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Dr. Debby Herbenick on ANXIETY ORGASMS.

Episode #491 — March 22, 2016

A straight man has begun a relationship with a transwoman. To put his question bluntly, is he obligated to suck her dick? How on earth is a nice gay man supposed to deal with his father when dad has sworn to vote for Donald Trump? A woman is horrified to see boudoir paintings of her boyfriend’s ex staring at her from the walls. Does she have the right to ask him to take them down? On the Magnum, a woman gets turned on when she experiences anxiety. She even had a couple orgasms in the airport when she missed her flight. Dr. Debby Herbenick chats with Dan about this phenomenon and how to harness such a dark power. 206-302-2064 Hey, are you still reading this? We are putting together a special sex toys episode with lots of experts. If you have a question relating to dildos, restraints, vibrators and the like, NOW IS THE TIME TO CALL. Like right now.
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Abbi and Ilana from BROAD CITY.

Episode #490 — March 15, 2016

Aw sheeeeeeee, guys. It’s Abbi and Ilana from BROAD CITY. Dan and the gals talk about period sex, pegging, smoking weed, beards and bumpkins among other things. You’ll also hear some inside dirt about their process in making Broad City and their plans for the future. These two are twin forces of nature and you should listen to the whole raucous conversation. Also, if a guy sends you a dick pic with some possible evidence of an STI, should you speak up? Or giggle demurely? 206-302-2064
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Valentine's Day Show Live in Portland.

Episode #489 — March 8, 2016

It’s the Valentine’s Day show! We recorded this at Portland’s Revolution Hall on February 14 in front of a very live audience. With musician/force of nature Rachel Lark, comedian/force of nature Bri Pruett and three game straight boys. 206-302-2064
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With Seattle journalist Eli Sanders.

Episode #488 — March 1, 2016

A man raised fundamentalist Christian has discovered the pleasures of “titty-bars” where he can behold “beautiful boobies.” Now that he’s getting divorced, how soon should he tell the lucky ladies that he plans to date about his marital status? A woman’s boyfriend tells her to be quiet when they are having sex. “Shhhhhh,” he says. How can she get him to cut that shit right out, and also get a little freaky in bed? Dan welcomes Seattle journalist Eli Sanders to discuss his new book, While the City Slept. Eli stuck around in the Magnum to dole out the kind of sex advice you would expect from a couple of homos who have worked side by side for years. A Jewish man is attracted to religious Jewish women. But he is an atheist himself. How can he meet secular Jewish hotties? 206-302-2064
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Planned Parenthood to the rescue!

Episode #487 — February 23, 2016

A mature 18 year-old has somehow failed to tell her real age to her new boyfriend who thinks she’s at least 20. How can she come clean? A man is totally into being cuckolded. Does his girlfriend have to tell her other lovers that they are part of a bigger picture? We are honored to welcome Dr. Sara Pentlicky from Planned Parenthood to help answer a plethora of medical and reproductive questions. Herpes! HPV! Birth control for transmen! We’ve got you covered. 206-302-2064
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Let's hear it for companionate marriage!

Episode #486 — February 16, 2016

A woman is thinking of surprising her boyfriend with another woman to have a three-way with. Can Dan talk her out of it? An evenly bisexual man had to come out at his macho job as gay when was engaged to a man. Now that he’s dating a woman, does he have to come out again as straight? On the Magnum, Dan and writer Ephi Stempler do a deep dive on companionate marriage. And a woman watches horrified as her friend gets ready to marry her lying, cheating fiancé. Should she and her friends stage an intervention? 206-302-2064
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Learn to Dom with Midori

Episode #485 — February 9, 2016

A gay man wants nothing more than to watch strong men flex their muscles for him. His straight friend is willing…but would it be too weird? A woman recently got broken up with by her boyfriend. She used to pay all the bills and float him cash. How can she ask for the money he owes her? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the absolutely fabulous Midori about learning to embrace your kinky side and play the dom, even if your spirit animal is a sub. And, a gay man has been chosen by his friend to police the behavior of a bunch of straights guys at a bachelor party. Thank god for refundable plane tickets. And many responses to “Drippygate.”
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Football! With Mike Pesca.

Episode #484 — February 2, 2016

If you are a straight girl, is it ok to seek friendship with a lesbian? Even if she has a girlfriend? (Actual question. Actually asked.) A young man is dating a former anorexic, former model and the sex is great. But! She is still living at home and has burned through all of her allowance, and now has $3 to last her all month. The young man is beginning to doubt the wisdom of dating this hot mess. And…football! Mike Pesca from The Gist joins Dan to sportsplain the complicated psychology behind being a “Bengals” fan. A woman and her father’s relationship depends on this. It is very important. On the Magnum, Dan interviews Dr. Ilir Agalliu on his new HPV study. And a ton more. 206-302-2064
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With Bailey Jay

Episode #483 — January 26, 2016

A woman’s roommate up and left without notice, leaving behind some expenses in the care of her sick, aged cat. Dan gets in full Judge Judy drag to help arbitrate this rather mundane dispute. Meanwhile, a lesbian wants her butt-plug back! She lent it to her girlfriend and then they broke up. Although things are friendly, should the caller make that awkward ask? Don’t you just love horses? Enough said. On the Magnum, Dan chats with porn star Bailey Jay about the pleasures and perils of sharing photos and camming. Be careful out there, people. 206-302-2064
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Parents and their trans kids.

Episode #482 — January 19, 2016

A young woman is about to embark on a three-way with her boyfriend and another man. How can she make sure the experience isn’t demeaning? A gay man has incest fantasies. How can he find a man willing to role play a father-figure? A married woman and her husband prefer to use condoms. So why is everyone around her so smug and condescending about it? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Robert Garofalo about a father whose kid calls himself transmale, but often presents as female. They discuss the challenges parents face in keeping an open mind and an open heart as kids and teens figure themselves out. 206-302-2064
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