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Decriminalize Sex Work!

Episode #649 — April 2, 2019

A man often yawns soon after coming. He has to convince his partners that he's not bored. A dutiful father worries that when he drops his used come-rag in the laundry along with his kids' clothes that his sperm is getting spread around the innocent garments. "Does the come actually exit the washing machine?" asks this anxious father. "Does it go away?" On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Kaytlin Bailey, host of The Oldest Profession podcast & Director of Communications for Decriminalize Sex Work. In case you were wondering, treating sex workers as criminals sure doesn't help them. And, a woman and her boyfriend want to try role playing. But she is an actor by profession, and worries that she'll feel like she's just punching the clock.
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With comedian Kate Willett

Episode #648 — March 26, 2019

A woman has been dating her older boyfriend for 6 years, and she still hasn't met his kids. Does she have grounds for righteous indignation here? A woman and her boyfriend are considering bringing in another man for a threeway. How can they proceed with caution? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with comedian Kate Willett about dating Trump voters, breaking up amicably and what to do when the boner fails to show up. Also, when your boyfriend prefers bathhouses to you.
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With Andrew Rannells

Episode #647 — March 19, 2019

A woman and her husband are having a difficult year. And to top it off, he divulged that he likes to wear women's clothes, and would like to raid her closet. She worries that this is just the first step toward a transgender identity. Do straight men ever like to wear women's clothes? (Spoiler: Yes.) A woman's conservative cousin has started working at a "Crisis Parenting Center," that gives misinformation about abortion. Should she confront her? On the Magnum, Dan chats with his soul brother the Broadway god Andrew Rannells. Discussion topics: black sheets, home decor, male unicorns, and Andrew's new memoir- Too Much is Not Enough: A Memoir of Fumbling Toward Adulthood." And, here's a conundrum. A vegan is into leather. Discuss. 206-302-2064
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The TRIGGER show.

Episode #646 — March 12, 2019

Yowsers! it's the TRIGGER SHOW. This show is pretty gnarly. There's molestation, pedophila, snuff porn, incest, dicks in a drawer, blubbering boyfriends and even doggity style! Listen in if you dare. On the Magnum, we also have Dan's transman pal Jens Cinquemani on to take a few trans-orented calls. 206-302-2064
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We got PUNKED.

Episode #645 — March 5, 2019

A woman has taken up with two men. One of them is a pal, and it's all about the sex. The other one is her perfect fit emotionally, but the sex is on the "meh" side. How on earth can she choose between them? A while back we had on a guest who turned out to be a charlatan! He duped a lot of media outlets, the Lovecast included. Dan interviews the journalist from Gizmodo who outed this fraud. Crow: it's what's for dinner. On the Magnum, a woman is dating a guy who is great in every way, except! He has terrible teeth. Would it be too shallow of her to dump him over this? And, a woman still grieving over her father's death sobs when she orgasms. Is this normal?
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Johann Hari on the depression epidemic.

Episode #644 — February 26, 2019

A man lives in a duplex below a couple women. One day, he heard them having sex, and it inspired him to have a wank. Now he feels guilty. Is he an Eavesdropping Tom? A woman hooked up with a younger man. He asked her if his penis looked like it was circumcised. He wasn't and she told him so. How could a fella possibly not know this about himself? It is very perplexing. On the Magnum Dan has a long conversation with Johann Hari - the controversial author of "Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – and the Unexpected Solutions." They discuss the western world's depression epidemic and whether treatment is over-medicalized. Hari offers a new paradigm on how to truly address human suffering. And what about being in a relationship with depressed people? That's Dan's wheelhouse. Listen in.
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The Ethics of HIV Disclosure

Episode #643 — February 19, 2019

When bisexual friends go wild: A lesbian has been buddies with a bi woman for a while. Guess what happened when they got drunk! Now, the bi friend is asking her boyfriend for a hall pass to sleep with the lesbian friend. But will their friendship be able to withstand all this newfound passion? Hear two tales concerning the ethics of HIV disclosure: A male/female couple have always been bi and open. But when they both got HIV it became much more difficult to find other partners willing to take the risk. And, a transwoman sex worker also has HIV. She is on meds, and undetectable. Her sugar daddy who wants to take her on a fabulous trip. Should she tell him? Speaking of sex workers, on the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Lucy Platt about her study looking at how criminalization of sex work affects the health of sex workers. And, dating handsome bartenders. It ain't easy.
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With Eric Leue from the Free Speech Coalition.

Episode #642 — February 12, 2019

A woman makes twice as much as her boyfriend. When he learned this his eyes went wide. Now she feels guilty. Should she start paying more of the bills? Do you like piña coladas? A kinky woman started dating a new man. Before she could tell him about her kinks she discovered that the dude she's been talking dirty with on Fetlife is THE SAME GUY, but he doesn't know it yet. How can she tell him that they are already...acquainted? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Eric Leue from the Free Speech Coalition about the rise of sex censorship on the internet. Then Eric stayed on to help Dan answer some questions about using dom/sub sex to relieve anxiety, inhibiting your gag reflex, and straight bartenders in gay bars. 206-302-2064
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Squirt along with Dr. Zhana!

Episode #641 — February 5, 2019

Hey uncircumcised fellas! Would you get cut because your girlfriend wanted you to? Because she thought that it made your dick bigger? Would you really? This guy did. Hear the tale of a man's sexual adventure in Las Vegas, and how he can't seem to find a lady unless he's paying her. Gracing us on both the Micro and the Magnum, sex researcher Dr. Zhana Vrangalova explains the current state of the science on squirting. What exactly is that stuff anyway? Then she stayed on to help answer a question on the Magnum about companionate marriage, and being married to a man with a madonna/whore complex. Listen in- Dr. Zhana is wonderful. And, a woman learns that her boyfriend has been secretly sexting a random woman for years. She found out because the other woman was exacting her REVENGE for ending the Instagram relationship. Now what? 206-302-2064 Do you squirt? Take the survey! www.squirtingsurvey.com Want to learn how to squirt/make your partner squirt? http://bit.ly/squirtingclass
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Dating with Disabilities

Episode #640 — January 29, 2019

Therapy is good right? It gets you in touch with your feelings. Unless...those feelings you are getting in touch with are jealousy, paranoia and possessiveness. Sometimes it's time to BACK AWAY FROM THE FEELINGS. Anyway, here's the kind of question you really came for: A woman is about to turn thirty and wants to throw a big sex party with XTC a'flowin'. But she is also a mom and wants to invite her other mom friends. Should she offer them party drugs too? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Andrew Gurza from the Disability After Dark podcast to talk about dating when you have a disability. And, a bi woman is dating her first lady. The problem? This lady gets very, very, very, very wet. So wet that the caller wonders if she should keep a washcloth by the bed. You should have such problems, right? 206-302-2064
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