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With Sex Workers' Rights Advocate- Elle Stanger.

Episode #681 — November 12, 2019

A woman wants her boyfriend to pee inside of her. Cool, cool. But he is pee shy! How can he get over it? A woman and her man love threesomes with women. But they don't want kids. Should they warn their unicorn that if she happens to get knocked up they will have no part in the parenting of her kids? Sssssexy! On the Magnum, Dan chats with worker's rights advocate Elle Stanger about the ongoing disaster that is SESTA/FOSTA. A 21 year-old man and his lady both live with their parents, and they have no place to make sweet love. So they do it in the car. But they keep getting caught, once by the police. Is it time to demand some privacy at home? How?
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With token straight man, Michael Ian Black.

Episode #679 — October 29, 2019

A tale of two subs: What to do when both people in a couple are submissive? Find one dom to rule them all? Take turns? A woman is super-duper annoyed that her Trump-lovin' brother is throwing a gender reveal party. Are they inherently unacceptable? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan casts about for a straight man to help him answer questions, and finds actor/comedian/author Michael Ian Black to discuss infidelity, betrayal and REVENGE. Also, a lesbian with Asperger's can't tell if her co-worker is flirting with her or not. Tricky stuff. 206-302-2064
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Is drag over? AW HELL NO! With Simon Doonan.

Episode #678 — October 22, 2019

A woman was apparently dating Genghis Khan. He told her he had had a vasectomy, but she got pregnant anyway. And so had a bunch of other women he dated. Her lawyer says she has a battery case. Her friends tell her to chill out. What do you think? A married woman has a very dear gay male friend. She wants to go on vacation with him. But is this too much? Too close? Too weird? On the Magnum, are we sick of drag yet? No. No, we are not. Dan brings on the ever-delightful Simon Doonan to talk about the drag moment we're having, and his new book "Drag, The Complete Story." A woman has been with her boyfriend for 9 years- since middle school. No surprisingly, she's getting bored with the sex. They want to remain monogamous, but how can they "spice things up?" Swingers clubs? Exhibitionism? Other adventures? Dan has ideas! So do you. 206-302-2064
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It's the food poisoning episode!

Episode #677 — October 15, 2019

A woman has vowed to never date a Trump voter. But she lives in a small conservative town, and she's getting lonely... A woman did some sex work a couple years ago. She's dating someone new and wonders if, when or how to tell him. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Joan Price, author of "Naked at Our Age" about how to combat the effects of early menopause. Poor unicorn! Her couple broke up! Should she ask the lady in the (former) couple if she can continue to be with her ex? Awkward! 206-302-2064 Feel better Dan!
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Love Your Curvy Body! With Elle Chase.

Episode #676 — October 8, 2019

An open-minded but shy woman has a gaggle of friends who all talk about sticking their fingers in their boyfriends butts to everyone's delight. But the caller isn't into it. Is she depriving her boyfriend of this singular pleasure? A woman got a tattoo and felt turned on by the experience. Her husband reaped the benefits of this lust later that night. But is it wrong to secretly perv on her tattoo artist? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Elle Chase, author of "Curvy Girl Sex" about LOVING YOUR BODY, damn it, and some other things too. Like having two very different sized boobs, and the message it sends when you have a dizzying array of sex toys hanging over your bed. This is a delightful conversation and therefore, you should listen to it. Also, a gay man is dating a masculine "thug" type who delivers in bed, but won't go out on a date in public. Hmmmm.
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Bi women and weed.

Episode #675 — October 1, 2019

An anonymous LinkedIn contact has asked a woman if she would be his FinDom. He would give her money every week in a form of submission to her. But he refuses to reveal his identity. Should she take him up on it? Would you? A gay man has an out-of-town friend who is straight, conservative and engaged to be married. But when the caller was checking out gay hook-up apps he discovered his friend there. Should the caller reach out to his closeted friend and let him know he knows? Try to stop the wedding? Offer support? Or pretend he never saw a thing? On the Magnum, did you know that bisexual women are huffin' and puffin' that delicious weed way more than straight women? Why would this be? In this "What You Got?" Dan brings on Dr. Morgan Philbin from Columbia University to discuss her research. (For access to this study, Email Dr. Philbin: mp3243@columbia.edu) And, a gay man has been checking out a guy at the gym. Is he gay? Or just working out? Are his smoldering looks being reciprocated? How can he get to the bottom of this sexy mystery?
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Mob Queens with Michael Seligman

Episode #674 — September 24, 2019

It's your typical story: Man has sex with girl who has only 2 fingers on one of her hands. Man never calls girl again because he only wanted casual sex anyway. Years later, man feels guilty for not calling girl with disability because he worries she will think he ghosted her because of her weird hand. Man calls homosexual sex advice podcaster for absolution. A man and his wife are embarking on some sex club explorations. Dan chats with the man about how to stay safe and keep his head together and his marriage strong. Also, there is talk of glory holes. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Michael Seligman, co-host of "Mob Queens" a podcast about some deliciously sordid gay history. Finally, a woman was hooking up with a guy who came on her chest and then licked it up. So far so good. But her friends, including her gay male friends, are grossed out to hear this detail. What is going on here? Why the squick factor?
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Kink by Gender, with Dr. Justin Lehmiller.

Episode #673 — September 17, 2019

A married woman has just hosted her mother-in-law in their small apartment. After seeing her husband and his mother interact, she just doesn't fell like having any sex at all. How can she clear out the in-law vibes? Morning! A woman emerges from sleep in the full throes of an orgasm. But her dream was mundane and not even close to sexy. What in god's name is going on here? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Lehmiller of the Kinsey Institute about whether men and women are equally kinky. And, a young man wants to ask out a bunch of women at work. What is the best approach? 206-302-2064
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Dental Dams Spoiler Alert! (Nobody Uses Them.)

Episode #672 — September 10, 2019

A woman's boyfriend used to achieve orgasm with ease. But now he can't come from penetration. The caller worries that in her boyfriend's eyes, she has become the madonna, when she used to be the whore. Dan speaks with a bisexual man, whose first attempt at unicorning (yes, we verbbed the word "unicorn,") went poorly, mainly due to his straight couple maybe getting a little too drunky? Anyway, next time will go better, brave unicorn! On the Magnum: Dental dams- Nobody uses them. That is the consensus illuminated by Anna Waters of The Atlantic. Also, Dan chats with Orna Guralnik- the shrink featured in the new docuseries "Couples Therapy."
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