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With 24/7 submissive goddess Lina Dune.

Episode #726 — September 22, 2020

A woman is still friendly with her ex-husband. So friendly that she sends him nudes which he pays for. But she just learned that he's re-married! Is it unethical to continue this naughty exchange? A woman begs Dan to tell her to break up with her emotionally shut-down boyfriend. Dan obliges. Dan chats with 24/7 submissive goddess Lina Dune about the healing power of safe, sane, consensual kink. A little of the conversation is on the Micro and all of it is on the Magnum. And a woman notices that her boyfriend never gets hard when he goes down on her. And he doesn't do it very often. Is there anything she can do to make her lovely vag irresistible? 206-302-3064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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Ask a Mortician!

Episode #725 — September 15, 2020

A woman was babysitting her neighbor's 3 year-old daughter. The girl took her clothes off and started touching herself. Should the caller say something to the parents? Is this behavior a red flag for abuse? Or is this just how the 3 year-olds roll? A man with a very girthy penis can't come without extended penis-in-vagina action. But sometimes his ladies can't handle it. He started faking his orgasms. Any other solutions here? On the Magnum version of the show, Caitlin Doughty (host of Ask a Mortician on YouTube,) is on to discuss how the pandemic is changing the way we handle funerals, grieving and possible positive changes in the death industry. She is the most charming goth mortician you'll ever encounter. And, in the response calls, our ever-pragmatic listeners offer great suggestions on how to make a bed work for three people.
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With Dr. Jen Gunter of the Vagina Bible

Episode #724 — September 8, 2020

A woman has had a LOT of sex, mostly with men. But she is realizing that she is truly only attracted to women. The problem is, when she talks to a hot woman, she starts stuttering and stammering in terror. How can she grow to be comfortable in her true skin? A man's girlfriend fantasizes that she's a gay man when they have sex. Does this mean she's trans? She insists she's all woman, but the caller is worried, worried, worried. On the Magnum, a deep dive onto vaginas (yup!) with Dr. Jen Gunter, author of the Vagina Bible. She and Dan discuss tipped uteruses, HATING your boyfriend but just before your period, and a rare ear-labia connection. Vaginas are weird and great! And, how can one make one's bed most comfortable for three? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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A dick pic study!

Episode #723 — September 1, 2020

A woman's husband had low testosterone, so he started taking T. But then, he turned into a total asshole! Is this normal? Is this just what testosterone does? A trans woman has not yet had bottom surgery. While she waits, how can she find a woman who would want her as she is now, and how she will be later? On the Magnum, Dan chats with sex researcher Alexandra Marcotte about her study looking at how men and women differ in their enjoyment of dick pics. A woman has a girlfriend but they don't live together. The caller is very cautious about covid-19: She wipes all her groceries down, sterilizes the doorknobs- that sort of thing. Meanwhile, her girlfriend's roommates are going out to bars, throwing caution to the wind. How can the caller try to limit contact? Is there a huge fight in their future? Open your wallets and go to https://www.votefromhome2020.org 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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Cuckolding with Venus

Episode #722 — August 25, 2020

A woman started dating a transman. But then his personality completely changed. I this just a trans thing? Or a coincidence? A verse dyke working as a nanny in an uptight conservative community can't find any other lesbians. She's so horny she would settle for a man. But how can she find someone willing to be her "walking dildo?" On the Magnum, a deep dive into cuckolding, with the utterly charming Venus from the Venus Cuckoldress Podcast. What drives a man to be turned on watching his partner get together with other men? What's in it for the woman? It's a wild, wild world and Venus takes us through it. And blechhhh! Her man douses himself in cologne. She HATES the smell of cologne. (Don't we all?) He knows this, and still pours buckets of expensive chemicals on himself to mask his natural, lovely body scent. Why? Why do they do this? Our caller is worried about hurting his feelings. So she sits there and suffers. If you smell something, say something. 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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Sex Addiction, with Dr. David Ley.

