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With Andrew Rannells

Episode #647 — March 19, 2019

A woman and her husband are having a difficult year. And to top it off, he divulged that he likes to wear women's clothes, and would like to raid her closet. She worries that this is just the first step toward a transgender identity. Do straight men ever like to wear women's clothes? (Spoiler: Yes.) A woman's conservative cousin has started working at a "Crisis Parenting Center," that gives misinformation about abortion. Should she confront her? On the Magnum, Dan chats with his soul brother the Broadway god Andrew Rannells. Discussion topics: black sheets, home decor, male unicorns, and Andrew's new memoir- Too Much is Not Enough: A Memoir of Fumbling Toward Adulthood." And, here's a conundrum. A vegan is into leather. Discuss. 206-302-2064
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The TRIGGER show.

Episode #646 — March 12, 2019

Yowsers! it's the TRIGGER SHOW. This show is pretty gnarly. There's molestation, pedophila, snuff porn, incest, dicks in a drawer, blubbering boyfriends and even doggity style! Listen in if you dare. On the Magnum, we also have Dan's transman pal Jens Cinquemani on to take a few trans-orented calls. 206-302-2064
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We got PUNKED.

Episode #645 — March 5, 2019

A woman has taken up with two men. One of them is a pal, and it's all about the sex. The other one is her perfect fit emotionally, but the sex is on the "meh" side. How on earth can she choose between them? A while back we had on a guest who turned out to be a charlatan! He duped a lot of media outlets, the Lovecast included. Dan interviews the journalist from Gizmodo who outed this fraud. Crow: it's what's for dinner. On the Magnum, a woman is dating a guy who is great in every way, except! He has terrible teeth. Would it be too shallow of her to dump him over this? And, a woman still grieving over her father's death sobs when she orgasms. Is this normal?
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Johann Hari on the depression epidemic.

Episode #644 — February 26, 2019

A man lives in a duplex below a couple women. One day, he heard them having sex, and it inspired him to have a wank. Now he feels guilty. Is he an Eavesdropping Tom? A woman hooked up with a younger man. He asked her if his penis looked like it was circumcised. He wasn't and she told him so. How could a fella possibly not know this about himself? It is very perplexing. On the Magnum Dan has a long conversation with Johann Hari - the controversial author of "Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – and the Unexpected Solutions." They discuss the western world's depression epidemic and whether treatment is over-medicalized. Hari offers a new paradigm on how to truly address human suffering. And what about being in a relationship with depressed people? That's Dan's wheelhouse. Listen in.
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The Ethics of HIV Disclosure

Episode #643 — February 19, 2019

When bisexual friends go wild: A lesbian has been buddies with a bi woman for a while. Guess what happened when they got drunk! Now, the bi friend is asking her boyfriend for a hall pass to sleep with the lesbian friend. But will their friendship be able to withstand all this newfound passion? Hear two tales concerning the ethics of HIV disclosure: A male/female couple have always been bi and open. But when they both got HIV it became much more difficult to find other partners willing to take the risk. And, a transwoman sex worker also has HIV. She is on meds, and undetectable. Her sugar daddy who wants to take her on a fabulous trip. Should she tell him? Speaking of sex workers, on the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Lucy Platt about her study looking at how criminalization of sex work affects the health of sex workers. And, dating handsome bartenders. It ain't easy.
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With Eric Leue from the Free Speech Coalition.

Episode #642 — February 12, 2019

A woman makes twice as much as her boyfriend. When he learned this his eyes went wide. Now she feels guilty. Should she start paying more of the bills? Do you like piña coladas? A kinky woman started dating a new man. Before she could tell him about her kinks she discovered that the dude she's been talking dirty with on Fetlife is THE SAME GUY, but he doesn't know it yet. How can she tell him that they are already...acquainted? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Eric Leue from the Free Speech Coalition about the rise of sex censorship on the internet. Then Eric stayed on to help Dan answer some questions about using dom/sub sex to relieve anxiety, inhibiting your gag reflex, and straight bartenders in gay bars. 206-302-2064
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Squirt along with Dr. Zhana!

Episode #641 — February 5, 2019

Hey uncircumcised fellas! Would you get cut because your girlfriend wanted you to? Because she thought that it made your dick bigger? Would you really? This guy did. Hear the tale of a man's sexual adventure in Las Vegas, and how he can't seem to find a lady unless he's paying her. Gracing us on both the Micro and the Magnum, sex researcher Dr. Zhana Vrangalova explains the current state of the science on squirting. What exactly is that stuff anyway? Then she stayed on to help answer a question on the Magnum about companionate marriage, and being married to a man with a madonna/whore complex. Listen in- Dr. Zhana is wonderful. And, a woman learns that her boyfriend has been secretly sexting a random woman for years. She found out because the other woman was exacting her REVENGE for ending the Instagram relationship. Now what? 206-302-2064 Do you squirt? Take the survey! www.squirtingsurvey.com Want to learn how to squirt/make your partner squirt? http://bit.ly/squirtingclass
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Dating with Disabilities

Episode #640 — January 29, 2019

Therapy is good right? It gets you in touch with your feelings. Unless...those feelings you are getting in touch with are jealousy, paranoia and possessiveness. Sometimes it's time to BACK AWAY FROM THE FEELINGS. Anyway, here's the kind of question you really came for: A woman is about to turn thirty and wants to throw a big sex party with XTC a'flowin'. But she is also a mom and wants to invite her other mom friends. Should she offer them party drugs too? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Andrew Gurza from the Disability After Dark podcast to talk about dating when you have a disability. And, a bi woman is dating her first lady. The problem? This lady gets very, very, very, very wet. So wet that the caller wonders if she should keep a washcloth by the bed. You should have such problems, right? 206-302-2064
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The Bad Behavior Show

Episode #639 — January 22, 2019

Some of you are doing terrible things. We start with a teen who has been sneaking off with her mother's vibrator. How can her long-suffering parents encourage her to use one without using *that particular* one? A woman's new boyfriend begs her to let him change her tampon, saying it would bring them closer together. Is this a fetish of his? Is this a fetish of anyone's? This isn't "bad," per se but just what the Sam Hill is going on on here? On the Magnum, Dan chats with bad-assed victims' right's lawyer Carrie Goldberg about the hook-up app Grindr dragging their feet on intervening in some very serious harassment going on. Bad! And, we're not done, just you listen! A woman loves to cheat- she loves the sneaking around, the lying, all of it. She doesn't want poly, she wants to cheat! AND. A gay man regularly "sticks it in" without a condom, even when expressly forbidden to do so. That is so, so bad. Dan has his work cut out for him this week.
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Pasturbators

Episode #638 — January 15, 2019

A gay man is sick of always having to initiate with his new boyfriend. The boyfriend is a big guy, but very submissive. How can the caller get the dude to make a move now and again? A woman caught her fiancé wanking to photos of his exes. Now she feels jealous and insecure. How can she get over it? On the Magnum, hear two tales of companionate marriages: How to do it right, and how to do it wrong. And, a woman with baby fever is single, but hell bent on reproducing. She is convinced her parents will disapprove of her plan to find a sperm donor. But she's gonna do it anyway...
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