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The Epidemiologist and the Avenger.

Episode #705 — April 28, 2020

Hear the tale of the Garden Wanker, or "What Really Happens in the Asparagus Patch." Dr. Bummer is back! Our epidemiologist pal Dr. Daniel Westreich has returned to talk about the state of the pandemic, how the physical distancing is working, and to mull over the possibility that this could be an opportunity to eliminate ALL STIs. We can dream. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Katelyn Bowden, founder of the BadAss Army- a group that fights for victims of revenge porn. And, we end with a heartwarming coming-out story from a woman who recorded a video for her family and sent it out via group chat. Their response...may shock you. Remember: Not everyone is totally awful.
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Time to lawyer up!

Episode #704 — April 21, 2020

This pandemic is getting sexier and sexier! Who's up for some Strip Ping-Pong? A gay man hooked up with a dude he had met a few months ago through an app. The dude asked our caller if he found him attractive. But the dude's photo was wildly inaccurate. He had gained weight since the photo was taken. When the caller tried to tactfully explain this, dude went ballistic, accusing him of being fat-phobic. Judge Savage issues his ruling. On the Magnum...let's get a lawyer! The pandemic will be mighty good for the lawyering business apparently. Dan brings on divorce attorney Lori Lopez Guzzo to give some free advice to a woman whose husband wants a divorce after encouraging her to quit her job. Her advice? Lawyer up and take him down. And, a woman had broken up with her boyfriend. But now that she is locked down and lonely, she just wanted to be "held and cuddled." Is it ok to invite him back into her life...temporarily? Ok, enough with the Covid-19 calls already! Send us some non-covid related queries and we'll run a virus-free show, we swear!
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With America's Sweetheart, Erin Gibson!

Episode #703 — April 14, 2020

We open with a quarantine sex story, in which a woman's boyfriend pulls on one of her dresses, and things get even better from there. A woman in a poly relationship knows she has to end things soon with her primary partner. So, naturally, she started sleeping with her roommate. Is it time to pull the plug? During these terrible times? How? At long last, it's the guest we've all been waiting for. Feminist comedic genius Erin Gibson, co-host of the Throwing Shade podcast and author of Feminasty: The Complicated Woman’s Guide to Surviving the Patriarchy without Drinking Herself to Death is on to answer some questions, and keep us all company in quarantine. A NYC sex worker who specializes in latex, wonders if it would be safe for her to keep seeing clients in person if she wore a high quality gas mask.
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With comedian Pete Dominick

Episode #702 — April 7, 2020

We open the show with a quarantine sex story featuring some very mysterious noises... Have no fear Doc Barak is here! Dan brings on our long-suffering medical expert to reassure us about how covid-19 can and cannot be transmitted. The good doctor's giggle is, dare we say...infectious. On the Magnum, Dan interviews comedian and podcast host Pete Dominick to help him answer some questions from the hard-to-find straight male perspective. And, after a one night stand, a woman and her lover are still communicating. They had planned to meet in Moscow for a second date, but then the pandemic happened. Is she falling in love? Is it just the stress? Should she tell him? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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Monogamy is looking pretty good!

Episode #701 — March 31, 2020

Just when you thought you understood the world, Dan chats with open relationships guru Tristan Taormino, to tell you to CLOSE IT UP. Monogamy is where it's at these days. Just for a while. A woman in a long distance relationship is trying to embrace video sex. But she worries that she doesn't look sexy when she's truly pleasuring herself. How can she learn to do the "performance" of video sex, and still get off? On the Magnum, Dan calls up Searah Deysach from the feminist sex-toy store Early to Bed, to talk about "sleeves." What are they? What are those bumps? Where can I get me one? And, a lesbian decided not to respond to a trans woman on a dating app. Does this make her a transphobic monster? 206-302-2064
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Paging Dr. Bummer...