Episode #721 — August 18, 2020

Have you ever gone snorkeling...naked? On a long anticipated second date? Hear ALL about it... A woman's sister is *still* planning her 100 person wedding for this October. Will covid-19 be over by then? Certainly not. So should the caller go to this deathtrap party, or tell her stupid sister to postpone her stupid wedding already? On the Magnum, Dan chats with clinical psychologist and sex therapist David Ley, about the difference between sex addiction and kinks. And, can extroverts successfully date introverts? Dan seems to have managed nicely. Voicemail@savageloivecast.com 206-302-2064
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OK Boomer...

Episode #720 — August 11, 2020

A man's new boyfriend is really great in every way! Except...he believes in mythical creatures, thinks he has super-powers and that the government is communicating with him through the radio. So, should the caller leave his mentally ill new boyfriend or try to get him some help? Meanwhile, a woman's sister has started dating a "professional" astrologer who had gotten kicked out of the marines, believes in conspiracy theories and wants to move to Mexico with the caller's sister after dating for just a few months. How can the caller help her stubborn sister see all those red flags a'flappin'? On the Magnum, It's a generational battle royale! Dan chats with Jill Filipovic author of "Ok Boomer, Let's Talk" in a Millennial vs Boomer sex-advice smack down! (Just kidding. They agree on pretty much everything.) Filipovic's book goes into the ways the younger generations have been shafted by the olds. Time to seize power, youngun's! A bi man's boyfriend is being driven crazy by his new neighbor. She has noisy sex at all hours, disrupting the boyfriend's sleep and work life. Should they have ear-piercing retaliatory sex to teach her a lesson?
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Mistress Velvet COMMANDS you...

Episode #719 — August 4, 2020

Our opening covid-19 "sexcess" story is extra special this week. You will never think of Tollhouse cookies the same way again. Don't you hate it when your brother-in-law steals your underpants, and uses them to jack off? This little sordid story only gets worse. On the Magnum, meet the dominatrix who forces her clients to read Black feminist theory. Mistress Velvet and Dan discuss performative wokeness, allies vs. accomplices, and the transformative power of S&M among many other things. Mistress Velvet knows her shit. Obey her and listen in. And a woman and her boyfriend keep breaking the bed! Is there a bed frame out there that can withstand this couple's vigorous rutting?
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Love is Not Tourism

Episode #718 — July 28, 2020

An Irish man has found dating success with his "personal operating manual." After the second date or so, he slides over a piece of paper delineating his likes and dislikes, in bed and out. It cuts through a lot of clutter, says he. For those of you separated from your loved ones because of travel restrictions, there could be some hope maybe? Dan chats with Chelsea from "Love is Not Tourism" a group working to allow stipulations for folks who want to reunite with their beloveds in other countries. A kindly aunt has been counseling her newly out niece. The niece and her mother don't get along. Is it wrong for the caller to step in and chaperone her niece on her first date with a slightly older girl? And, one hot day, a woman found her "nubbin" tingling when she thought about ice cream for a second. Panic ensues. Is she some kind of ice cream fetishizing pervert? Her girlfriend tells her to chill out. So do we. Voicemail@savagelovecast.com 206-302-2064
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A man has been with his boyfriend for a year. The boyfriend's supposedly straight roommate gives intimate hugs and drops obvious homo hints when he's drunk. The caller doesn't like him or trust him. Does he have to put up with this? This lady likes a giant, huge, enormous, really big penis. She proposes a hack for when she's with a more modestly endowed gentleman. Could she insert a yoni egg inside her vagina, to simulate that Big Dick feeling? Would this work? Dan? On the Magnum, we welcome the Kinsey Institute's Justin Lehmiller. Dan and Dr. Lehmiller discuss the difficulty of stating your sexual desires to a partner when your desires are...weird. Or disturbing. It's tough out there for a closet kinkster. Dr. Lehmiller's rational thinking and soothing voice are a balm in these confusing times. Finally, a man is dating a woman he really likes. But her parents are Trump supporters. She claims she isn't going to vote at all in November. (!!!) Is she a secret Trump supporter? Does he have the right to demand she vote for Biden? Does this rise to DTMFA levels?
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