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Strap it on... with Tristan Taormino!

Episode #628 — November 6, 2018

A woman has been with her fiancé for 4 years. All of a sudden, out of nowhere, he's started moaning and groaning in bed like a porn starlet. Why the sudden vocalizations? IS HE CHEATING ON HER? An asexual, non-binary person feels like an invader when they show up at BDSM parties. Is it alright to join that community when you are uninterested in sex? On the Magnum, we are delighted to welcome back author, sex educator and bitter podcasting rival Tristan Taormino. She and Dan discuss strap-ons, and how to peg your partner real good. Two HIV negative gay men have been together for 5 years. They started acting out role-play scenes where one infects the other. It's been super hot, but the caller is uncomfortable even pretending such a thing. He is old enough to remember the worst days of AIDs. Is this role play ok? Or a thought crime? Do whatchoo wanna. 206-302-2064
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A poly deep dive...

Episode #611 — July 10, 2018

A liberal, PC, feminist, woke man loves to humiliate, slap and call women sluts in the bedroom. (Always consensually.) How can he reconcile the two opposing sides of his personality? A woman and her husband have befriended another family in their new town. The couple revealed that the man is a transman, and that she should ask any questions she wants to. But the caller clammed up and didn't ask. Is it too late to ask about them? How can she learn about the trans experience without offending? In a heavy call, a man relays the tale of how he shoved his girlfriend in a jealous rage. Now that the relationship is over, he wants to make sure he never does anything like that again. How can he keep himself from being "that guy?" On the Magnum: Ready for a polyamory deep dive? Dan interviews Sophie Lucido Johnson, author of Many Love: A Memoir of Polyamory and Finding Love(s).
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Allison Moon on female ejaculation geysers.

Episode #427 — December 30, 2014

A drunken lass has intellectual crushes on her professors. How can she express her "love for their intellect?" A man is totes bummed when a date ditches him after discovering that he smokes cigarettes. Is this just what online dating is like? One condom. Three people. Does this math add up? On the Magnum, Dan chats with uber-lesbian author and sex educator Allison Moon about female ejaculation and the geyser that sometimes results. And, listen to a cavalcade of remedies for PMS! 206-201-2720
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Second Opinion with Carolyn Hax.

Episode #425 — December 16, 2014

If you're a bisexual man in a monogamous relationship with a woman, is a little twink porn so wrong? When mothers move in: A woman's libido plummeted right around the time that her boyfriend's mother moved in to the apartment below them. Coincidence? In an action-packed Magnum, Dan welcomes rival advice-giving powerhouse Carolyn Hax to grapple with some serious poly drama and super-freaky, non-communicative parents. Also, all hail Evan Wolfson! He's the architect of the national gay marriage legalization campaign. He and Dan discuss the plight of a gay, married man who has to move to a state that doesn't recognize his marriage. All that…and more. 206-201-2720
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The Sex Worker Panel.

Episode #387 — March 25, 2014

Dan speaks with Seattle sex workers Mistress Matisse, Savannah Sly and Delia DeLions about the biz. Topics covered: proper client etiquette, telling people in your life that you have done sex work or see sex workers, how to hire your unicorn, and what to do if a client has a really weird looking dick. The Magnum has a ton more this week, so indulge.
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What gives YOU a boner?

Episode #358 — September 3, 2013

A man (with a British accent that had the tech-savvy, at-risk youth panting like hound dogs at noon,) likes to cat around town, despite his ostensibly monogamous relationship. (Even the way he says "monogamous" is swoon-worthy.) Can or should he change for his girlfriend? Dan speaks with the venerable Dr. Chu about the rare phenomenon of HIV positive men who have undetectable viral loads. A woman knows a man who is being tossed out of his college for sexual assault. Is she obliged to testify against him? On the big, ole Magnum version, Dan and porn actress, director and producer Joanna Angel, talk about the porn industry, and what they do to keep their actors safe from STIs. An unfortunate man is married to a woman who a) won't let him watch porn, b) won't let him masturbate and c) won't fuck him. Guess what Dan's advice is. Do you get boners from the strangest things? We want to hear about it.
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Dating "Senior Sensitivo."

Episode #356 — August 20, 2013

"Cum Dumpster." Is this a sweet, sexy term, or just plain nasty? A straight woman in Texas feels like a nelly gay man trapped in a woman's body. How can she find her people? A woman has been using OK Cupid for 2 years and still hasn't gotten any action. So Dan chats with OK Cupid co-founder Christian Rudder on what she might be doing wrong. On the Magnum version, Dan interviews sex researcher Dr. Joye Swan on risk-taking and using the idea of monogamy as a magical shield. And more.
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Hooray for happy rants! Dan tells you how he felt and what he did when he found out that DOMA was repealed. A man's random ejaculation resulted in a child. Now the child is 12 and neither she, nor her mother's husband knows that he is her biological father. Should he tell? Is there a way to warn the straight females of the world about your sociopathic sex addict ex-boyfriend? On the Magnum version, an interview with the father of the modern marriage movement, Evan Wolfson, on the implications of DOMA's repeal. Remember this political moment, children. And, a long rant on the Republican war on women in general, and abortion specifically. And the usual tales of sordid depravity.
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This week the Lovecast is honored to welcome Dr. Anna Kaminski, medical director from Planned Parenthood. Hats off, everyone. Dan and Anna discuss the risks of herpes, chlamydia, pre-come, ass-licking and other deep medical topics. Anna quotes from scientific studies and Dan makes repulsive off-color jokes. What's not to like? Call us up: 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast Donate to Planned Parenthood: www.plannedparenthood.org
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The Lovecast is humbled to welcome Dr. Anna Kaminski from Planned Parenthood. She and Dan discuss the twin bogeymen of herpes and HPV. The upshot? Not so scary! Also, Dan talks to Eyal Feldman, purveyor of Boy Butter. Sorry about the popping p's, people. Note to selves: must get second pop-blocker. Call us at 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Get 50% off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve
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