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After the shot: dating post-vaccination.

Episode #749 — March 2, 2021

Have you ever been blocked? This man was! When he and his boyfriend of 6 months had their first big fight, they broke up, and the boyfriend slammed the door shut. Now the caller wants closure. Dan Savage is here to hold his hand through it. A man is attempting to grow some foreskin through...techniques. He thinks circumcision should be outlawed. But when he discusses this with some of his Jewish or Muslim pals, it doesn't go over well. On the Magnum version, Dan chats with Dr. Stacy De-Lin about dating and covid-safety now that many of us are beginning to get vaccinated. Also, is it safe to have your poly sister babysit for your kid? And, a woke woman is annoyed that her friend has invited her to a Zoom gender-reveal party.
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With Charles M. Blow of the NYT.

Episode #748 — February 23, 2021

Is it wrong to suggest to your unsuccessful internet date that she start seeing your roommate instead? A woman's friend-with-benefits pal is becoming obsessed with sex! He fills her drawers with sex toys for her to use on him. But he pays scant attention to her pleasure. What's the next step here? On the Magnum, Dan interviews Charles M. Blow- the acclaimed journalist and op-ed columnist for the New York Times. They discuss his new book The Devil You Know: A Black Power Manifesto. And, a man's girlfriend is considering becoming a sugar baby. But he's worried about it, and doesn't quite understand why.
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Dr. Sarah Hunter Murray, on the science of male desire.

Episode #747 — February 16, 2021

A woman has discovered she has a taste for bisexual dudes. But so many are closeted, or don't lead with their bi-ness on apps. How can she root them out? Dan wades into drama, intrigue and subterfuge! A gay man's acquaintance has dark designs on a straight man in their life. Should the caller warn his unwitting straight friend? Or stay out of it? On the Magnum, Dan welcomes Dr. Sarah Hunter Murray to discuss the misperceptions about male sexuality and desire. C'mon! Fellas need to feel like sex objects too... And, an introverted lass has a bunch of demanding alpha friends. How can she explain to them that sometimes she needs to curl up by the fire?
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Jon Ronson on porn and cancel culture.

Episode #746 — February 9, 2021

In the intro: You wanted to hear what Dan Savage thinks of the Armie Hammer scandal? Now he will tell you. A sugar baby had been seeing a married man for 2 years, when they fell in love. Now that there's nothing transactional going on, is it less ethical? Finally! Dan Savage deconstructs drag. Are we allowed to enjoy it? (Spoiler: Yes, yes we are.) On the Magnum, all hail Jon Ronson! The author of The Psychopath Test, The Butterfly Effect and many other works in various media, is on to help Dan sling advice. They tackle subjects in Ronson's wheelhouse- cancel culture, porn, and Trumpy acquaintances. And, a complicated polyamory quandary rears its head. A woman with a husband and a boyfriend has been invited to a wedding. Her boyfriend is also invited, but NOT her husband. And the boyfriend's girlfriend is also NOT invited. THERE WILL BE FEELINGS. 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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With comedian London Hughes.

Episode #745 — February 2, 2021

Sure, sure. He's a good boyfriend...during a pandemic. But when the covid glasses come off, will he still be right for her? After 20 years of marriage, a woman finally understands that she is asexual. She wants nothing of sex, whatsoever. She would love for him to get laid outside of their relationship, but he's an introvert, and not inclined to open their marriage. And if he found a woman to have sex with, would he leave her? On the Magnum, degenerate homosexual Dan Savage teaches potty-mouthed comedian London Hughes all about anal sex! And, they discover that they share a super-power. Listen in. Finally, what is the purpose of using a cock ring around the scrotum? After you listen to this show, you will know the answer.
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Dr. Jen Gunter on Recurrent UTIs.

Episode #744 — January 26, 2021

Welcome to the sisterhood! A trans woman got aggressively propositioned by one of the men in her macho friend group. Another one slut-shamed her after she posted a bikini pic on Insta. Wait. Men are pigs??? You may recall, a couple weeks ago we heard from a woman with recurrent UTIs. We got flooded with responses from women who have also suffered, with a wide variety of recommendations. Some sounded a little...iffy. So we brought on Dr. Jen Gunter, author of The Vagina Bible to address this. Listen in to hear what the current medical science has to offer. On the Magnum, a woman would like to date someone who isn't a broke-ass man, for once. But she isn't a gold-digger either. She and Dan chat about how to thread this needle. And, a married woman doesn't understand how you can live with someone, see them act like a slob, smell their farts, and still be attracted to them. Does she need to live in a separate house?
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He took part in the Moderna vaccine trial, which puts him at the front of the line to get his shot. But he's a young, healthy man who works from home. Should he wait, lest he deny someone who needs it more than him? A woman starting a new relationship used to have an eating disorder that damaged her heart to such an extent that she gets easily winded. What should she say if her new man wants to go mountain climbing? On the Magnum, Dan chats with our favorite lawyer, Diana Adams, about asking your pal to donate his sperm so you and your girlfriend can have a little, bitty baby. Also, they discuss the unholy coupling of poly-minded person with a monogamy-minded person. It's hard! And, a gay man wants an erotic pen-pal relationship like in days of old. Are there any gentlemen out there who would like to use their quills to tickle his fancy?
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When your wife is buddies with the MAGA crowd: Dan counsels a man whose wife hangs out with covid-denying, conspiracy theory-believing, Trump-loving simpletons. He is pretty conservative himself, but these people! It's too much! A middle-aged man is newly grappling with his bisexuality. The wife isn't into it. How can he find other guys like him in his tidy suburb- you know, guys who just want to get together, play some poker and blow each other off? On the Magnum, "There's a big difference between a bull and a man who just wants to fuck your wife." So says Michael Cee of the Keys and Anklets Podcast which deals with all things related to the wife sharing lifestyle. They talked about consent and race and desire and you should listen. And, how can a woman safely indulge her danger kink? We're talking knife/gun play, fear play and snuff play. The key here is the word "play."
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Insta-Apocalypse with JoEllen Notte.

Episode #741 — January 5, 2021

Ah, the pleasures of getting rimmed! But what if you are alone, during quarantine times? Is there a sex toy out there to help a lass get off? Starting in kindergarten, a woman began masturbating using a very specific and very odd technique. Now she needs to do this, and she's super-embarrassed about it. How can she get over her shame, and possibly move on to more conventional orgasm inducers? On the Magnum version of the show, is Instagram going the way of Tumblr- removing all sexual content? Writer and sex educator JoEllen Notte is on to explain the sitch. A woman had a fun fling with a man 17 years her senior. She ended the sex, but they became good friends. Now, 2 years later, she's changed her mind again, and wants him to be her boyfriend. How can she lure him back?
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Sex advice from a former Republican operative.

Episode #740 — December 29, 2020

In our opening "sexcess story", how to turn your tiny quarantine apartment into a home sex-club discotheque. A woman has thoughtfully chosen to not have children. So why do friends and strangers hassle her about this? On the Magnum, Dan goes toe to toe with his (formerly) Republican enemy Tim Miller. Before Miller saw the light he was the communications director for Jeb Bush's 2016 campaign, and also worked for John McCain and Mitt Romney. Then along came Trump and he became a "never Trumper" and now, has renounced the Republican party. Oh, and he's a big homo. He and Dan used to publicly battle on Twitter, but now he joins us to dispense sex advice. A heartwarming tale for your New Years. And, have you ever heard of an adult man who still has wet dreams all the time? This man does... 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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