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Hypnokink! With Michal Daveed.

Episode #691 — January 21, 2020

A happily single woman finally broke down after pressure from her friend to have some sex. Against her misgivings, he convinced her to pursue a relationship, promising that if it didn't work out, they could go back to being friends, easy-peasy. Guess what! Now that she wants to break it off, he can't deal with being just friends AND they are starting a business together. Please take heed to this cautionary tale. A pregnant woman can't stand the consistency of her husband's thick, slimy spit. If he drinks more water, will it change? Can she demand he do so? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with writer Michal Daveed about hypno-kink. You know, erotic hypnosis? She explains how god damn sexy it can be, and dispels some myths too. And, hear a most UNwholesome tale about what goes down under the mistletoe. Seriously, that whole mistletoe thing has always been a recipe for disaster, don't you think? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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Michael Hobbes on Human Trafficking Hysteria

Episode #689 — January 7, 2020

Why, oh why (bemoans this woman,) is it that the indie, cool, female-owned sex stores never carry dildos that are big enough for her? WHY?! A gay man has been invited to be the man of honor at his sister's wedding. But you know what's weird? The sister is marrying a racist, anti-gay creep who has convinced her that the caller (and all gay people) are degenerates. So. Should our caller carry out his man of honor duties nonetheless? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with Michael Hobbes, co-host of the "You're Wrong About" podcast, about the misinformation swirling around the concept of human trafficking. And a 20 year-old woman is dating an older man. He wants to have kids one day. She is nowhere near considering such a thing. But when they have sex, she gets turned on by talking about getting knocked up. Is it unethical to engage in pregnancy dirty talk with a man who wants to be a dad?
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The Origins of Herpes Hysteria.

Episode #688 — December 31, 2019

It's kind of the bad actors show. A biting biter bit her boyfriend and drew blood. He didn't like it, so she calls him a baby. A dude wonders if can catch a contact high from sleeping with someone who is on meth. A man is miffed because a couple who came to the wedding didn't sent them a gift. Dan sternly chastises them all. People! It's 2020! Behave yourselves! On the Magnum, Dan interviews journalist L.V. Anderson about the history of herpes hysteria. And, vampire porn: How popular is it? Let's have some stats.
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Erika Moen's holiday sex toy picks!

Episode #686 — December 17, 2019

The show begins with an insecurity vampire. You know the kind. A person who sucks you dry with their endless need for praise and reassurance. This man is dating one, but is she entirely to blame? It's complicated. And, it's a wedding battle royale! In one corner we have our caller getting married to a man who has a child by a previous marriage- living out of town. In the other corner is the fiancé's mother, who wants to minimize contact between the kid and the caller. Whose side are you on? Grab some popcorn and listen in. On the Magnum, Santa's rollin' up! What's he got this time? Well, if he listens to resident sex toy expert Erika Moen (and he does,) out tumbles a massive cache of marital aids, including a cock sleeve that spins! A bullet vibe! A dual density dildo! "Sex in a Can! " And a Sex Machine. Like an actual machine. Not Santa himself. Is it January yet? And finally, a lesbian is in a stable, joyful, poly relationship. But she is grappling with a new partner in the scene, who has a medical condition that causes her to burp and fart all the time. It's driving the caller bonkers. She considers this a real torment. We consider it podcast gold. 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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Shy lady doms rise up! With Midori.

Episode #683 — November 26, 2019

A man is getting re-married. Is it shoddy to use the same officiant as his first wedding? Dan talks to a woman who had a blurry encounter with another woman as a very sexually repressed Christian school. Her lover called it rape the next day. It's been ten years, and in this #MeToo era, the caller wonders if she should find the woman and apologize. On the Magnum, a biseuxal woman wonders how she can reconcile being shy and also explore her sexually dominant side. Dan brings the wonderful Midori, wholeads the ForteFemme Women's Dominance Intensive. She knows her stuff, and will surely help churn out an army of joyfully dominant women. Also, Dan issues a tutorial on how to talk dirty without being vulgar. Ok Miss Manners...206-302-2064
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It's the food poisoning episode!

