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With comedian Justin Randall.

Episode #755 — April 13, 2021

In our opening Sexcess Story, a German man offers this kind-hearted maxim: "It's hard to stay mad when you are covered in come." A man wonders if his covid vaccine is what caused his libido to spike. His female friend said the same thing! She claims she had 10 ORGASMS right after getting her shot. So, hey Science! Is this causation or correlation? On the magnum, Dan chats with Justin Randall of the "We Were Christian Kids" podcast, about relationships after you've grappled with a hyper-religious upbringing. And, doing her due diligence, a woman discovers her new Tinder guy did a little car-jacking 10 years ago. Is this a deal-breaker? Or can he be redeemed? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Doordash. Get breakfast, lunch, dinner and more delivered from your favorite restaurants right to your doorstep with one easy click. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code SAVAGE. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.
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Evangelicals and "Sex Addiction."

Episode #754 — April 6, 2021

In our opening Sexcess story, a very delightful woman in her 60s has discovered that one wee edible before sex can yield untold orgasms. A gay man has discovered that he enjoys voyeurism and exhibitionism. But how can these be acted out ethically? On the Magnum, Dan talks with Kelsy Burke, a sociologist who studies the intersection of sex and religion. They talk about the recent Atlanta murders of sex workers, and how the Evangelical Christian conception of "sex addiction" may have warped the killer's mind. And, everybody is looking forward to the slammin' bachelorette party in Las Vegas this May! But one of the pals has no intention of getting vaccinated. This makes some of the gals nervous. Should the bride-to-be confront her anti-vax friend and issue an ultimatum? Or should she take the...gamble?
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With Big Mouth's Nick Kroll!

Episode #753 — March 30, 2021

Let the swooning begin. Dan brings on one of his heroes, comedian Nick Kroll to answer some questions and to talk about his show Big Mouth. They chat about meeting sleazy, pre-teen masturbation, dating while famous and many other things. We love Nick Kroll, and so do you. Some of the interview is on the Micro version and all of it is on the Magnum. Have you ever been eaten out while on acid? The caller in our opening sexcess story heartily recommends it. A male erotic massage therapist has only had one client this year. When, oh when are we allowed to have sex again? Finally, an obedient gay rights ally asks if he is permitted to use the term "butt hurt."
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With Erika Moen & Matt Nolan.

Episode #752 — March 23, 2021

Gather round. Hear the cautionary tale of the gaslighting vibrator thief. It's tough out there for a male gynecologist. A man in his Ob Gyn residency asks for tips on giving exams that put his patients at ease. Dan brings on Dr. Ian Fields, Assistant Program Director for the OBGYN residency at OHSU to discuss being a man in the mix. On the Magnum, our beloved, longstanding guest cartoonist/sex toy expert Erika Moen is on with her partner Matt Nolan to talk about their new book for teens: Let's Talk about It: A Teen's Guide to Sex, Relationships and being a Human. It's fabulous, and if you have or are a teen, you are COMMANDED to buy it. And, rejoice! We have a new sexuality! "Freysexual." What's that, you ask? Why it's someone who is attracted to people until they get to know them better. Are you a freysexual? ARE YOU?
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Serial Cow Pie Copulators

Episode #751 — March 16, 2021

"Dear Miss Manners, Am I obliged to respond to the gentlemen I encounter on 'Grindr,' even if I am not in the least bit interested?" Dan counsels yet another woman who lays herself down as a human doormat. DTMFA! If your man hasn't yet told his friends that he's dating you, it's time to move on. On the Magnum, we have a very special What You Got?: Listen, we can't put this delicately. There are birds out there that prefer to have sex with cowpies over the females of their species. Dan interviews Dr. Gail Patricelli, a (delightful) researcher who studies the freaky sage grouse. She and her scientist pals trick these pathetic birds with robots and round flat turds. So that's a job you could have. And, a woman insists that uncircumcised penises feel better inside than cut ones. Could be!
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Here comes Randy Rainbow!

Episode #750 — March 9, 2021

A gay man has started seeing a new guy. But the lad said he wanted to wait until marriage to have sex. This is highly unusual amongst homosexuals, don't you think? Is it possible to have a loving, romantic relationship, and also engage in financial domination? Sounds spicy! Clear a path! Clear a path! Here comes RANDY RAINBOW, the brilliant YouTuber whose musical theater political parodies single-handedly got us all through the past 4 years. It should come as no surprise that he and Dan have big, big love for each other. Randy talks about his future projects, his glamorous connections and of course, dishes out some sex advice. A bit of this is on the Micro and all of it is on the Magnum. Tuck in. And, we have many calls concerning jealousy this week. We wish there was a vaccine for it.
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After the shot: dating post-vaccination.

Episode #749 — March 2, 2021

Have you ever been blocked? This man was! When he and his boyfriend of 6 months had their first big fight, they broke up, and the boyfriend slammed the door shut. Now the caller wants closure. Dan Savage is here to hold his hand through it. A man is attempting to grow some foreskin through...techniques. He thinks circumcision should be outlawed. But when he discusses this with some of his Jewish or Muslim pals, it doesn't go over well. On the Magnum version, Dan chats with Dr. Stacy De-Lin about dating and covid-safety now that many of us are beginning to get vaccinated. Also, is it safe to have your poly sister babysit for your kid? And, a woke woman is annoyed that her friend has invited her to a Zoom gender-reveal party.
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With Charles M. Blow of the NYT.

Episode #748 — February 23, 2021

Is it wrong to suggest to your unsuccessful internet date that she start seeing your roommate instead? A woman's friend-with-benefits pal is becoming obsessed with sex! He fills her drawers with sex toys for her to use on him. But he pays scant attention to her pleasure. What's the next step here? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Charles M. Blow- the acclaimed journalist and op-ed columnist for the New York Times. They discuss his new book The Devil You Know: A Black Power Manifesto. And, a man's girlfriend is considering becoming a sugar baby. But he's worried about it, and doesn't quite understand why.
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Dr. Sarah Hunter Murray, on the science of male desire.

Episode #747 — February 16, 2021

A woman has discovered she has a taste for bisexual dudes. But so many are closeted, or don't lead with their bi-ness on apps. How can she root them out? Dan wades into drama, intrigue and subterfuge! A gay man's acquaintance has dark designs on a straight man in their life. Should the caller warn his unwitting straight friend? Or stay out of it? On the Magnum, Dan welcomes Dr. Sarah Hunter Murray to discuss the misperceptions about male sexuality and desire. C'mon! Fellas need to feel like sex objects too... And, an introverted lass has a bunch of demanding alpha friends. How can she explain to them that sometimes she needs to curl up by the fire?
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Jon Ronson on porn and cancel culture.

Episode #746 — February 9, 2021

In the intro: You wanted to hear what Dan Savage thinks of the Armie Hammer scandal? Now he will tell you. A sugar baby had been seeing a married man for 2 years, when they fell in love. Now that there's nothing transactional going on, is it less ethical? Finally! Dan Savage deconstructs drag. Are we allowed to enjoy it? (Spoiler: Yes, yes we are.) On the Magnum, all hail Jon Ronson! The author of The Psychopath Test, The Butterfly Effect and many other works in various media, is on to help Dan sling advice. They tackle subjects in Ronson's wheelhouse- cancel culture, porn, and Trumpy acquaintances. And, a complicated polyamory quandary rears its head. A woman with a husband and a boyfriend has been invited to a wedding. Her boyfriend is also invited, but NOT her husband. And the boyfriend's girlfriend is also NOT invited. THERE WILL BE FEELINGS. 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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