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A woman has started “living her passion” by working as a webcam girl. But she’s nervous about telling her mother about her new career. How can she break the news? A woman fulfilled a lifelong fantasy of having a super-hot threeway with two bi men. But now, she wants to escalate the situation and get with some gay men. How can she troll for homos while still respecting their boundaries? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Justin Lehmiller for a “What You Got?” about lower STI rates among the non-monogamous. Who’d a thunk it? Dan also chats with Robby Soeve from Reason.com about the hideous phenomenon of police persecuting kids who send sexts to each other. Doesn’t it just make you SO MAD? Happy New Year! 206-302-2064
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With DOMA slaying attorney Roberta Kaplan.

Episode #478 — December 22, 2015

A woman’s husband makes unpleasant sexual innuendos and gropes her right in front of the kids. How can she get him to stop? Are you into puke porn? OMG so am I! Anyway, a very kind hearted, GGG woman wants to help her husband to realize his fantasy of having her throw up on him. But that might not be a healthy kink in the end, right? Dan chats with Cass King of the Wetspots (creators of our fabulous “What You Got?” stinger) about their upcoming burlesque musical. Also, are men becoming more modest in the locker room? Mark Stern from Slate weighs in. On the Magnum, all hail Roberta Kaplan! She is the attorney who brought a welcome end to the despicable Defense of Marriage Act. She comes on the show to help answer a question from a lesbian who is applying for a job which only provides benefits to spouses of the “opposite gender.” Wha? Oh no you din’t. 206-302-2064
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With AIDS activist Peter Staley.

Episode #477 — December 15, 2015

A stoned gentleman is wracked with guilt for making the dog he’s caring for stop masturbating already! (Maybe he should be hitting the indica rather than the sativa, say the TSARY.) “Virginity is obsolete as a concept,” declares this 20 year-old woman, who is seeing an 18 year-old lad with precious little experience. How can she take care of her little darling and gently guide him to the land of sexual pleasure, honoring the campsite rule? A strident feminist has found a man who can really get her off. The problem is that he is a chauvenist pig! Is it ethical to sleep with the enemy? On the Magnum, Dan and AIDS activist Peter Staley get into a dust-up over PreP and its effect on rising STD rates among gay men. (Don’t worry, they’re still friends.) Get your Savage Lovecast coffee mugs over at www.thestranger.com/savageswag 206-302-2064
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The One-Minute Wonder Show!

Episode #476 — December 8, 2015

It’s the One-Minute Wonder Show! You asked your questions in one minute or less, and Dan tried to keep his answers brief, with diminishing success. Here’s a smattering of topics: The dangers of road head, olive oil as lube, haggling with your sex worker, tingly come, excluding dog-fuckers from your orgy and so much more. Also, Nancy gets riled up! On the Magnum, the long-suffering Dr. Barak gently explains that no, men cannot get bacterial vaginosis, and answers a requisite question about pee. 206-302-2064 Get your "GGG" and "Fuck First" coffee mugs at www.thestranger.com/savageswag
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With Parker Molloy.

Episode #475 — December 1, 2015

A man’s boyfriend went as a “slut” for Halloween. It turns out, this was a really bad idea. A woman loves getting tied up. But she also needs to touch herself to get off. So…how is this gonna work? On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans writer Parker Molloy about the challenges of transitioning for both partners in a relationship. And, hear the story of a woman who enters “The Land of Pleasure.” By which she means having sex with over 30 men in one long evening. Dan chats with her about how to enjoy her gang-bang kink safely. 206-302-2064 Get your GGG and FUCK FIRST coffee mugs over at www.thestranger.com/savageswag
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Families! With Ken Jennings and Brother Billy.

Episode #474 — November 24, 2015

As you gather around the Thanksgiving table to bask in the warmth and glow of your loved ones, here are some reasons you might feel thankful: Your sister’s boyfriend isn’t beating her up, your wife isn’t a transphobic Russian, your boyfriend’s father doesn’t beat him up, your mother isn’t a toxic evil mess and your step-father (who is also your boss,) doesn’t kick your dog. If any of these things are true for you, well then this show will offer company for your misery. It’s the Families Show! Also, the preternaturally delightful Ken Jennings, 74-time winner of Jeopardy!, for heaven’s sake, explains how he can reconcile his big, big brain with his Mormon faith. And, on the Magnum, Dan breaks some disturbing news to his big brother Billy. Listen in, won’t you? 206-302-2064
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The Birth of The Pill.

Episode #473 — November 17, 2015

“Bark! Bark! Bark!” That’s what a kinky woman’s dog will say when it hears her getting spanked. She worries that this might be a problem, and so, should she maybe not get a dog? A divorced woman is sleeping with the repair man. Her ex-husband is sleeping with their children’s former nanny. Were you just complaining about your life being too complicated? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Jonathan Eig, author The Birth of the Pill. Finally, a man’s girlfriend catches him masturbating to a picture of her friend. And she’s totally cool with it. Just kidding! All hell breaks loose. And! f you really want to enter to win a horrible gun...go here: http://www.steveking.com/cruz-huckabee-jindal-and-santorum-gun-giveaway-2/
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The tricky question of how to treat pedophiles.

Episode #472 — November 10, 2015

Hear the sordid tale of what the gay man saw when he woke up to find his boyfriend absent from the guest bed while they were visiting a …friend. Meanwhile in another corner of the cheat-o-verse, a man sees his best friend’s girlfriend on a daitng app. He thought they were monogamous. Should he rat her out to his pal? On the Magnum, Dan brings on a couple of guests. Debra Soh is a writer whose latest article in Salon ruffled some feathers. She wrote about our dysfunctional approach to treating pedophiles and the people started freaking. And, Dan brings on OB/GYN and writer Dr. Jen Gunter to discuss abortion and concept of a “little soul.” Do you have a family? Do you want to ask a question about them? Call us! 206-302-2064
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High as a kite, in Denver!

Episode #471 — November 3, 2015

It’s episode 420! Oh wait. No it isn’t. We totally spaced episode 420. But better late than never! Dan, Nancy and the Tech-Savvy, At-Risk Youth journey to Denver, Colorado where we recorded a live show, baked out of our skulls. Because pot is legal in Colorado, you see. Does pot enhance sex? Does lube infused with THC actually work? Will Dan and his weed-addled panel end the show sounding even vaguely coherent? You’ll have to listen to find out. 206-302-2064
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Second Opinion with Dr. Debby Herbenick.

Episode #470 — October 27, 2015

In the opening rant, Dan finally opens up and tells us what he *really* thinks of the Catholic Church. Hear the strange and seedy tale of a male lap dance gone horribly wrong. On the Magnum, Dan chats with RIVAL sex advice podcaster Dr. Debby Herbenick about PReP for women and condom aversion for ladies. And, your amazing, supportive calls to the 20 year-old lesbian from last week who feels trapped with her unkind family. You guys are the best. Donate! To the following organizations: Ali Forney Center: www.aliforneycenter.org Lucie’s Place: www.luciesplace.org The True Colors Fund: https://truecolorsfund.org Albert Kennedy Trust: www.akt.org.uk 206-302-2064
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