Episode #677 — October 15, 2019

A woman has vowed to never date a Trump voter. But she lives in a small conservative town, and she's getting lonely... A woman did some sex work a couple years ago. She's dating someone new and wonders if, when or how to tell him. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Joan Price, author of "Naked at Our Age" about how to combat the effects of early menopause. Poor unicorn! Her couple broke up! Should she ask the lady in the (former) couple if she can continue to be with her ex? Awkward! 206-302-2064 Feel better Dan!
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The Case for Nudism

Episode #660 — June 18, 2019

A gay man is dating a self-described "Sex Pig." His antics in public are epic. The caller wants to figure out if he can learn to be more carefree and uninhibited or negotiate some rules to please them both. Hear and learn from the cautionary tale of the dutiful daughter housesitting for her parents, and the hidden videocamera. On the Magnum, Dan stammers through a conversation about a topic that makes him feel...uncomfortable: NUDITY. Stéphane Deschenes from The Naturist Living Show podcast tries to convince our fully clothed host that casual nudity is underrated. And he should stop being so uptight already. Also, a man wants to give pregnant women massages, because...boners. Should he be honest and upfront about his ulterior motive? 206-302-2064
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With Sex Worker's Rights Advocate Alex Andrews.

Episode #657 — May 28, 2019

Here are the Savage Lovecast we've noticed that we'll get a bunch of calls on a particular subject all at once. This week it was abortion and weddings. A caller asks if we should just sit on our hands and let Alabama and the other states hijacked by their far right politicians reap the political cost of criminalizing abortion. Hear Dan counsel a gay man who is getting married. A straight couple who the caller considered friends revealed that they couldn't come to the wedding because it violates their Biblical principles. (Sounds like 2 less place settings to deal with. Yahtzee!) On the Magnum, Dan interviews Alex Andrews from the great sex workers' rights advocacy group SWOP. They talk about their pen pal program for incarcerated sex workers, and a misguided (at best) piece of legislation coming up in Florida. And hear the tale of the lovelorn lad and The Mooch.
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People are...good? With Nicholas A. Christakis.

Episode #653 — April 30, 2019

A kinky woman enjoys having slaves. But the guy she really likes is vanilla. It didn't work out. This is sad. Does being kinky mean you can't have vanilla love too? A school teacher and her boyfriend want to go to a sex club. But she's worried about running into parents of her students, or school administration. How cautious should this sexy schoolmarm be? On the Magnum, Dan chats with sociologist and author Nicholas A. Christakis about his book: Blueprint: The Evolutionary Origins of a Good Society. They discuss monogamy, polyandry, polygyny and the human propensity for ...wait for it...peace and love. How he fares against eternal pessimist Dan Savage is up to you to decide. And, a fat man bemoans the lack of porn celebrating fat men.
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The Bad Behavior Show

Episode #639 — January 22, 2019

Some of you are doing terrible things. We start with a teen who has been sneaking off with her mother's vibrator. How can her long-suffering parents encourage her to use one without using *that particular* one? A woman's new boyfriend begs her to let him change her tampon, saying it would bring them closer together. Is this a fetish of his? Is this a fetish of anyone's? This isn't "bad," per se but just what the Sam Hill is going on on here? On the Magnum, Dan chats with bad-assed victims' right's lawyer Carrie Goldberg about the hook-up app Grindr dragging their feet on intervening in some very serious harassment going on. Bad! And, we're not done, just you listen! A woman loves to cheat- she loves the sneaking around, the lying, all of it. She doesn't want poly, she wants to cheat! AND. A gay man regularly "sticks it in" without a condom, even when expressly forbidden to do so. That is so, so bad. Dan has his work cut out for him this week.
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