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He took part in the Moderna vaccine trial, which puts him at the front of the line to get his shot. But he's a young, healthy man who works from home. Should he wait, lest he deny someone who needs it more than him? A woman starting a new relationship used to have an eating disorder that damaged her heart to such an extent that she gets easily winded. What should she say if her new man wants to go mountain climbing? On the Magnum, Dan chats with our favorite lawyer, Diana Adams, about asking your pal to donate his sperm so you and your girlfriend can have a little, bitty baby. Also, they discuss the unholy coupling of poly-minded person with a monogamy-minded person. It's hard! And, a gay man wants an erotic pen-pal relationship like in days of old. Are there any gentlemen out there who would like to use their quills to tickle his fancy?
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When your wife is buddies with the MAGA crowd: Dan counsels a man whose wife hangs out with covid-denying, conspiracy theory-believing, Trump-loving simpletons. He is pretty conservative himself, but these people! It's too much! A middle-aged man is newly grappling with his bisexuality. The wife isn't into it. How can he find other guys like him in his tidy suburb- you know, guys who just want to get together, play some poker and blow each other off? On the Magnum, "There's a big difference between a bull and a man who just wants to fuck your wife." So says Michael Cee of the Keys and Anklets Podcast which deals with all things related to the wife sharing lifestyle. They talked about consent and race and desire and you should listen. And, how can a woman safely indulge her danger kink? We're talking knife/gun play, fear play and snuff play. The key here is the word "play."
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Insta-Apocalypse with JoEllen Notte.

Episode #741 — January 5, 2021

Ah, the pleasures of getting rimmed! But what if you are alone, during quarantine times? Is there a sex toy out there to help a lass get off? Starting in kindergarten, a woman began masturbating using a very specific and very odd technique. Now she needs to do this, and she's super-embarrassed about it. How can she get over her shame, and possibly move on to more conventional orgasm inducers? On the Magnum version of the show, is Instagram going the way of Tumblr- removing all sexual content? Writer and sex educator JoEllen Notte is on to explain the sitch. A woman had a fun fling with a man 17 years her senior. She ended the sex, but they became good friends. Now, 2 years later, she's changed her mind again, and wants him to be her boyfriend. How can she lure him back?
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Sex advice from a former Republican operative.

Episode #740 — December 29, 2020

In our opening "sexcess story", how to turn your tiny quarantine apartment into a home sex-club discotheque. A woman has thoughtfully chosen to not have children. So why do friends and strangers hassle her about this? On the Magnum, Dan goes toe to toe with his (formerly) Republican enemy Tim Miller. Before Miller saw the light he was the communications director for Jeb Bush's 2016 campaign, and also worked for John McCain and Mitt Romney. Then along came Trump and he became a "never Trumper" and now, has renounced the Republican party. Oh, and he's a big homo. He and Dan used to publicly battle on Twitter, but now he joins us to dispense sex advice. A heartwarming tale for your New Years. And, have you ever heard of an adult man who still has wet dreams all the time? This man does... 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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With Sarah Silverman!

Episode #739 — December 22, 2020

Our opening "sexcess" story features a woman willing to indulge her boyfriend's drool fetish. A woman has come to understand that her husband has a belly fetish. And she has a lot less belly than she used to... Oh, and guess who's here! It's the brilliant Sarah Silverman! She and Dan chat about staying friends with exes, the difference between doing stand-up comedy and recording a podcast, her political activism and so much more. Then, Sarah and Dan take calls together on the Magnum. So if you haven't yet subscribed...now's the time. Here's one of the calls Dan and Sarah discuss: Why do men like to spit on their lovers?
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A woman needs a giant wiener to feel satisfied. That's just how it is. But how can she vet prospective partners ahead of time? How can she tell her current man that his average-sized dick just isn't big enough? Ah the hypocrisy...a man is turned on by videos aimed at voyeurs, where people don't know they're being filmed. Then! He was filmed at a bathhouse, and now that the pics are out...he's furious. He knows he's being hypocritical, but what can he do? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Rachel Gelman about the importance of the pelvic floor in sexual health. And a woman wonders if she should be offended by "unsolicited baby pics" from her ex-boyfriend.
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A woman was listening to an anonymous confessional podcast, and heard her friend talk about being abused as a child. The caller is certain it was her friend, and never knew about the abuse. Should she bring it up? A gay man has a friend group that makes insensitive, cavalier rape jokes. His boyfriend thinks he needs to grow a thicker skin. Is he being oversensitive? On the Magnum, NERD ALERT. Dan brings on Dr. Katie Mack, an astrophysicist who brings her unique perspective (the end of the universe by heat death) to relationship advice. Because, why not? Despite staring into the abyss for a living Dr. Mack is delightful, and you should listen in. And, what exactly is the difference between slow fucking, and "making love?" The answer may shock you.
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Breakup Bootcamp with Amy Chan

Episode #736 — December 1, 2020

A woman is worried because her boyfriend claims he doesn't have any kinks. Is he covering something up? HOW CAN HE NOT HAVE ANY KINKS? A straight man enjoys photoshopping the heads of his female friends over naked bodies. He then deletes his masterpieces. Is this wrong? Should he feel bad? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Amy Chan of the Breakup Bootcamp, about how to recognize recurring patterns we go through when we break up over and over again. And, a caller wonders if the American flag must go the way of the Hitler mustache.
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Curvy Girl Dating, with Elle Chase.

Episode #735 — November 24, 2020

A man in his 60s is just like a teenager! But in the wrong way- he comes too soon. How can he resolve his little PE problem? After a man's girlfriend came out him (drunkenly) as bi, he realized he is bi too! But now he's jealous of his girlfriend's female exes that she maintains friendships with. He is lost at bisexual sea. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Elle Chase, author of Curvy Girl Sex, about body size issues, and dating as a large woman. And, a woman wonders if she should have pepper-sprayed that guy who asked for directions from his car but really wanted her to watch him touch his wiener. 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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He's baaaaack. It's Dr. Bummer!

Episode #734 — November 17, 2020

Have you ever had to quickly mute yourself on a Zoom meeting because your girlfriend was getting spanked in the other room? Just asking. Dan brings back Lina Dune from Ask a Sub to discuss the ethics of public displays of *kinky* affection. You know, like, leading your slave around by his leash in the grocery store. On the Magnum, it's the anxious return of the esteemed epidemiologist Dr. Daniel Westreich, aka Dr. Bummer. He's on to talk about the spiking spike of cold cases across the United States. But what a time to be an epidemiologist, am I right? And, a 41 year old man recalls when he was young, he showed up at the studio of his local newscaster to ask her out. He claims he wasn't attracted to her fame. He just thought they would make a good couple. She politely refused. Now he wonders. Was that creepy?
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