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Planned Parenthood to the rescue!

Episode #487 — February 23, 2016

A mature 18 year-old has somehow failed to tell her real age to her new boyfriend who thinks she’s at least 20. How can she come clean? A man is totally into being cuckolded. Does his girlfriend have to tell her other lovers that they are part of a bigger picture? We are honored to welcome Dr. Sara Pentlicky from Planned Parenthood to help answer a plethora of medical and reproductive questions. Herpes! HPV! Birth control for transmen! We’ve got you covered. 206-302-2064
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With Bailey Jay

Episode #483 — January 26, 2016

A woman’s roommate up and left without notice, leaving behind some expenses in the care of her sick, aged cat. Dan gets in full Judge Judy drag to help arbitrate this rather mundane dispute. Meanwhile, a lesbian wants her butt-plug back! She lent it to her girlfriend and then they broke up. Although things are friendly, should the caller make that awkward ask? Don’t you just love horses? Enough said. On the Magnum, Dan chats with porn star Bailey Jay about the pleasures and perils of sharing photos and camming. Be careful out there, people. 206-302-2064
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Parents and their trans kids.

Episode #482 — January 19, 2016

A young woman is about to embark on a three-way with her boyfriend and another man. How can she make sure the experience isn’t demeaning? A gay man has incest fantasies. How can he find a man willing to role play a father-figure? A married woman and her husband prefer to use condoms. So why is everyone around her so smug and condescending about it? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Robert Garofalo about a father whose kid calls himself transmale, but often presents as female. They discuss the challenges parents face in keeping an open mind and an open heart as kids and teens figure themselves out. 206-302-2064
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Second Opinion with Mallory Ortberg.

Episode #480 — January 5, 2016

In two separate calls, straight men are harassed by their gay male friends. One caller had his buddy drunkenly grope him. The other’s pal assails him with aggressive sexual innuendo. Knock it off fellas! A married woman has a husband who doesn’t trust her. She comes home late from her bar job and he assumes she’s cheating on him. She’s never been unfaithful. How can she turn this ship around? On the Magnum, Dan gets a Second Opinion from Mallory Ortberg, Slate’s delightful, new “Dear Prudie” advice columnist. Dan throws Mallory in the deep end with a call from a woman whose 60 year-old housesitter might have riffled through her sex toy drawer, and concludes with a call from the brother of a child rapist. Welcome to the advice business, Mallory! 206-302-2064
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The One-Minute Wonder Show!

Episode #476 — December 8, 2015

It’s the One-Minute Wonder Show! You asked your questions in one minute or less, and Dan tried to keep his answers brief, with diminishing success. Here’s a smattering of topics: The dangers of road head, olive oil as lube, haggling with your sex worker, tingly come, excluding dog-fuckers from your orgy and so much more. Also, Nancy gets riled up! On the Magnum, the long-suffering Dr. Barak gently explains that no, men cannot get bacterial vaginosis, and answers a requisite question about pee. 206-302-2064 Get your "GGG" and "Fuck First" coffee mugs at www.thestranger.com/savageswag
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With Parker Molloy.

Episode #475 — December 1, 2015

A man’s boyfriend went as a “slut” for Halloween. It turns out, this was a really bad idea. A woman loves getting tied up. But she also needs to touch herself to get off. So…how is this gonna work? On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans writer Parker Molloy about the challenges of transitioning for both partners in a relationship. And, hear the story of a woman who enters “The Land of Pleasure.” By which she means having sex with over 30 men in one long evening. Dan chats with her about how to enjoy her gang-bang kink safely. 206-302-2064 Get your GGG and FUCK FIRST coffee mugs over at www.thestranger.com/savageswag
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Families! With Ken Jennings and Brother Billy.

Episode #474 — November 24, 2015

As you gather around the Thanksgiving table to bask in the warmth and glow of your loved ones, here are some reasons you might feel thankful: Your sister’s boyfriend isn’t beating her up, your wife isn’t a transphobic Russian, your boyfriend’s father doesn’t beat him up, your mother isn’t a toxic evil mess and your step-father (who is also your boss,) doesn’t kick your dog. If any of these things are true for you, well then this show will offer company for your misery. It’s the Families Show! Also, the preternaturally delightful Ken Jennings, 74-time winner of Jeopardy!, for heaven’s sake, explains how he can reconcile his big, big brain with his Mormon faith. And, on the Magnum, Dan breaks some disturbing news to his big brother Billy. Listen in, won’t you? 206-302-2064
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All hail Kate Bornstein!

Episode #466 — September 29, 2015

A woman who identified as lesbian of 15 years (with a wife even,) has taken a younger, male lover. So, how is this gonna work? A man’s girlfriend insists that if and when they have kids, he will have to go through “labor simulation.” He thinks this is batty. But what does Dan Savage think? On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans luminary Kate Bornstein about words vs slurs, the Caitlyn Jenner effect and Kate’s deep, dark past with Scientology. 206-302-2064
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Trans porn star Bailey Jay.

Episode #464 — September 15, 2015

Have you ever loved someone so much, even though you’ve known them for only 6 weeks, that when they break up with you, you call a sex advice podcaster sobbing and sobbing? Meanwhile, a married man with his wife for 11 years, is working on forgiving her for cheating on him, and on opening their relationship so she can be her full self. Also, he thinks it’s kind of hot. On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans porn star/occultist Bailey Jay about the effects of hormone therapy on libido. Also, what to do when your boyfriend is TOO NICE.
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With NPR's Peter Sagal!

Episode #460 — August 18, 2015

Dan and Peter Sagal, host of NPR’s “Wait Wait… Don’t Tell Me” join forces to discuss baptism, Jewish vs Catholic guilt, clingy, needy human doormats, and the special torture that open relationships can bring on. Peter is hilarious and delightful- this show is not to be missed. Some of it is on the Micro, all of it is on the Magnum. Also, you are hereby commanded to buy Peter's book, The Book of Vice here: http://goo.gl/RX9snJ Also, how to approach a cute amputee without causing offense. 206-302-2064
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