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Just how reversible are vasectomies?

Episode #655 — May 14, 2019

A man his wife want to have kids. He would like to have a threesome before they do. Is it wrong to issue an ultimatum: "NO KIDS until we have that threeway?" Dan chats with Dr. Landon Trost from the Mayo clinic about vasectomies- how reversible are they? On the Magnum, Dan has a long conversation with a lesbian whose parents forced her to endure "conversion therapy" for years. She talks about the experience and together she and Dan hash out how to approach her relationship with her parents today. And, a young man who is friends with an older woman is offended that she won't share her fries.
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Second Opinion! With "Dear Therapist."

Episode #654 — May 7, 2019

A woman keeps getting told to go home after she hooks up in the middle of the night. Don't any of these gentleman know how to make breakfast? A woman has learned that her beloved aunt has been having a lesbian affair for decades. Some but not all of her family knows. Should the caller tell everyone? At family gatherings? Because she just can't keep her mouth shut? Will she heed Dan's stern advice? On the Magnum, a woman wonders if the best orgasm of her life, way back when she was 16, was due to her lover's tongue ring. Or was it the newness of teen lovin'? And, oh oh! It's time for a Second Opinion, with Lori Gottlieb- psychotherapist and author of the New York Times bestseller, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone. She also writes the "Dear Therapist" advice column for The Atlantic, and thus is eligible to give advice alongside Dan. Together they give counsel to a woman who is trying to get her shit together in order to win back her man, and also to a woman who gets to enjoy the spectacle of her new neighbor rigorously masturbating in front of his window.
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People are...good? With Nicholas A. Christakis.

Episode #653 — April 30, 2019

A kinky woman enjoys having slaves. But the guy she really likes is vanilla. It didn't work out. This is sad. Does being kinky mean you can't have vanilla love too? A school teacher and her boyfriend want to go to a sex club. But she's worried about running into parents of her students, or school administration. How cautious should this sexy schoolmarm be? On the Magnum, Dan chats with sociologist and author Nicholas A. Christakis about his book: Blueprint: The Evolutionary Origins of a Good Society. They discuss monogamy, polyandry, polygyny and the human propensity for ...wait for it...peace and love. How he fares against eternal pessimist Dan Savage is up to you to decide. And, a fat man bemoans the lack of porn celebrating fat men.
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With Dr. Wednesday Martin.

Episode #652 — April 23, 2019

A woman claims that over 90% of the time, her casual hook-ups end with the man orgasming, and she gets...nothing. And then! When she asks for a little reciprocity, these men accuse her of being a demanding princess. Meanwhile, another straight woman loves it when her men say no at first. She loves the chase and her ultimate victory. Is this a kink? Is it something she can work into her long term relationships? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with writer and social researcher Dr. Wednesday Martin, about how women struggle with monogamy. Sometimes we do! And, in yet another shocking upending of our expectations, a woman LOVES to receive dick pics. How can she ask for them, without training these men to send them to every woman they meet? Oh look! It's a text from that guy I just...god damn it. 206-302-2064
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Radicalized! With Cory Doctorow.

Episode #651 — April 16, 2019

A bisexual man and his girlfriend want to try a threeway with another man. But he has never been with a man before and feels anxious. The girlfriend just feels turned on. He wishes she would suppress her desire and support him in this trying time. A woman's friend is beginning the process of coming out as a trans woman. But she wants to be help accountable. She asked the caller to send a coming out announcement to family and friends if the trans woman doesn't do it herself by a certain time. Is this a reasonable request? Should the caller shoulder this responsibility? Then! Dan chats with super-smart, forward thinking author, blogger, and internet rights activist Corey Doctorow about his book, group sex, the gig economy and period sex, among other things. Some of this interview is on the Micro and all of it is on the Magnum. Listen in. And speaking of group sex, how do you tell a lady you're swinging with to go a little more gently with the blow jobs.
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Weed = Better Orgasms for Women. Yay Science!

Episode #650 — April 9, 2019

Look at her. She's only a lesbian when she's drunk! Why does she dream of a white picket fence with her loving wife by her side but only when she's had 5 whisky sours? A woman is planning to marry prince charming. He is so wonderful in every way. Except...when he wants sex he grabs her head and pulls it down to his crotch. Is this just how men ask for sex these days? On the Magnum, Dan's suspicions are confirmed by science ONCE AGAIN. This time, he speaks with Dr. Becky Lynn about the effect marijuana has on female orgasm. And, hear the tale of the older gay man, his much younger Panamanian boyfriend and the worried daughter. 206-302-2064
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Decriminalize Sex Work!

Episode #649 — April 2, 2019

A man often yawns soon after coming. He has to convince his partners that he's not bored. A dutiful father worries that when he drops his used come-rag in the laundry along with his kids' clothes that his sperm is getting spread around the innocent garments. "Does the come actually exit the washing machine?" asks this anxious father. "Does it go away?" On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Kaytlin Bailey, host of The Oldest Profession podcast & Director of Communications for Decriminalize Sex Work. In case you were wondering, treating sex workers as criminals sure doesn't help them. And, a woman and her boyfriend want to try role playing. But she is an actor by profession, and worries that she'll feel like she's just punching the clock.
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With comedian Kate Willett

Episode #648 — March 26, 2019

A woman has been dating her older boyfriend for 6 years, and she still hasn't met his kids. Does she have grounds for righteous indignation here? A woman and her boyfriend are considering bringing in another man for a threeway. How can they proceed with caution? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with comedian Kate Willett about dating Trump voters, breaking up amicably and what to do when the boner fails to show up. Also, when your boyfriend prefers bathhouses to you.
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With Andrew Rannells

Episode #647 — March 19, 2019

A woman and her husband are having a difficult year. And to top it off, he divulged that he likes to wear women's clothes, and would like to raid her closet. She worries that this is just the first step toward a transgender identity. Do straight men ever like to wear women's clothes? (Spoiler: Yes.) A woman's conservative cousin has started working at a "Crisis Parenting Center," that gives misinformation about abortion. Should she confront her? On the Magnum, Dan chats with his soul brother the Broadway god Andrew Rannells. Discussion topics: black sheets, home decor, male unicorns, and Andrew's new memoir- Too Much is Not Enough: A Memoir of Fumbling Toward Adulthood." And, here's a conundrum. A vegan is into leather. Discuss. 206-302-2064
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The TRIGGER show.

Episode #646 — March 12, 2019

Yowsers! it's the TRIGGER SHOW. This show is pretty gnarly. There's molestation, pedophila, snuff porn, incest, dicks in a drawer, blubbering boyfriends and even doggity style! Listen in if you dare. On the Magnum, we also have Dan's transman pal Jens Cinquemani on to take a few trans-orented calls. 206-302-2064
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