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with Rachel Lark

Episode #553 — May 30, 2017

Oh, that nasty chef! A woman works in a restaurant where her manager is having an affair with the married chef. Sometimes the caller has to serve the chef's poor innocent wife. It's so cruel that all the servers are about to revolt. A married man harbors a cuckolding fantasy. He is certain his wife would never-ever be into it. But would she? Also, we couldn't help but play a couple of Rachel Lark songs, cuz they're so good. And on the Magnum, have you heard of "Hypersomnia?" A woman can't keep herself awake, sometimes at inopportune times, and she worries she'll be taken advantage of. Dan brings on a sleep medicine expert to discuss. Also, a woman who makes a lot of noise during sex, is confused when she gives her boyfriend the best head ever, and he is...perfectly silent.
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Nathaniel Frank on gay marriage.

Episode #552 — May 23, 2017

A straight male weight-lifter likes to shave his chest and pits. His friends are giving him grief about it. How can this sensitive strongman get over the peer pressure and revel in his smooth, smooth body? A gay man's foster son has had a rough life. And now he realizes they are both on Grindr. Awkward? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Nathaniel Frank, author of Awakening: How Gays and Lesbians Brought Marriage Equality to America. And, a woman's sister used to be in an abusive relationship, which she kept hidden. Now she's got a new guy, and guess what? He's a creep! Should the caller speak up? 206-302-2064
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So many sex toys!

Episode #551 — May 16, 2017

A man and a woman used to date, but now they're just friends. The woman got married and doesn't want her rich husband to know that she used to date the caller. Is it because she's embarrassed that the caller doesn't make enough money? From three-way to third wheel...a gay man with a long term boyfriend opened up their relationship to bring on another man. But now the boyfriend is getting closer and closer to the new guy. Do we have a problem here? On the Magnum, Dan chats with our go-to sex toy expert Erica Moen, to discuss "a whole bunch of dildos," a comprehensive round-up of anal lubes, and a toy for women with a misguided name. And, a Jewish woman wonders if it's racist to donate her eggs to a couple that wants a Jewish donor. 206-302-2064
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Blow jobs and TMJ

Episode #550 — May 9, 2017

A couple of ex-Mormons started dating. He broke up with her because she wasn't "nice." But don't worry everybody- he immediately came back to her. Then he broke up with her again, because he's gay. But it's ok! He changed his mind on that as well and came back to her. Now he isn't sure if he wants to be with her because of her jealousy issues. Ah, true love. A 13 year-old girl came out as gay to her mother, who easily accepts this. But grandma! She's a big ole Christian homophobe. Should the caller out her daughter to her mother? Even if the daughter doesn't want her to? On the Magnum, a man's wife has TMJ, and so can't give oral sex for very long. Dan chats with Dr. Michael Plaut who has written extensively on the subject. And, remember Dan's open rant on "stealthers?" Hear the horrible tale of a stealther in action. 206-302-2064
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Rachel Bloom

Episode #549 — May 2, 2017

A gay man living in Jerusalem wants to get with one of the orthodox guys who are always furtively eyeing him. But how can he make his move? A married man in an open relationship is SO BUSTED when he installs recording devices in his wife's room when she's having a man over. How can he channel his voyeur fetish on a consensual way? Dan sidles right up next to Rachel Bloom, star and creator of "Crazy Ex-Girlfriend" to talk about Tinder jerks, anal novices and getting ogled on stage. Some is on the Micro, all is on the Magnum. And, a building manager is faced with the unenviable task of chastising a tenant couple for having ear-splittingly loud sex, AND chastising their neighbor for recording the whole thing. 206-302-2064
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Cuckolding with Ben Steel.

Episode #548 — April 25, 2017

A man has been with his lady for one year. She has lost her sex drive, and asks for him to find ways to limit his libido. Should they try counseling? Meditation? Chemical castration? Or maybe there's another option... A gay man and his straight friend used to fool around together when they were children. After a long silence, the straight friend has reemerged with a proposal to resume. It's a small town. There are aren't many gay people. The guy is totally hot. Should the gay man take him up on his offer? On the Magnum, sex and relationship expert Ben Steel welcomes you to his world of cuckolding. He and Dan discuss the alchemical process for turning jealousy into a big horny turn-on. And, a treatise on nipple stimulation. 206-302-2064
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Dr. Rachel Gelman

Episode #547 — April 18, 2017

A woman's in-laws have 12 cats. They won't travel to see the caller's family (including the 2 small children,) because they can't bear to leave the mewling kitties. Are they mentally ill and is there any way to explain this behavior to the kids? A bondage-loving lass goes to clubs and gets tied up by a strictly platonic tying partner. Her boyfriend is ok with it, but feels a little spooked. How can she reassure him that what she and the tying partner do isn't sex? On the Magnum, it's our first do-over! Dan realized he cocked up the answer to the woman who would lose bladder control when she gave blow jobs. This time, Dan brings in Dr. Rachel Gelman- an actual pelvic health specialist who knows what the hell she's talking about. She lives in the UK, he in the States. He is her dom, and also her cousin. They are deeply closeted about their relationship to family and friends. So, what's the problem? 206-302-2064
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Marc Andreyko from Love is Love.

Episode #546 — April 11, 2017

Gather round, Lovecast listeners. Hear the tale of the pansexual housecleaner and the nasty surprise. Can a giant penis instigate menstrual bleeding? Is there anything a giant penis can't do? Ob/gyn and activist Leah Torres, is here to answer. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Marc Andreyko, creator of Love is Love: the beautiful, heart-rending compilation of comics commemorating the Pulse shootings. If you haven't yet gotten a copy, please do. Dan and Marc chat about the horror of that event as well as the immediate surge of support he encountered in making this important work. And, a grown man's mommy and daddy won't let him share a bed with his girlfriend at the hotel they are paying for. Solutions? 206-302-2064
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Who's happier: Monogamous or open couples?

Episode #545 — April 4, 2017

A man gets turned on by the sight of his girlfriend smoking. The problem is, she doesn't smoke. We get our monthly sex toy review by the delightful (and knowledgable) Erika Moen. This week: a big ole vibrator called The Doxy. On the Magnum, Dan interviews Dr. Terri Conley in a "What You Got?" about the relative happiness of monogamous vs. non-monogamous couples. And, how to break up with a dumb, religious bigot. Quick answer: Immediately. 206-302-2064
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Minda Honey

Episode #544 — March 28, 2017

A straight man is into pre-op transwomen in an odd way. He wants nothing to do with their penises, but just likes knowing they're there. In another penis obsessed call, a man with big 'un is dismayed when a lady fails to swoon at the sight of his flaccid dong. Doesn't she know about showers vs. growers?! On the Magnum, Dan welcomes RIVAL advice columnist Minda Honey from Leo Weekly in Kentucky. They discuss the etiquette of what one does when a fellow dominatrix basically STEALS your financial sub right out from under you. Beeeeyotch! Also Dan will help you to master the art of deep throating in these quick easy steps. Useful! 206-302-2064
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