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On the opening rant: Coming Out 101. What happens next? A mother's pre-teen daughter wants to wear a leather S&M-style choker. How can mom explain why this might not be a good idea? For both the Magnum and the Micro version we were honored to have Dr. Sara Pentlicky from Planned Parenthood in the studio to answer some gnarly medical questions. Dental dams? Check. Warty dicks? Check. Surf Shorts? Check. Wait, what? As you would expect, she handled them all with supreme calm, poise and intelligence. That's Planned Parenthood. Did you know that you can give some money to Planned Parenthood? You can! 206-302-2064
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Mollena Williams on sub space.

Episode #562 — August 1, 2017

If your boyfriend wants you to help him to film women so he can scratch his voyeur itch, is there an ethical way to do this? Hear the sordid tale of the the woman who wants to call Child Protective Services on her own damn boyfriend. On the Magnum, Dan chats with writer and BDSM educator Mollena Williams about "sub space" -what it is, and what it isn't. Also, a woman is getting annoyed that her boyfriend keeps presenting her with highly scripted sex scenarios that probably originated from porn. How can she keep him happy but also fly off-script? 206-302-2064
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Jon Ronson on bespoke porn and sexy stamps.

Episode #561 — July 25, 2017

A gay man hooked up with a hot guy- great lover. But his micro-penis made the caller wonder if his lover was perhaps a transman. Should he ask him? Does it matter? A man's ten year-old son has come out as gay. The worried father bemoans his child's fate living on the "margins of society." Dan issues a reality check and a rebuke. It's 2017 dad, not the 1800s. "Margins of Society" indeed... On the Magnum, Jon Ronson, author of "The Psychopath Test" is on to talk about "bespoke pornography" and confirms the maxim: "Everything is a thing." Also, if your boyfriend calls you a monster for learning that you are into hardcore porn, (after SNOOPING ON YOUR PHONE,) can the relationship be salvaged? Should it be? 206-302-2064
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Amanda Marcotte on "Game of Thrones."

Episode #560 — July 18, 2017

A man's girlfriend won't let him watch Game of Thrones due to all the violence against women. Does she have the right? Should we all be boycotting the show? Salon's Amanda Marcotte is here to weigh in. A lesbian is exploring dom/sub play with her girlfriend. Her girlfriend wants her to talk dirty and tell her to shut up. But our lesbian feels uncomfortable in their small apartment with thin walls. What's a GGG girl to do? On the Magnum, how much fisting is too much fisting? A University of Washington gynecologist is here to help. And, From Frumpy Father to Hot Daddy: A former Mormon has come out, lost a bunch of weight and is finally living a fulfilling life. The hitch? He can't come with other men. Not yet...
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Buck Angel!

Episode #559 — July 11, 2017

If your Tinder guy can't get it up, should you move on, or give him a chance? A woman is dating a man 13 years her senior. Is this sort of age difference inherently immoral because...Woody Allen? On the Magnum, a deep dive into trans world with Buck Angel (a.k.a. The Man with a Pussy.) He is simply wonderful, and you must listen. 206-302-2064
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Mistress Matisse and her Velvet Swing

Episode #558 — July 4, 2017

A gay marine wants to keep his dick locked up in a chastity cage. His problem is...wait. Isn't that first sentence enough for you? A straight man has noticed that ALL of his friends are into feet. Why would this be? On the Magnum we welcome Mistress Matisse, to talk about her new magical lube. Also with Mistress Matisse, how can you explain the beautiful bruises your dom gives you? 206-302-2064
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An interview with the author of "Everybody Lies."

Episode #557 — June 27, 2017

A man is just about to end his Grindr relationship with a dude whose girlfriend knows nothing of his exploits. Should he drop the info on this poor girl before he leaves town? Dan interviews Seth Davidowitz, author of "Everybody Lies: Big Data, New Data and What the Internet Can Tell Us About Who We Really Are." Basically, when you look at Google searches, people are just as nasty as can be. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Viro, co-host of the furry relationship advice podcast "Feral Attraction" on furries, bestiality and fetish mis-matches. Also, what is the best way to ask the check-out girl at the CVS if she'll be your unicorn in a three-way? 206-302-2064
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Michael Hobbes on gay, middle-aged dating.

Episode #556 — June 20, 2017

Wait. Are public orgasms ok now? A man and his girlfriend observed a woman having one, right there, out on the street, in broad daylight. A gay man broke one of his rules. His boyfriend is still closeted to his family, and when they come to town, the caller has to clear out. Can this work? Does he have to break up? On the Magnum, Dan chats with author and editor Michael Hobbes about the particular challenges middle-aged gay men face in dating. Finally... "Hey there, old friend who I used to know in high school! I'm back in town, and thought we could meet and reconnect, in some sort of low-key way, like maybe you could come with me to get my nipple pierced! What do you mean your girlfriend doesn't like this idea?" 206-302-2064
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Where are the kinky parties?

Episode #555 — June 13, 2017

A woman is engaged to be married. She has been with about 80 lovers, and he has never been with anyone but her. He begs her to tell him all about her adventures to the point of obsession. Why does he wants to hear it all, and does she have to tell him? A man with a roommate feels like he's living with our horrible president: i.e. rich, entitled, lazy and mean. How can he convince this brute's girlfriend that she can do better? On the Magnum, a man wishes LA had the kind of kinky parties that NYC has. Whip smart dominatrix Justine Cross explains how to find the best sex parties and how BEHAVE YOURSELF when you get there. After a painful break up and move-out, a man is dismayed to see his ex-girlfriend's car parked in his apartment complex. Why? Because she's probably FUCKING SOMEONE IN HIS BUILDING. 206-302-2064
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Going Gay for One Drunken Night.

Episode #554 — June 6, 2017

A woman wants to try a three-way. But all the posts online are riddled with spelling and grammar errors. (Not sexy!) How can she forge a more classy connection? A woman has been with her fiancé for 5 years. He loves to play with her nipples, but she hates it. And guess what? She has never told him this. Before they wed, how can she confess that she's been grinning and bearing it the whole time? On the Magnum, how drunk does a straight boy have to be before he'll get it on with another guy? An intrepid scientific researcher went into the field to find out. And a lesbian wonders how she can improve her relationship with her father, when he thinks she's possessed by the devil. Tricky. 206-302-2064
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