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Mindfulness: The female Viagra?

Episode #617 — August 21, 2018

A woman got together with what seemed to be the perfect man for her. Kinky. Into spanking. And social justice! But after they got together she discovered that he is really the married pastor of a conservative mega-church. Dan counsels her on whether to unmask this lying creep. A gay man came out late in life. When he tells his dates this, they balk. How can he reveal his truth to the men in his life and still earn their respect? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the estimable Dr. Lori Brotto about her new book: "Better Sex through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire." Sounds good, right? And, what on earth is "tribbing?" Spell-check sure doesn't like it.
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Dating an asexual.

Episode #602 — May 8, 2018

A woman's husband installed a hidden camera in their house. We aren't saying WHERE he installed it, but you should know that this call made us take off our headphones for a second. As a young man navigates through his dating life, he finds that the girls he's really attracted to ghost him, and the gals he's lukewarm about chase him with conviction. Why?! Dan chats with the lad and gives him a clue. On the Magnum Dan speaks with Dr. Lori Brotto about having a fulfilling relationship with an asexual. Check out her book here. And, THE INTERNET IS NOT SAFE FOR YOU. Our guest, Anthony Hecht is a little less alarmist than that, but not much
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Dr. Lori Brotto on asexuality

Episode #525 — November 15, 2016

Welcome to the Savage Lovecast where we are ready to fight like hell to take our country back. Are you? Apparently, Trump-voting family members are a thing. Should you spend your holidays with these people? Dan's answer will not shock you. A divorced man has started dating a new woman. When he was married he got caught seeing a sex-worker and it became a public scandal. When should he tell his new love about his past? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Lori Brotto in a "What You Got?" about asexuality. A straight man starts shaking uncontrollably whenever he is about to have sex, and it ruins everything. How can he get over this? A man was together with his wife for 13 years. Then she left him for a woman....a rich woman. So did she leave him for the scratch or the snatch?
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With Dr. Lori Brotto.

Episode #481 — January 12, 2016

What to do when your drunken cousin starts blabbing about all the affairs she’s having and all the cocaine she’s snorting and all the traffic accidents she’s having? A professor is in anguish because she is about to sleep with a much younger, very good looking FORMER student. A couple of her (male) colleagues think this is a bad idea. Most of them (all women) say “ Go for it.” What do you, dear listener, think she should do? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Lori Brotto, about a woman’s numb clitoris. She feels nothing, poor thing. And, a college student wonders if it’s a good idea to chat about her schoolwork naked with a man she found on Craigslist. He would pay her. What could go wrong? 206-302-2064
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Live from Vancouver!

Episode #416 — October 14, 2014

It's the Savage Lovecast LIVE from Vancouver BC. Featuring the super-delightful sex researcher Dr. Lori Brotto and the incomparably filthy singer-songwriter Rachel Lark.
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2014 is looking just as pervy as 2013.

Episode #375 — December 31, 2013

A gal is convinced her good friend is a homo. Should she use her wiles to lure him out of the closet? A lad is good friends with a woman who admitted she has a crush on him. He doesn't feel the same way about her, but knows she would make a great life partner. Should he suggest a companionate marriage from the get-go? On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with psychologist and sex researcher Dr. Lori Brotto about women's libido, and the need for variety in both genders. Also, some loud neighbors were either acting out a rape scenario, or an actual rape was taking place. Would you call the cops? Or would you just call us?
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