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The Planned Parenthood Show!

Episode #715 — July 7, 2020

Hear the tale of the NB lesbian who snooped and found out that the sex worker they want to hire makes more money than they do, and finds this unacceptable. (Confidential to the caller: you'll eventually get over the pummeling Dan gives you.) We were so honored to welcome Dr. Erin Berry -regional Medical Director of Planned Parenthood. Dan and Dr. Berry blasted through a bunch of your questions (HPV vaccine for men, molluscum, IUDs, bidets for women, more!) and of course they discussed abortion and the recent Supreme Court decision. Dr. Berry is a rock star. Some of it is on the Micro version and all of it is on the Magnum. Listen in. And, a queer woman enjoys using her strap-on as if it were a penis. But do gay men do the same? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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What's Kansas Got Going For It?

Episode #714 — June 30, 2020

A gay married man faces a choice. He can keep his stable job, if he moves to...Kansas. Dan brings on Kansas State Representative Brandon Woodard to try to sell his state to the caller. At the top of this list of the midwestern state's redemptive qualities: Kansas is only 3 hours away from everywhere else! So, they've got that going for them. A woman is horrified that her husband wants to "suckle" her breasts as if she were lactating. "Just one time?" he begs. On the Magnum, Dan gushingly chats with public health super-hero Dr. Demetre Daskalakis. The dreamy Deputy Commissioner for Disease Control at the NYC Health Department is responsible for some of the most honest, rational, pro-sex messaging coming out of New York City, and Dan is nothing less than star-struck. Listen in. And, a woman with step-children found herself watching some step-mom porn. And she liked it! WHAT DOES THIS MEAN?
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The Benefits of Bush.

Episode #713 — June 23, 2020

Thongs! They are so sexy! But when used as a face mask at the hardware store, what then? A woman has been dating a guy for a few months. He has one of those giant penises you have heard about. So there's that. But he is also saying some troubling, racist and sexist things. So. Should she continue to see the big dick with a big dick? On the Magnum, Dan chats with women's health expert Dr. Tami Rowen about the near ubiquitous practice of pubic hair grooming. Why are so many women bush-whacking? Are there any benefits to leaving your "down there" hair alone? And, a man (with a lovely Irish accent) wants to have kids with his girlfriend, but doesn't want to live with her. Is there a way to maintain a relationship and co-parent from two separate houses?
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Stock up on Sex Toys with Erika Moen!

Episode #712 — June 16, 2020

Oh Jesus Mary and Joseph, our opening sex during quarantine story is scorching hot this week, hoo boy. A woman is working from home with her boyfriend. He sets up his computer monitors with one screen always playing Twtich streams with young blonde hotties. Is the caller allowed to be annoyed by this? On the Magnum, sex toy expert and generally charming person Erika Moen is on to make a bunch of recommendations for gear to get you through these extremely challenging times. Also, what is up with sex dolls? A deep discussion ensues. A woman asked her man to dominate her. He responded "You suck at doing dishes!!" That's not what she had in mind. How can she learn him to boss her around? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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A deep dive into anal hygiene.

Episode #711 — June 9, 2020

At a business meeting, an older, sophisticated gay man gave a presentation with a couple buttons of his jeans undone. Was he sending a message? If so, what? A woman has noticed that men are now wearing wedding rings on BOTH hands. Are they sending a message? If so, what? On the Magnum, it's a deep anal-sex hygiene dive with gay culture columnist Ty Mitchel. A caller wonders why the younger men he sleeps with have trouble keeping...fresh. Dan and Ty are here to help. And, a woman's roommate is going out and having casual hookups. During these 'Rona times, it puts the whole house at risk. How can she confront him about this? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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Why does Dr. Barak keep returning to the show?

Episode #710 — June 2, 2020

A remote controlled buttplug? In the bath? This pandemic is getting pretty fun! A woman asks a question that so many of us are also wondering: is it safe to be romantically intimate with someone who has already recovered from covid-19? When? Dan brings on the intrepid Dr. Barak to answer, and as usual hits him with a gnarly second question just to make the good doctor squirm. Are you a parent? Have you had some challenges raising your kids? Is your kid a foot fetishist? If you answered either yes or no to any of these questions, then you're going to want to listen in. And, a man in an open relationship feels empty and sad after he orgasms with anyone but his primary partner. How can he retrain his brain? Tickets to the Savage Lovecast Livestream are at www.savagelovecast.com/events Send your written questions ahead of time to livestream@savagelovecast.com 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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Kink and race with the mighty BlakSyn.

Episode #709 — May 26, 2020

A married couple in an open relationship used to enjoy glory holes at play parties. Then along came some covid-19. But did that stop them? Hell no! They grabbed the kids' old sheets and made a home glory hole. Now THAT'S what I'm talking about, America! A man's mother died when he was 13, and his father quickly re-married. He found a letter revealing that his father and step-mother had been having an affair before his mother died. Now what? His dad is sick and old. Should he confront him about it? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan interviews BDSM educator BlakSyn about kink and race play. How can you use words with a history of trauma, in a transformative, consensual way? Is it ever OK to use the word "slave?" What about the N-word? And, a 60 year old man whispers about how he came 7 times the other night. He just wants you to know this. Now we know. 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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It's not easy being poly...

Episode #708 — May 19, 2020

A married man is sick of his military husband being overseas all the time. How can they make their chronically long-distance relationship work? Ok, here's something you've all wondered: how do you get rid of sex dolls? Are they too toxic for the landfill? Is there a market for "gently used?" On the Magnum, how are the poly people supposed to do their poly thing, right now? Dan chats with Diana Adams, a lawyer and mediator who specializes in LGBTQ and polyamorous families. Is there a polite, non-confrontational, and effective way to ask a lover to delete your nudes? You know, before things get bad?
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Hey everybody! It's Marc Maron!

Episode #707 — May 12, 2020

We open the show with a marital tale of delicious rug burn. It's the battle of the podcast goliaths! Dan welcomes Marc Maron to the show, and the two engage in a civil debate about whether porn can be "addictive." Also, they discuss a very special piece of equipment. Some of this convo is on the Micro version and all of it is on the Magnum. He likes to wear womens' clothing when he spanks it. She thinks this makes him queer. He insists he's not. She says he should find a lady who likes that sort of thing. He says he only wants her. These are the kinds of arguments this couple has. A lesbian plans to propose to her girlfriend of 4 years. She wants to throw a giant "proposal party" with friends and family from far and wide as a surprise. She was planning on doing this soon. You know, during the pandemic? Will Dan talk her out it? God, let's hope so. 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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Depressed AND horny??!

Episode #706 — May 5, 2020

Have you ever done it hanging from a cliff in your mountain climbing harness? This caller has. They named the climb "Quarantine." Meanwhile in Italy, a woman managed to slip a finger in her boyfriend's butt. He didn't stop her, but didn't say anything about it, and they haven't discussed it since. How can she bring it up with him and resume this activity when they are reunited? On the Magnum, Dan chats with JoEllen Notte, author of "The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We Aren't Having" about being an introvert during the pandemic, and how it IS possible to be both horny and depressed. A woman is dating a man who cares about his appearance, is capable of crying and makes her breakfast. IS HE GAY?
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