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Dr. Jen Gunter on Recurrent UTIs.

Episode #744 — January 26, 2021

Welcome to the sisterhood! A trans woman got aggressively propositioned by one of the men in her macho friend group. Another one slut-shamed her after she posted a bikini pic on Insta. Wait. Men are pigs??? You may recall, a couple weeks ago we heard from a woman with recurrent UTIs. We got flooded with responses from women who have also suffered, with a wide variety of recommendations. Some sounded a little...iffy. So we brought on Dr. Jen Gunter, author of The Vagina Bible to address this. Listen in to hear what the current medical science has to offer. On the Magnum, a woman would like to date someone who isn't a broke-ass man, for once. But she isn't a gold-digger either. She and Dan chat about how to thread this needle. And, a married woman doesn't understand how you can live with someone, see them act like a slob, smell their farts, and still be attracted to them. Does she need to live in a separate house?
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He took part in the Moderna vaccine trial, which puts him at the front of the line to get his shot. But he's a young, healthy man who works from home. Should he wait, lest he deny someone who needs it more than him? A woman starting a new relationship used to have an eating disorder that damaged her heart to such an extent that she gets easily winded. What should she say if her new man wants to go mountain climbing? On the Magnum, Dan chats with our favorite lawyer, Diana Adams, about asking your pal to donate his sperm so you and your girlfriend can have a little, bitty baby. Also, they discuss the unholy coupling of poly-minded person with a monogamy-minded person. It's hard! And, a gay man wants an erotic pen-pal relationship like in days of old. Are there any gentlemen out there who would like to use their quills to tickle his fancy?
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Insta-Apocalypse with JoEllen Notte.

Episode #741 — January 5, 2021

Ah, the pleasures of getting rimmed! But what if you are alone, during quarantine times? Is there a sex toy out there to help a lass get off? Starting in kindergarten, a woman began masturbating using a very specific and very odd technique. Now she needs to do this, and she's super-embarrassed about it. How can she get over her shame, and possibly move on to more conventional orgasm inducers? On the Magnum version of the show, is Instagram going the way of Tumblr- removing all sexual content? Writer and sex educator JoEllen Notte is on to explain the sitch. A woman had a fun fling with a man 17 years her senior. She ended the sex, but they became good friends. Now, 2 years later, she's changed her mind again, and wants him to be her boyfriend. How can she lure him back?
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A woman needs a giant wiener to feel satisfied. That's just how it is. But how can she vet prospective partners ahead of time? How can she tell her current man that his average-sized dick just isn't big enough? Ah the hypocrisy...a man is turned on by videos aimed at voyeurs, where people don't know they're being filmed. Then! He was filmed at a bathhouse, and now that the pics are out...he's furious. He knows he's being hypocritical, but what can he do? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Rachel Gelman about the importance of the pelvic floor in sexual health. And a woman wonders if she should be offended by "unsolicited baby pics" from her ex-boyfriend.
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Is polyamory still cancelled?

Episode #727 — September 29, 2020

Some rando started following a woman on Insta. He confessed that he jerks off to her yoga photos. She told him she would have to charge him a fee for this. He agreed. The question is... how much? A woman Googled her dad. What did she find? She found videos of women in bathing suits. If you Googled her dad, you would see this. Should she tell her dad? Good lord, how? On the Magnum, let's talk about anal prolapse, shall we? Because it's so sexy! Tristan Taormino, author of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, talks about ways to mitigate this common problem. She and Dan also revisit the question of whether polyamory is cancelled in the time of Covid-19. And, when you think your mom is cool with you being gay, but then re-posts some Trumpy nonsense, should you try to educate her?
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A dick pic study!

Episode #723 — September 1, 2020

A woman's husband had low testosterone, so he started taking T. But then, he turned into a total asshole! Is this normal? Is this just what testosterone does? A trans woman has not yet had bottom surgery. While she waits, how can she find a woman who would want her as she is now, and how she will be later? On the Magnum, Dan chats with sex researcher Alexandra Marcotte about her study looking at how men and women differ in their enjoyment of dick pics. A woman has a girlfriend but they don't live together. The caller is very cautious about covid-19: She wipes all her groceries down, sterilizes the doorknobs- that sort of thing. Meanwhile, her girlfriend's roommates are going out to bars, throwing caution to the wind. How can the caller try to limit contact? Is there a huge fight in their future? Open your wallets and go to https://www.votefromhome2020.org 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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Cuckolding with Venus

Episode #722 — August 25, 2020

A woman started dating a transman. But then his personality completely changed. I this just a trans thing? Or a coincidence? A verse dyke working as a nanny in an uptight conservative community can't find any other lesbians. She's so horny she would settle for a man. But how can she find someone willing to be her "walking dildo?" On the Magnum, a deep dive into cuckolding, with the utterly charming Venus from the Venus Cuckoldress Podcast. What drives a man to be turned on watching his partner get together with other men? What's in it for the woman? It's a wild, wild world and Venus takes us through it. And blechhhh! Her man douses himself in cologne. She HATES the smell of cologne. (Don't we all?) He knows this, and still pours buckets of expensive chemicals on himself to mask his natural, lovely body scent. Why? Why do they do this? Our caller is worried about hurting his feelings. So she sits there and suffers. If you smell something, say something. 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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What's Kansas Got Going For It?

Episode #714 — June 30, 2020

A gay married man faces a choice. He can keep his stable job, if he moves to...Kansas. Dan brings on Kansas State Representative Brandon Woodard to try to sell his state to the caller. At the top of this list of the midwestern state's redemptive qualities: Kansas is only 3 hours away from everywhere else! So, they've got that going for them. A woman is horrified that her husband wants to "suckle" her breasts as if she were lactating. "Just one time?" he begs. On the Magnum, Dan gushingly chats with public health super-hero Dr. Demetre Daskalakis. The dreamy Deputy Commissioner for Disease Control at the NYC Health Department is responsible for some of the most honest, rational, pro-sex messaging coming out of New York City, and Dan is nothing less than star-struck. Listen in. And, a woman with step-children found herself watching some step-mom porn. And she liked it! WHAT DOES THIS MEAN?
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The Benefits of Bush.

Episode #713 — June 23, 2020

Thongs! They are so sexy! But when used as a face mask at the hardware store, what then? A woman has been dating a guy for a few months. He has one of those giant penises you have heard about. So there's that. But he is also saying some troubling, racist and sexist things. So. Should she continue to see the big dick with a big dick? On the Magnum, Dan chats with women's health expert Dr. Tami Rowen about the near ubiquitous practice of pubic hair grooming. Why are so many women bush-whacking? Are there any benefits to leaving your "down there" hair alone? And, a man (with a lovely Irish accent) wants to have kids with his girlfriend, but doesn't want to live with her. Is there a way to maintain a relationship and co-parent from two separate houses?
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Kink and race with the mighty BlakSyn.

Episode #709 — May 26, 2020

A married couple in an open relationship used to enjoy glory holes at play parties. Then along came some covid-19. But did that stop them? Hell no! They grabbed the kids' old sheets and made a home glory hole. Now THAT'S what I'm talking about, America! A man's mother died when he was 13, and his father quickly re-married. He found a letter revealing that his father and step-mother had been having an affair before his mother died. Now what? His dad is sick and old. Should he confront him about it? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan interviews BDSM educator BlakSyn about kink and race play. How can you use words with a history of trauma, in a transformative, consensual way? Is it ever OK to use the word "slave?" What about the N-word? And, a 60 year old man whispers about how he came 7 times the other night. He just wants you to know this. Now we know. 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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