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Let's hear it for companionate marriage!

Episode #486 — February 16, 2016

A woman is thinking of surprising her boyfriend with another woman to have a three-way with. Can Dan talk her out of it? An evenly bisexual man had to come out at his macho job as gay when was engaged to a man. Now that he’s dating a woman, does he have to come out again as straight? On the Magnum, Dan and writer Ephi Stempler do a deep dive on companionate marriage. And a woman watches horrified as her friend gets ready to marry her lying, cheating fiancé. Should she and her friends stage an intervention? 206-302-2064
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With "The Perverted Negress" Mollena Williams.

Episode #469 — October 20, 2015

How can a man convince his lady to give him the kind of sloppy head that makes her gag? It’s not like he’s anti-feminist or anything! A woman’s mother-in-law does NOT APPROVE of her poly lifestyle. But mom doesn’t know that her precious son is also as poly as the day is long. Should they cut off contact from his mother? Or is it time for him to come out already? Tear jerker! Dan tries to talk a suffering, abused gay kid into leaving her parents’ toxic home. On the Magnum, get kinky with Mollena Williams, a.k.a The Perverted Negress. 206-302-2064
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Trans porn star Bailey Jay.

Episode #464 — September 15, 2015

Have you ever loved someone so much, even though you’ve known them for only 6 weeks, that when they break up with you, you call a sex advice podcaster sobbing and sobbing? Meanwhile, a married man with his wife for 11 years, is working on forgiving her for cheating on him, and on opening their relationship so she can be her full self. Also, he thinks it’s kind of hot. On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans porn star/occultist Bailey Jay about the effects of hormone therapy on libido. Also, what to do when your boyfriend is TOO NICE.
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Joan Price on senior lovin'.

Episode #456 — July 21, 2015

After a wedding guest sat and endured some anti-gay loony talk from a bigoted pastor, a woman wonders what she could have done better. Walk out? Audibly boo? Hear a couple of calls from women who get off on lesbian porn, and the very different reactions their boyfriends have to this unspeakable perversity. Dan welcomes Joan Price, author of Naked at Our Age, to answer some calls concerning sex for the senior set. If you’re looking for sex toys for your parents or grandparents, this show is a must. Also, hear the woeful tale of the woman whose father discovered her giving a blow job on the beach. 206-201-2720
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Don't believe the female viagra hype.

Episode #451 — June 16, 2015

A divorced single mother can’t seem to get it through her lovers’ heads that she just wants casual relationships. How can she convince them that there’s no ring required? A woman’s mouth is dick Kryptonite! Her boyfriend’s penis always goes soft when she tries to go down. What on earth is she doing wrong? On the Magnum, Dan talks to author and bioethics professor Alice Dreger as well as documentarian Liz Canner, who created Orgasm Inc, about the hype and general scumminess surrounding the new “Female viagra”- flibanserin. And tons more. 206-201-2720
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Science PROVES that liberals are happier!

Episode #445 — May 5, 2015

Conservatives smile with their mouths. But liberals smile with their eyes. So says social psychologist Sean Wojcik in a "What You Got" proving once and for all that lefties are happier than right-wingers. A young man suffers from CUNNILINGUS LOCKJAW. Although Dan has never experienced this particular ailment, he nonetheless has some advice to give. On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans rights activist Chelsea Poe about straight cis men who are attracted to transwomen. A woman used to cut herself when she was depressed. She's better now, but has many scars to show from her dark times. How can she warn her new lovers and get over the shame and embarrassment she feels? 206-201-2720
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How to conduct yourself at the kinky play party.

Episode #433 — February 10, 2015

A kinkster is worried that her feminist mother will see some bruises and assume the worst about her boyfriend. How can she explain that they are in a loving, mutually satisfying Dom/sub situation? A woman doesn't like to swallow her boyfriend's come. Is this a rare condition? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Zoë Tersche from the website ThisWink.com about how to comport yourself at kinky play parties. And, a man with a heart condition is sick of his lovers going easy on him in bed. Can he ethically withhold the information that the exciting sex they are about to enjoy might make him keel over? What a way to go. 206-201-2720
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Dad, whose panties are these?

Episode #388 — April 1, 2014

This episode is riddled with parents creeping out their kids. A man in an established open relationship is horrified to learn that his step-daughter caught him chatting with other ladies. How can he explain to her that he's playing by the rules? It gets much worse. We won't reveal all here, but let's just say that your father might be into panties. And finally in our trilogy of parental distress, how the hell do you tell your kids that your family is…special? Dan brings on poly lawyer Diana Adams to help. Over in Magnumtown... In this week's "What You Got?" Dan chats with Dr. Arielle Kuperberg about her study showing that if you marry young, you're more liable to get divorced, duh. A married man and the little lady like to go out on the town and have some sexy time. But he's not as young as he used to be, and likes to enhance the evening with Viagra. Should he tell her about the Tinkerbell pills? And finally, tattoos: Hot or not?
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We open with a heartrending call from a woman in the Bible belt, whose own children condemn her for dating a black man. The year is 2014. Dan chats with Hanna Rosin (Author of "The End of Men",) on women's changing relationship with their careers vs. partners. On the Magnum, a fascinating "What You Got" with Professor Jennifer Glass. Her study shows that conservative Christians not only have a higher divorce rate, but anyone who lives near their communities have higher divorce rates too. And, hear the woes of a man who likes blow jobs just a little too much.
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In this very special "Christmas" episode of the Savage Lovecast, you may detect a theme of problematic families. Bigot uncles, closet cases, intolerant mothers, that sort of thing. However! You get to wash it all down with some Dina Martina at the end, so, there's that… But seriously folks. Happy holidays from all of us at the Savage Lovecast. We hope you find your warmth in a true, loving family, whatever that looks like. 
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