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Season 16 is here!

Episode #365 — October 22, 2013

Welcome to Season 16 of the Savage Lovecast! This Magnum season has 26 episodes, from October 22 through April 22. Click the Season Subscription button to get yours. On this week's Magnum, Dan interviews Jesse Bering, author of "Perv: The Sexual Deviant in All of Us." They discuss finding the right porn, spanking, "every-sexuals," exhibitionism, and amputee fetishists, all while undergoing an experiment in auto-unerotic asphyxiation. Diapers not included. Also on the Magnum, a woman suspects she was filmed during sex. What legal recourse does she have? On the Micro version: An out gay man is accused of being "straight acting," even though he's comfortable with his homosexuality. But, he's attracted to straight guys. How can he meet other guys just like him, and does he have some internalized homophobia to work through? Also, Dan reveals his tried and true tips for overcoming fear of flying.
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Who knew science could be so sexy?

Episode #364 — October 15, 2013

THE NEXT SEASON (SEASON 16) OF THE SAVAGE LOVECAST WILL DROP ON OCTOBER 22ND. Come back here to get it then. A gay man wonders if he should bring mace to his first date. Dan consoles a woman who feels horribly guilty for blowing a selfish, but scorchingly hot dude. When a lover threatens suicide as a means to prevent a break-up, is this pure manipulation, or a credible threat? Dan speaks with an expert on suicide prevention. On the Magnums, Dan speaks with Dr. Meredith Chivers for a "What You Got" on masochism, and how the different genders and orientations relate to sexy, sexy stimuli in a freaky, freaky lab. (Confidential to musicians everywhere: Please send us a clever and short little jingle to play before "What You Got?" Like really short. Under 10 seconds. Send an MP3 to nancy@thestranger.com, won't you?) When secret Santas go off the rails: A woman who organizes her family's secret santa exchange wonders if she should have included her lesbian cousin's wife, when they got married in SECRET. Now the whole family knows, including the conservative Christian side. Ho! Ho! Ho! And a ton more. As always.
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Season 16 approaches! The new season will start on October 22. Be sure to come back here then, to renew or or subscribe for the first time. A maligned man is stigmatized among his social circle for having herpes. A closeted bi woman wonders if she should stop slapping the asses of the rest of the ladies on her team in the showers. Rowwwrrrrr. A 20 year old lesbian has a great relationship…when they see each other. When they communicate online, they rip each other apart. On the Magnums, a happily childless woman is tormented by her relatives who ask her over and over, "WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO HAVE KIDS?" Is there a delicate way to suggest your boyfriend wear a smaller sized condom? Finally, hear the amazing dramatic reenactment of a man going pee. Because he really, really likes to go pee.
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It's Fashion Week with Simon Doonan!

Episode #362 — October 1, 2013

There's a lot of bisexuality sloshing around this show. Dan speaks with Ellyn Ruthstrom of the Bisexual Resource Center on coming out, and seeking acceptance from both straight and gay folks. A bi woman who is married to a man wonders how to let the world know she's bi, when the topic doesn't come up all that often. On the Magnum show, strap on your bonnets people, it's Simon Doonan, fashion correspondent, window dresser, and generally hilarious human. (We suspect he might be a homosexual.) He and Dan dish about panties, rimming and what the tech-savvy at-risk youth are wearing this season. Also, 28 miles per hour? Really?
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How can we help homeless LGBT youth?

Episode #361 — September 24, 2013

Are young ladies allowed to call or "text" unattached, young men to ask for a date? Or would this tarnish a girl's valued reputation? A sex worker wonders if it's ethical for her to fake orgasms with her clients. On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with the saintly Carl Siciliano, from NYC's Ali Forney Center, the nation's largest organization dedicated to homeless LGBT youths. (Confidential to homophobic parents everywhere: You don't really want your kid to live on the streets do you? Do you?) A bewildered straight couple wonders: In which bathroom should our nation's drag queens dwell? Fragrance. Do you have to wear it if your partner wants you to? And more.
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Legit Slut-Shaming???

Episode #360 — September 17, 2013

A gay man's truly evil step-mother falsely accused him of sexually assaulting his younger siblings. His father never rose to his defense. Should he forgive his father or cut off ties? Penises, penises, penises. That's all her ex-girlfriend could ever think about! Is Penis Envy a real thing? And now that she's free of this lunatic, does it matter? On the Magnum side, is there such a thing as "legitimate slut-shaming?" Did you know that the United States prison system has recently enacted progressive policies regarding transgendered inmates? No, you did not. Terry Schuster, an attorney who specializes in the treatment of prisoners, speaks with Dan about how Chelsea Manning can expect to be treated in prison. And a lot more.
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It's Bible study time...

Episode #359 — September 10, 2013

Dan speaks with pro-gay rights Christian John Shore about the NALT Project. Non-douchey Christians: here's your chance to speak up. www.NotAllLikeThat.org A woman discovers (through snooping, how else?) that her boyfriend is into cross-dressing. How can she let him know she approves without letting on that she snooped? A man in a sugar mama relationship feels awkward about accepting his lady's largess. You should have such problems. On the Magnum version, Dan interviews Dr. Jeffrey Parsons about his study looking at monogamish relationships among gay men. Also, a woman's boyfriend really, really, really wants to do anal sex. The hitch? He's got the world's most ginormous penis. And more. Yes, we know that "ginormous" is not a word.
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What gives YOU a boner?

Episode #358 — September 3, 2013

A man (with a British accent that had the tech-savvy, at-risk youth panting like hound dogs at noon,) likes to cat around town, despite his ostensibly monogamous relationship. (Even the way he says "monogamous" is swoon-worthy.) Can or should he change for his girlfriend? Dan speaks with the venerable Dr. Chu about the rare phenomenon of HIV positive men who have undetectable viral loads. A woman knows a man who is being tossed out of his college for sexual assault. Is she obliged to testify against him? On the big, ole Magnum version, Dan and porn actress, director and producer Joanna Angel, talk about the porn industry, and what they do to keep their actors safe from STIs. An unfortunate man is married to a woman who a) won't let him watch porn, b) won't let him masturbate and c) won't fuck him. Guess what Dan's advice is. Do you get boners from the strangest things? We want to hear about it.
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The Nipple Thing.

Episode #357 — August 27, 2013

Dan helps a woman determine the fine line between over-permissiveness and slut-shaming for her 14 year-old step-daughter. In more hand-wringing, a young man wants to be sure he obtains consent from his lucky ladies, but how much asking is too much asking? On the Magnum show, a woman's boyfriend enjoys a nosefull of cocaine every month or so. She hates it. Does she have the right to ask him to choose between her or his precious blow? Dan explains the finer points of slut etiquette to a lass who prefers to dash off rather than spend the night. And finally, hear the tale of the woman whose snooping revealed that her boyfriend was having an affair with his mother's secretary. Stop that snooping ya'll, lest you learn something you wish you hadn't.
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Dating "Senior Sensitivo."

Episode #356 — August 20, 2013

"Cum Dumpster." Is this a sweet, sexy term, or just plain nasty? A straight woman in Texas feels like a nelly gay man trapped in a woman's body. How can she find her people? A woman has been using OK Cupid for 2 years and still hasn't gotten any action. So Dan chats with OK Cupid co-founder Christian Rudder on what she might be doing wrong. On the Magnum version, Dan interviews sex researcher Dr. Joye Swan on risk-taking and using the idea of monogamy as a magical shield. And more.
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