Love and sex advice from
Dan Savage
America’s sweetheart
Explore by
Filter by year

Happy poly homes with Dr. Elisabeth Sheff.

Episode #692 — January 28, 2020

Have you ever experienced conflict during a family vacation? The first call on this show might put it all in perspective for you. A protective big sister can't stand that her 17 year-old sis is dating a 21 year-old man. Their parents don't mind. Should big sister give the guy a chance, or is the age difference unacceptable? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Elisabeth Sheff from Psychology Today about raising children within a polyamorous household. And finally, a woman is considering becoming a fin-dom, with the power to financially ruin her client. But she doesn't want to ruin anyone. Is there a way to ethically do this?
Magnum Episode
Subscribe to the Magnum
Ad-free episodes with exclusive extended content
Subscribe now

Octopus??? At Costco???

Episode #687 — December 24, 2019

A formerly repressed man is discovering his wild side. He and his wife like to do it in quasi-public in the mountains. He just got her a remote controlled vibrator, and wants to see if he can get her off in a restaurant. But is this ethical? Will people notice? Dan interviews the co-author of a study that finds that women tend to trust gay male shopkeepers over women shopkeepers. They theorize that women find another woman selling beauty products and clothes can't be trusted because their reptile brains tell them they in competition for mates. So that's depressing... Merry Christmas! An 18 year-old woman has started seeing a 21 year-old guy who claimed he was celibate, but sure doesn't act like it. She thinks he's lying to himself and her. She just wants to bone him already. Should she put him out of his celibate misery? And finally, did ya'll know they sell octopus at Costco?
Magnum Episode
Subscribe to the Magnum
Ad-free episodes with exclusive extended content
Subscribe now

With Sex Workers' Rights Advocate- Elle Stanger.

Episode #681 — November 12, 2019

A woman wants her boyfriend to pee inside of her. Cool, cool. But he is pee shy! How can he get over it? A woman and her man love threesomes with women. But they don't want kids. Should they warn their unicorn that if she happens to get knocked up they will have no part in the parenting of her kids? Sssssexy! On the Magnum, Dan chats with worker's rights advocate Elle Stanger about the ongoing disaster that is SESTA/FOSTA. A 21 year-old man and his lady both live with their parents, and they have no place to make sweet love. So they do it in the car. But they keep getting caught, once by the police. Is it time to demand some privacy at home? How?
Magnum Episode
Subscribe to the Magnum
Ad-free episodes with exclusive extended content
Subscribe now

It's the food poisoning episode!

Episode #677 — October 15, 2019

A woman has vowed to never date a Trump voter. But she lives in a small conservative town, and she's getting lonely... A woman did some sex work a couple years ago. She's dating someone new and wonders if, when or how to tell him. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Joan Price, author of "Naked at Our Age" about how to combat the effects of early menopause. Poor unicorn! Her couple broke up! Should she ask the lady in the (former) couple if she can continue to be with her ex? Awkward! 206-302-2064 Feel better Dan!
Magnum Episode
Subscribe to the Magnum
Ad-free episodes with exclusive extended content
Subscribe now

What do we do now that Tumblr is dead?

Episode #658 — June 4, 2019

Here's a conundrum: A black, gay man is married to his white husband. They want to drive into threesomes, but the black man is only attracted to white men and the white man is only attracted to black men. So you see. This is a real pickle. Meanwhile, a straight man has fantasies where he is a gay leather daddy, and his real life butch lesbian friend is his sub "boy." Is this a thought crime? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Fast Company freelance journalist Sean Captain about the sad demise of Tumblr as safe space to find sweet, sweet pornography. He talks about the media landscape and what is emerging as Tumblr's likely replacements. And, a man who recently moved to Los Angeles, feels daunted by his new roommate who thinks she's psychic and talks to spirits. Is everyone like this in LA?
Magnum Episode
Subscribe to the Magnum
Ad-free episodes with exclusive extended content
Subscribe now

Just how reversible are vasectomies?

Episode #655 — May 14, 2019

A man his wife want to have kids. He would like to have a threesome before they do. Is it wrong to issue an ultimatum: "NO KIDS until we have that threeway?" Dan chats with Dr. Landon Trost from the Mayo clinic about vasectomies- how reversible are they? On the Magnum, Dan has a long conversation with a lesbian whose parents forced her to endure "conversion therapy" for years. She talks about the experience and together she and Dan hash out how to approach her relationship with her parents today. And, a young man who is friends with an older woman is offended that she won't share her fries.
Magnum Episode
Subscribe to the Magnum
Ad-free episodes with exclusive extended content
Subscribe now

We got PUNKED.

Episode #645 — March 5, 2019

A woman has taken up with two men. One of them is a pal, and it's all about the sex. The other one is her perfect fit emotionally, but the sex is on the "meh" side. How on earth can she choose between them? A while back we had on a guest who turned out to be a charlatan! He duped a lot of media outlets, the Lovecast included. Dan interviews the journalist from Gizmodo who outed this fraud. Crow: it's what's for dinner. On the Magnum, a woman is dating a guy who is great in every way, except! He has terrible teeth. Would it be too shallow of her to dump him over this? And, a woman still grieving over her father's death sobs when she orgasms. Is this normal?
Magnum Episode
Subscribe to the Magnum
Ad-free episodes with exclusive extended content
Subscribe now

Ask a Fuck-Up.

Episode #605 — May 29, 2018

A woman was chilling with her male friend, you know, the way friends do, and sure, he wishes they were a couple, but she's not into him that way, so anyway, she invited him over after some drinking and masturbated in front of him, you know, the way friends do, except now things are weird? A lesbian was told by a transwoman who still has a penis that it's transphobic to not want to have sex with her. Discuss. On the Magnum, it's time for a Second Opinion! Dan chats with the newest sex advice columnist to hit the scene: Brandy Jensen from The Outline's "Ask a Fuck-Up." And, another mysterious ghosting. Where do the men go when they disappear?
Magnum Episode
Subscribe to the Magnum
Ad-free episodes with exclusive extended content
Subscribe now

Erotica by and for women? Yes please...

Episode #604 — May 22, 2018

A 60 year-old man has been dating a woman for 4 months. He wishes she would lose some weight. Oh, and also? She lost her breasts to cancer. Does he have the right to ask her to get a boob job too? Sidle up, dear listener, and hear the tale of the woman, her much older boyfriend, and...and her boyfriend's...son? After hearing this, one of the tech-savvy at-risk youth had to take a walk around the block. But fearlessly, we continue! On the Magnum, Dan interviews Inka, the creator of ForPlay Films: Erotica made by women, for women. And somehow Dan convinced Nancy to talk about sex during a woman's "moon time." This show is a banger. 206-302-2064.
Magnum Episode
Subscribe to the Magnum
Ad-free episodes with exclusive extended content
Subscribe now
The kindly mother of a 12 year-old boy wonders if she should discreetly leave some lube by his bed as he learns to love him himself fully. A woman is horrified to discover that her hook-up doesn't have sheets on the bed. "The bed is no good," she laments. Should she see him again? Is there a fix here? Dan and the mighty Mistress Matisse revisit the horrifying SESTA/FOSTA bill snaking its way into law. This bill will be devastating to sex workers and the internet in general. Please follow #LetUsSurvive onTwitter and learn about this latest nasty piece of legislation. In much happier news, a caller who formerly suffered from Death Grip Syndrome, has made a full recovery, thanks to Dan's proven therapy program.
Magnum Episode
Subscribe to the Magnum
Ad-free episodes with exclusive extended content
Subscribe now
Subscribe to the Magnum
Ad-free episodes with exclusive extended content
Subscribe now