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With Google powerhouse, Blaise Agüera y Arcas.

Episode #579 — November 28, 2017

"Why won't my girlfriend go down on me, why?!" asks this nice man, who goes down on her plenty. Does she not like it? What? Nancy and Dan wring their hands together about words, and Nancy reveals something truly horrible about herself. On the Magnum, Dan and Google's powerhouse Distinguished Scientist Blaise Agüera y Arcas discuss artificial intelligence, facial recognition software, privacy and other deeply creepy topics. A woman and her husband of 6 years have discovered that they share the same rare kink. But this kink is so kinky that she's being kink-shamed by her kink-phobic best friend. "WHAT IS THIS KINK?" you ask. You'll have to listen to find out. It's really quite something. 206-302-2064
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with Rachel Lark

Episode #553 — May 30, 2017

Oh, that nasty chef! A woman works in a restaurant where her manager is having an affair with the married chef. Sometimes the caller has to serve the chef's poor innocent wife. It's so cruel that all the servers are about to revolt. A married man harbors a cuckolding fantasy. He is certain his wife would never-ever be into it. But would she? Also, we couldn't help but play a couple of Rachel Lark songs, cuz they're so good. And on the Magnum, have you heard of "Hypersomnia?" A woman can't keep herself awake, sometimes at inopportune times, and she worries she'll be taken advantage of. Dan brings on a sleep medicine expert to discuss. Also, a woman who makes a lot of noise during sex, is confused when she gives her boyfriend the best head ever, and he is...perfectly silent.
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Blow jobs and TMJ

Episode #550 — May 9, 2017

A couple of ex-Mormons started dating. He broke up with her because she wasn't "nice." But don't worry everybody- he immediately came back to her. Then he broke up with her again, because he's gay. But it's ok! He changed his mind on that as well and came back to her. Now he isn't sure if he wants to be with her because of her jealousy issues. Ah, true love. A 13 year-old girl came out as gay to her mother, who easily accepts this. But grandma! She's a big ole Christian homophobe. Should the caller out her daughter to her mother? Even if the daughter doesn't want her to? On the Magnum, a man's wife has TMJ, and so can't give oral sex for very long. Dan chats with Dr. Michael Plaut who has written extensively on the subject. And, remember Dan's open rant on "stealthers?" Hear the horrible tale of a stealther in action. 206-302-2064
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RANDY RAINBOW

Episode #531 — December 27, 2016

In these dark times, there is a man to bring us joy. His name is Randy Rainbow. Dan and Randy talk about his brilliant YouTube videos, dealing with the election and farting. A woman in a long distance relationship doesn't like the way her man goes down on her. So, she just sits there and waits for it to be over. Maybe there's a better strategy to explore? On the Magnum, Dan talks to author and Editor of Bustle.com, Gabrielle Moss about a practice you need to acquaint yourself with: grapefruiting. And, learn how NOT to incorporate nosebleeds into your sex life. 206-302-2064
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Dr. Debby Herbenick on ANXIETY ORGASMS.

Episode #491 — March 22, 2016

A straight man has begun a relationship with a transwoman. To put his question bluntly, is he obligated to suck her dick? How on earth is a nice gay man supposed to deal with his father when dad has sworn to vote for Donald Trump? A woman is horrified to see boudoir paintings of her boyfriend’s ex staring at her from the walls. Does she have the right to ask him to take them down? On the Magnum, a woman gets turned on when she experiences anxiety. She even had a couple orgasms in the airport when she missed her flight. Dr. Debby Herbenick chats with Dan about this phenomenon and how to harness such a dark power. 206-302-2064 Hey, are you still reading this? We are putting together a special sex toys episode with lots of experts. If you have a question relating to dildos, restraints, vibrators and the like, NOW IS THE TIME TO CALL. Like right now.
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Let's hear it for companionate marriage!

Episode #486 — February 16, 2016

A woman is thinking of surprising her boyfriend with another woman to have a three-way with. Can Dan talk her out of it? An evenly bisexual man had to come out at his macho job as gay when was engaged to a man. Now that he’s dating a woman, does he have to come out again as straight? On the Magnum, Dan and writer Ephi Stempler do a deep dive on companionate marriage. And a woman watches horrified as her friend gets ready to marry her lying, cheating fiancé. Should she and her friends stage an intervention? 206-302-2064
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With "The Perverted Negress" Mollena Williams.

Episode #469 — October 20, 2015

How can a man convince his lady to give him the kind of sloppy head that makes her gag? It’s not like he’s anti-feminist or anything! A woman’s mother-in-law does NOT APPROVE of her poly lifestyle. But mom doesn’t know that her precious son is also as poly as the day is long. Should they cut off contact from his mother? Or is it time for him to come out already? Tear jerker! Dan tries to talk a suffering, abused gay kid into leaving her parents’ toxic home. On the Magnum, get kinky with Mollena Williams, a.k.a The Perverted Negress. 206-302-2064
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Trans porn star Bailey Jay.

Episode #464 — September 15, 2015

Have you ever loved someone so much, even though you’ve known them for only 6 weeks, that when they break up with you, you call a sex advice podcaster sobbing and sobbing? Meanwhile, a married man with his wife for 11 years, is working on forgiving her for cheating on him, and on opening their relationship so she can be her full self. Also, he thinks it’s kind of hot. On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans porn star/occultist Bailey Jay about the effects of hormone therapy on libido. Also, what to do when your boyfriend is TOO NICE.
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Joan Price on senior lovin'.

Episode #456 — July 21, 2015

After a wedding guest sat and endured some anti-gay loony talk from a bigoted pastor, a woman wonders what she could have done better. Walk out? Audibly boo? Hear a couple of calls from women who get off on lesbian porn, and the very different reactions their boyfriends have to this unspeakable perversity. Dan welcomes Joan Price, author of Naked at Our Age, to answer some calls concerning sex for the senior set. If you’re looking for sex toys for your parents or grandparents, this show is a must. Also, hear the woeful tale of the woman whose father discovered her giving a blow job on the beach. 206-201-2720
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Don't believe the female viagra hype.

Episode #451 — June 16, 2015

A divorced single mother can’t seem to get it through her lovers’ heads that she just wants casual relationships. How can she convince them that there’s no ring required? A woman’s mouth is dick Kryptonite! Her boyfriend’s penis always goes soft when she tries to go down. What on earth is she doing wrong? On the Magnum, Dan talks to author and bioethics professor Alice Dreger as well as documentarian Liz Canner, who created Orgasm Inc, about the hype and general scumminess surrounding the new “Female viagra”- flibanserin. And tons more. 206-201-2720
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