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With Mayor Betsy Hodges.

Episode #575 — October 31, 2017

A woman from the UK wonders why Americans are so quick to commit to each other after just a little bit of sex. Dan's history lesson explains it all. A woman and her husband are into hot-spousing. It's been super-fun and brought them closer together as a couple. But her husband gets racked with guilt each time, and runs to tell his priest ALL ABOUT IT. What's his damage? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Mayor Betsy Hodges of Minneapolis about being on the vanguard of urban resistance. Keep fightin' Betsy! And, are you into having women burp in your mouth? This guy is...
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Women in gay bars. We have a problem.

Episode #565 — August 22, 2017

What do you do when your best friend is dating a con man? A woman has been with her boyfriend for a year. He has a key to her apartment, and regularly lets himself in when she isn't there, even though she told him not to. How big of a problem do we have here? On the Magnum, Dan talks to Alexander Cheves who published a controversial article in The Advocate about what place, if any, women have in gay bars. And, a woman's best friend also happens to be her step-mother. (Same age though.) How can the caller counsel her pal on how to improve her sex life...with her father? 206-302-2064
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When your partner has BPD.

Episode #540 — February 28, 2017

A woman's 61 year-old father confided that he has discovered kink. Should she help to connect him to kink resources when she herself is vanilla, and also...his daughter? A man worries that his attraction to East-Indian women might be racist. Dan helps unpack the complicated issues around attraction to specific races. On the Magnum, Dan talks with Randi Kreger, author and expert on Borderline Personality Disorder about dating someone with this unpleasant condition. And, all hail the Cuck-Queen! Dan chats with a woman who gets off on her husband sleeping with other women. Dan instructs her on the alchemical art of turning jealousy into lust.
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The pleasures and dangers of choking.

Episode #533 — January 10, 2017

A man's friend came out when they were in high school. Now after a sojourn to the desert to "pray away the gay" the tortured closet case is "church hunting for a bride." Can his pal talk him out of this? A woman's co-worker tried to kiss her at work, despite her unrelentingly professional demeanor, and complete lack of interest. Now they have to go on a work trip together. How can she bat him away? Should she skip the trip? On the Magnum, Dan chats with a kink expert about choking. Anybody have some better words for pussy than...pussy? 206-302-2064
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With Parker Molloy.

Episode #475 — December 1, 2015

A man’s boyfriend went as a “slut” for Halloween. It turns out, this was a really bad idea. A woman loves getting tied up. But she also needs to touch herself to get off. So…how is this gonna work? On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans writer Parker Molloy about the challenges of transitioning for both partners in a relationship. And, hear the story of a woman who enters “The Land of Pleasure.” By which she means having sex with over 30 men in one long evening. Dan chats with her about how to enjoy her gang-bang kink safely. 206-302-2064 Get your GGG and FUCK FIRST coffee mugs over at www.thestranger.com/savageswag
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FREE LOLITA!

Episode #467 — October 6, 2015

Dan has some helpful suggestions for the NRA! A woman saw a man exposing himself outside a family-friendly restaurant. She called the cops. Was this wrong? In order to prove that his girlfriend doesn’t put out as much as he would like, a man documents their sex life on an app. The girlfriend finds this creepy. Dear listener, do you? Rachel Percelay from Media Matters has been studying Fox News’ coverage of trans issues. She and Dan discuss what she found. And finally, Christopher Frizzelle from The Stranger talks about the amazing social/sex lives of orca whales and the plight of Lolita, an orca trapped in hell for the past 40 years. FREE LOLITA! 206-302-2064
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With Mistress Matisse

Episode #461 — August 25, 2015

Pee drinking in the UK: How common is it? Do mates drink each other’s urine routinely, or do they have to kind of know each other a little better? A tale for the vault, folks. How should you handle a nasty blabbing co-worker who tells everyone that you have herpes? On the Magnum, slaves, Mistress Matisse joins us in the studio (on the 23rd floor of the Washington Mutual Building overlooking the beautiful Puget Sound,) to discuss the sex workers’ rights movement and also how to overpower your willing sub. If, by some freak of life circumstances you haven’t yet heard Mistress Matisse, you simply must tune in, so hard does she rock. Also, If you are the godmother to your best friend’s child, and you are also a swinger, are you honor-bound to disclose this to your friend? And more. 206-302-2064
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Jason Schwartzman in the house.

Episode #452 — June 23, 2015

OMG it’s actual movie star famous guy celebrity JASON SCHWARTZMAN. And guess what? He’s clever, funny and super-nice. He and Dan talk about his new movie The Overnight, swinging, swastika tattoos (spoiler: he’s against them,) controlling mothers, and the famous people you want to sleep with. Don’t miss it. There’s some on the micro, and more on the Magnum. Also, a man’s new boyfriend has the same name of a former abuser of his. How can he get over the horrible association? And, how can an experimenting bisexual lass get “lesbian society” to take her seriously? And more! 206-201-2720
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Neil Steinberg on tolerance and Charlie Hebdo.

Episode #431 — January 27, 2015

On this, the week of Dan and Terry's 20th anniversary, Dan grapples with some tricky, tricky questions: At exactly what point in the dating process would it be polite to disclose that you are already in an open relationship? A woman likes to be thin. Her man prefers a more hefty physique. How can she deal with his compliments if they only come when she feels bad about herself? And, a woman's boyfriend is losing his hair, and plans to get a buzz cut. But she really likes a head of long, luxurious hair! If he won't wear a hat or a wig, is it...over? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Chicago Sun-Times columnist Neil Steinberg about tolerance in the wake of Charlie Hebdo. And, a woman's boyfriend wants to spend a wild weekend in Vegas with his buddies. Fine! But does she really have to do the three hour drive each way to take him to the goddamn airport? Both ways? 206-201-2720
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Female Ejaculate Study-Debunked!

Episode #430 — January 20, 2015

It's the Getting-Women-to-Come show! Sometimes ladies can't come and want to. Sometimes ladies can't come and they don't want to. Sometimes ladies can come just fine. Dan sure talks a lot about female orgasms on this show, considering he's never been near one. Bad Science Alert! Female Ejaculate: Is it pee? Dan speaks with fearless blogger Amy Luna Manderino about some annoying hyperventilation in response to a recent study on squirting. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Cooper Beckett from the Life on the Swingset podcast about the joys and perils of swinging. And finally, a new image will spring to mind when you hear "She's smokin' hot!!" 206-201-2720
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