dominated. In the deep South. On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with author Emily Maguire about how our culture puts forth the idea that women don't enjoy sex, so men needn't bother making it pleasurable for them. Dreadful, really. And, hear the tale of a woman who had a secret affair with her former high school teacher.
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Legit Slut-Shaming???

Episode #360 — September 17, 2013

A gay man's truly evil step-mother falsely accused him of sexually assaulting his younger siblings. His father never rose to his defense. Should he forgive his father or cut off ties? Penises, penises, penises. That's all her ex-girlfriend could ever think about! Is Penis Envy a real thing? And now that she's free of this lunatic, does it matter? On the Magnum side, is there such a thing as "legitimate slut-shaming?" Did you know that the United States prison system has recently enacted progressive policies regarding transgendered inmates? No, you did not. Terry Schuster, an attorney who specializes in the treatment of prisoners, speaks with Dan about how Chelsea Manning can expect to be treated in prison. And a lot more.
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The Nipple Thing.

Episode #357 — August 27, 2013

Dan helps a woman determine the fine line between over-permissiveness and slut-shaming for her 14 year-old step-daughter. In more hand-wringing, a young man wants to be sure he obtains consent from his lucky ladies, but how much asking is too much asking? On the Magnum show, a woman's boyfriend enjoys a nosefull of cocaine every month or so. She hates it. Does she have the right to ask him to choose between her or his precious blow? Dan explains the finer points of slut etiquette to a lass who prefers to dash off rather than spend the night. And finally, hear the tale of the woman whose snooping revealed that her boyfriend was having an affair with his mother's secretary. Stop that snooping ya'll, lest you learn something you wish you hadn't.
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We KNOW what women really want.

Episode #347 — June 18, 2013

How soon is too soon for anal? A woman who had a brief foray into sex work long ago wonders how to tell her partners without shame, rejection or titillation. And more. On the Magnum version you'll hear everything in the Micro version plus… An interview with Daniel Bergner, author of What Women Want about ladies, their libidos, and whether monogamy suits them or not. (Spoiler alert! It does.) Hear the tale of the spooked unicorn. Note to couples who invite in a partner for a three-way: When your unicorn doesn't return your calls, you must let her run free. And a ton more.
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