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With Eli Finkel, author of "The All-or-Nothing Marriage."

Episode #570 — September 26, 2017

A woman is considering finding herself a sugar daddy to make ends meet. Should she tell her boyfriend? A man has a friendly relationship with his ex-girlfriend. He just doesn't want to see her and her new man splattered all over his social media. Would it be petty to mute her for a while? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Eli Finkel, author of "The All-or-Nothing Marriage." And, a woman's husband suddenly has a glamorous job with lots of fancy perks! She has been the bread-winner all this time, and feels resentful of all the fun her gets to have. How can she overcome these nasty feelings?
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With Lindsey Doe from "Sexplanations."

Episode #541 — March 7, 2017

Are you, (or is someone you love) stuck in a region which refuses to teach realistic sex ed? Never fear, Lindsey Doe from the YouTube channel "Sexplanations" is here to infiltrate and educate. She's our new fave, and you will love her. She and Dan talk about explaining porn to kids, nudist households, and actionable advice to counter meds that dampen libido. Listen to this interview and then go watch all of her videos. Like, right now. What happens when a sugar daddy relationship ends? Can you go on being friends? Or are some connections meant to be severed? On the Magnum, a woman, (like Dan) kind of hates cats. And guess what her boyfriend has! He lets it sleep with him, doesn't wash his hands after petting it, and won't alter this behavior. Dan's disgust is palpable. (The tech-savvy at-risk youth didn't have the heart to explain that we all sleep and cuddle with our cats on the regular. Don't tell him!) 206-302-2064
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With Cheryl Strayed

Episode #518 — September 27, 2016

A woman is horrified to discover her new boyfriend's disgusting habit. This habit truly is one of the most revolting things we've ever heard, and you do know that we've heard a LOT, right? You'll have to listen to find out what it is. A woman and her husband want to take the plunge and have a three-way with a woman. But there are some logistics to work out. How do they find a girl, and do they have to get a babysitter for the night? Dan chats with Cheryl Strayed, author of Wild, and co-host of the (rival) Dear Sugar podcast about sex on the Pacific Coast Trail. Hear the sad, sad story of a sad, sad dancer girl who is in love with a man who won't dance with her, and won't fuck her either. 206-302-2064
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With dating historian, Moira Weigel

Episode #505 — June 28, 2016

A woman has endured 10 years of sexual harassment from a creep she works with. How can she get him to stop without getting him fired? (Hint: It’s a trick question.) Dan and another gay guy get into a BIG FIGHT about guns!!! In a far more civil discussion, on the Magnum, Dan chats with Moira Weigel, author of “Labor of Love: The Invention of Dating” about how your grandparents viewed dating and going steady. And finally, hear the sordid tale of a man who finds himself cat-fished by his own girlfriend. Oh, the people. 206-302-2064
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It's Poly Cocktail Time!

Episode #442 — April 14, 2015

Can Dan convince a young woman to accept and forgive her father for having a 9-year-long affair with a married woman? Listen in as Dan deftly navigates through the kind of theoretical quandary that only a conservative silly person could present. Dan interviews Laura Anderson about her Slate article covering the history of condoms and why they could be so much better. On the Magnum, fall down the poly rabbit hole with us, won't you? Dan chats with poly activist and lawyer Diana Adams about the rise of polyamory in our cultural awareness, and how to live the poly lifestyle, while maintaining your precious sanity. Also, don't you want to learn about "Poly Cocktails"? 206-201-2720
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The Tortured Creamed Corn Metaphor.

Episode #370 — November 26, 2013

A man and his wife have agreed to divorce. But they have to keep living together for 3 more months. Would it be shabby to start sleeping with the hot gal that lives down the block? An 18 year old girl is engaged to be married to a man who she already knows to be sexually incompatible with her. So what's the problem? Dan chats with Dr. David Sarwer about libido changes following weight-loss surgery. In Magnum-land, a couple embarking on an open relationship disagree on who to tell and how to tell about their new, scandalous status. And, you're going to want to gather 'round the Thanksgiving table with your entire family and listen to the tale of a woman who went a-snooping and discovered that her sister is in a sugar-baby/sugar daddy relationship. Dan chats with the PR lass at a sugar daddy website about how wholesome and innocent this arrangement must truly be. It warms the heart.
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Come hear the tale of the lying bisexual who chickened out and denied her bisexuality to a friend. Now she's paying the price. An ex-Mormon teen wants to have some casual hook-ups. But it turns out that you can take the girl out of Utah, but you can't take the Utah out of the girl. The sugar-daddy decision: One caller is considering finding a sugar daddy to help pay the bills. Another caller has a chilling cautionary tale about being a sugar baby. Is it worth it? Be careful ladies... 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage
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Marshmallow up the ass. Any potential dangers? Speaking of danger, a woman wants to try choking and wonders how to do it safely. Do thongs give you gas? Can you get infections from text toys? Apparently, this is the show of danger! Call us at 206-201-2720. Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com.
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A man in his 20s is dating an 18-year-old woman. He's trying to be a good and responsible lover but still wonders if he's a creep. A man and his mother watching TV together argue about whether rape fantasies are icky or not. She's into being humiliated. He's into humiliating her. Still, she wonders: "Why is he doing this to me?" And a lot more. Call us at 206-201-2720. Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com.
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Blood and Sugar: Today's episode spans many topics, including ladies who get compensated for their sweet time. One caller is falling in love with her sugar daddy. Another caller has a fuck buddy who has suggested that he pay her for her services; how much should she charge? A fit gay man has fantasies of being fed into obesity. A man wonders if he and his buddies should pay a prostitute to pretend to pick up their socially awkward virgin friend out of pure desire. And a clever retaliation for the woman whose husband leaves his spunk all over the house. Not for the faint of heart. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com
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