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2014 is looking just as pervy as 2013.

Episode #375 — December 31, 2013

A gal is convinced her good friend is a homo. Should she use her wiles to lure him out of the closet? A lad is good friends with a woman who admitted she has a crush on him. He doesn't feel the same way about her, but knows she would make a great life partner. Should he suggest a companionate marriage from the get-go? On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with psychologist and sex researcher Dr. Lori Brotto about women's libido, and the need for variety in both genders. Also, some loud neighbors were either acting out a rape scenario, or an actual rape was taking place. Would you call the cops? Or would you just call us?
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In this very special "Christmas" episode of the Savage Lovecast, you may detect a theme of problematic families. Bigot uncles, closet cases, intolerant mothers, that sort of thing. However! You get to wash it all down with some Dina Martina at the end, so, there's that… But seriously folks. Happy holidays from all of us at the Savage Lovecast. We hope you find your warmth in a true, loving family, whatever that looks like. 
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Tell me I'm Pretty.

Episode #373 — December 17, 2013

A gay man and his straight friend find their relationship has changed forever. To find out why, you'll just have to listen. Can porn kill your boner? How to deal with a creep-o co-worker. On the Magnum version, a lesbian is sick of her girlfriend being closeted. But is this specific Christmas the right time to come out to them? Speaking of secrets, a woman works at an abortion clinic. Her husband's family is ultra conservative, and anti-abortion. How long can she keep her job secret from them?
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Slut-shaming roommates gone wild!

Episode #372 — December 10, 2013

A sexually active woman is slut-shamed by her own roommates in a prudish house intervention. A caller wonders if gay men will pay to be dominated. In the deep South. On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with author Emily Maguire about how our culture puts forth the idea that women don't enjoy sex, so men needn't bother making it pleasurable for them. Dreadful, really. And, hear the tale of a woman who had a secret affair with her former high school teacher.
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No kissing at the orgy.

Episode #371 — December 3, 2013

When attending an orgy, what is the proper etiquette in explaining that you are deathly allergic to beeswax, and therefore cannot kiss anyone for fear one of attendees might have used lip balm? Demi-sexuality: Is it a thing? A woman wonders if she should try to explain birth control to her inexperienced cousin, on her wedding night. Continuing on the Magnums, Dan speaks with Sophia Wallace, creator of "Cliteracy" about her art and her message. And more!
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The Tortured Creamed Corn Metaphor.

Episode #370 — November 26, 2013

A man and his wife have agreed to divorce. But they have to keep living together for 3 more months. Would it be shabby to start sleeping with the hot gal that lives down the block? An 18 year old girl is engaged to be married to a man who she already knows to be sexually incompatible with her. So what's the problem? Dan chats with Dr. David Sarwer about libido changes following weight-loss surgery. In Magnum-land, a couple embarking on an open relationship disagree on who to tell and how to tell about their new, scandalous status. And, you're going to want to gather 'round the Thanksgiving table with your entire family and listen to the tale of a woman who went a-snooping and discovered that her sister is in a sugar-baby/sugar daddy relationship. Dan chats with the PR lass at a sugar daddy website about how wholesome and innocent this arrangement must truly be. It warms the heart.
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Lesbian Roller Derby Sleepover, you guys!!

Episode #369 — November 19, 2013

Is it selfish to have a vasectomy? Lesbian roller derby sleepover! A lesbian couple are hosting a sleepover for the all-girl roller derby team that they coach. Some of the girls are gay, and coupled. Should the girls all sleep in one big dog pile where they can be monitored, or should the couples have their own private suites? A man who blogs about his dating adventures asks if he is morally obliged to tell his dates that they may be written about. On the Magnum version, what should you tell your kids when you're going to have Thanksgiving with some family members who are in a loving triad? Speaking of triads, Dan works himself into a froth trying to figure out how to help a woman realize her fantasy of sleeping with two men. Will she succeed? Stay tuned... And more! 206-201-2720
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Behold...the Lesbian DEMON!!!

Episode #368 — November 12, 2013

An erotic masseuse has serviced an estimated 5000 dicks, over the course of 23 years, to support her family. Now what? A gay man engaged to his boyfriend of 7 years tumbled into bed with a woman after getting drunk. His specific question for Dan is "What am I DOING?!" On the Magnum Lovecast this week, Dan chats with Daniel Bergner on foot fetishes and the shame surrounding kinks. Also, Dan works his magic on a woman whose family fears she is possessed by a lesbian demon. And a lot more.
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Do bisexuals need a new label?

Episode #367 — November 5, 2013

Do bisexuals need a new label? Dan interviews Salon writer Anna Pulley on bi nomenclature. Listen in as Dan convinces a mother to leave her conservative, bigoted church because of their anti-gay views. A poly couple have brought a new lover into the fold. But there's a hitch! He's terrified of vaginas. And so much more.
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Dan and the mortician talk about DEATH.

Episode #366 — October 29, 2013

This week Dan talks sex and death with Caitlin Doughty of Ask a Mortician. Spooky! Dan also chats with Dr. Sydnee and Justin McElroy of the Sawbones podcast about "treatments" for STi's in medical history including huffing mercury, injecting liquid silver and squashing anal warts between stones. Also, mummies with crabs. Scary! And, a woman is having premarital sex. That's sex BEFORE she gets married. Her mother feels nothing but horror. Eeeeeeeee! Happy Halloween, ghouls.
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