Episode #700 — March 24, 2020

This week, Dan's guest is epidemiologist Daniel Westreich, who spells out the concept of physical distancing, and why sexual intimacy is going to be pretty difficult to attain for many of us. Some of the conversation is on the Micro, and all of it is on the Magnum. A man asks if virtual reality porn makes sense to help "spice up your sex life." Why yes, it makes A LOT of sense right now. A woman who is engaged to be married to her boyfriend has a female friend. This friend made a drunken, predatory pass at her. Can/should she forgive and try to salvage the friendship? And, saddle up for this weird ride: A man is married to his wife. Cool, cool. They have an open relationship. No prob. She has a boyfriend. Nice. She lives with her boyfriend. Ok? He is not allowed to seek outside partners. Wait- what? Also, his wife's boyfriend forbids her from having sex with the caller, her husband. Soooooo. The caller needs a little chat from Dan Savage. Ring ring!
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Will You Be My Quarantine?

Episode #699 — March 17, 2020

Here at Savage Lovecast world headquarters, in the heart of the epicenter of the Big Sick, we are keeping calm and carrying on, baby! Dan chats with Dr. Jen Gunter, who had to practice social distancing for ONE YEAR, so quit griping. She offers some strategies for how to deal with your new isolation. And, Dr.Debby Herbenick explains that although the corona virus is not sexually transmitted, you still can't just be mashing with anyone safely these days. Uh doy! Hear the tale of Maya, stuck in Spain and wondering if her relationship is mature enough to endure the rigors of quarantine. And, taking a breather, (as it were) from all this virus talk, Dan speaks with Brian Earp, author of Love Drugs: The Chemical Future of Relationships. The tech-savvy at-risk youth are poised to accept this chemical future. And people! DO NOT PET NANCY'S CAT!
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What about the gay penguins?

Episode #698 — March 10, 2020

Sometimes people call us when they're drunk. Sometimes they call us about their dogs. Welcome to the center of this Venn diagram. A woman has been invited to a "costume wedding." She will be required to dress up like a character in a movie. Is this asking too much? On the Magnum version of the show, it's a super-weird "What You Got?" with an evolutionary reproductive biologist who mulls over the *possibility* that the animal kingdom is teeming with same-sex behavior. Not just the homo penguins. And, a young woman is turned on by much older men. How can she score a silver fox without looking like gold digger?
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With Cameron Esposito!

Episode #697 — March 3, 2020

A gay man was hooking up at a bathhouse. His brand new lover wanted to bring a little romance into the encounter by saying the caller's name and complimenting him. The caller was horrified. Isn't bathhouse sex supposed to be anonymous? Meanwhile, in another corner of our universe, a woman is appalled that her boyfriend closes his eyes when they're having sex. How can she get him to gaze deeply into her soul while pounding her real good? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with stand-up comedian, and podcaster Cameron Esposito about her new book: Save Yourself, and how queerness and the experience of being closeted impacts her comedy. Finally, a married man with a one year-old child bemoans the quality of the "service sex" he's getting these days. With he ever see the return of enthusiastic rutting?
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All about WEED with Lester Black.

Episode #696 — February 25, 2020

A straight man was dating a woman, and it felt great. Until she gave him the "I'm not ready for a relationship" line. Is this always a lie? What does it mean? Dan spells it out, with no sugar on top. A man is worried about his new girlfriend. You see, she has never had penetrative sex. Is he special enough to be her first? On the Micro and more on the Magnum, Dan chats with weed journalist (now there's a sweet job if ever we've heard of one,) Lester Black. They talk about a woman whose smart husband turns into a drooling dullard whilst blazed, smoking when you're pregnant, and the effects of marijuana on dick size. Can you resist this show? No, you cannot. A man on the frozen tundra hasn't had sex in 3 years because he claims to be a grower, not a shower. Women reject him because of his dick size (he thinks) and then reject him further when he fails to eat them out properly. But he wants to learn! He asks his female friends if he can practice on them, but strangely, they all say "no."
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