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Tracy Clark-Flory on "Involuntary Celibates."

Episode #397 — June 3, 2014

A woman is going nuts because her boyfriend insists on keeping a memento of his previous girlfriend. Is he being unreasonable, or is she the mayor of Crazytown? A straight man wonders if it's too weird to ask his martial arts partner to be his "kink buddy." On the Magnum, Dan chats with Salon writer Tracy Clark-Flory about the "Involuntary Celibates" community, and the rampant misogyny within it. Yikes! Also, meet yet another casualty in the Kissing Wars.
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"Honey? Should I get breast implants?"

Episode #392 — April 29, 2014

How can a man best comfort the woman he just dumped? A woman is scared to tell her parents that she is engaged to a man thirty years her senior. And, Cleveland Steamers demystified! On the Magnum, our house urologist- Dr. Stephen King tells more than you'll ever want to know about Peyronie's disease. Also, lying drunk, pregnant friends, breast implants, and teenaged caretakers all await you on the Magnum version of the show.
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Dad, whose panties are these?

Episode #388 — April 1, 2014

This episode is riddled with parents creeping out their kids. A man in an established open relationship is horrified to learn that his step-daughter caught him chatting with other ladies. How can he explain to her that he's playing by the rules? It gets much worse. We won't reveal all here, but let's just say that your father might be into panties. And finally in our trilogy of parental distress, how the hell do you tell your kids that your family is…special? Dan brings on poly lawyer Diana Adams to help. Over in Magnumtown... In this week's "What You Got?" Dan chats with Dr. Arielle Kuperberg about her study showing that if you marry young, you're more liable to get divorced, duh. A married man and the little lady like to go out on the town and have some sexy time. But he's not as young as he used to be, and likes to enhance the evening with Viagra. Should he tell her about the Tinkerbell pills? And finally, tattoos: Hot or not?
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KNEEL BEFORE ME, SLAVE!

Episode #384 — March 4, 2014

We are delighted to welcome back Mollena Williams, a.k.a "The Perverted Negress," to talk about the kinky men you'll meet online who start the conversation with "KNEEL BEFORE ME, SLAVE!" On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. David Ley about pornography addiction, and why the idea is overblown. Also, a drunken bi lad wonders if he should tell his girlfriend that he is a sex worker. And a lot more. 206-201-2720
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Special guests Masha Gessen and Lea Delaria!

Episode #380 — February 4, 2014

This is one of our all-time favorite shows, people. Dan speaks with Russian journalist Masha Gessen, about the alarming rise of anti-gay oppression in Russia. Is it wrong or unwise to include condoms in erotic fiction? And step aside! On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with the force of nature that is Lea Delaria from "Orange is the New Black." They discuss sex with dykes, the dreaded LBD, (Lesbian Bed Death,) why lesbians like to watch gay male porn and Dan's endangered boy pussy. It's really quite something. And more. 206-201-2720
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The Tortured Creamed Corn Metaphor.

Episode #370 — November 26, 2013

A man and his wife have agreed to divorce. But they have to keep living together for 3 more months. Would it be shabby to start sleeping with the hot gal that lives down the block? An 18 year old girl is engaged to be married to a man who she already knows to be sexually incompatible with her. So what's the problem? Dan chats with Dr. David Sarwer about libido changes following weight-loss surgery. In Magnum-land, a couple embarking on an open relationship disagree on who to tell and how to tell about their new, scandalous status. And, you're going to want to gather 'round the Thanksgiving table with your entire family and listen to the tale of a woman who went a-snooping and discovered that her sister is in a sugar-baby/sugar daddy relationship. Dan chats with the PR lass at a sugar daddy website about how wholesome and innocent this arrangement must truly be. It warms the heart.
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Who knew science could be so sexy?

Episode #364 — October 15, 2013

THE NEXT SEASON (SEASON 16) OF THE SAVAGE LOVECAST WILL DROP ON OCTOBER 22ND. Come back here to get it then. A gay man wonders if he should bring mace to his first date. Dan consoles a woman who feels horribly guilty for blowing a selfish, but scorchingly hot dude. When a lover threatens suicide as a means to prevent a break-up, is this pure manipulation, or a credible threat? Dan speaks with an expert on suicide prevention. On the Magnums, Dan speaks with Dr. Meredith Chivers for a "What You Got" on masochism, and how the different genders and orientations relate to sexy, sexy stimuli in a freaky, freaky lab. (Confidential to musicians everywhere: Please send us a clever and short little jingle to play before "What You Got?" Like really short. Under 10 seconds. Send an MP3 to nancy@thestranger.com, won't you?) When secret Santas go off the rails: A woman who organizes her family's secret santa exchange wonders if she should have included her lesbian cousin's wife, when they got married in SECRET. Now the whole family knows, including the conservative Christian side. Ho! Ho! Ho! And a ton more. As always.
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Dating "Senior Sensitivo."

Episode #356 — August 20, 2013

"Cum Dumpster." Is this a sweet, sexy term, or just plain nasty? A straight woman in Texas feels like a nelly gay man trapped in a woman's body. How can she find her people? A woman has been using OK Cupid for 2 years and still hasn't gotten any action. So Dan chats with OK Cupid co-founder Christian Rudder on what she might be doing wrong. On the Magnum version, Dan interviews sex researcher Dr. Joye Swan on risk-taking and using the idea of monogamy as a magical shield. And more.
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After over a year of dating a woman online that the caller had never met, he is horrified to learn that she isn't at all who she said she was. What now? Bloody lovin': Dan brings on a pointy-headed professor to discuss the taboo against sex with a menstruating woman. On the Magnum version, Dan chats with an expert on when and how to call Child Protective Services. A lesbian who is getting married can't help but notice that her mother was WAY more engaged in her two straight daughters' weddings than the caller's. How can she get mom to show some support? And, is there etiquette when presenting your hairy ass to a waxer, if you are a gentleman? And a lot more.
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Paging Miss Manners! A man's mother detests his wife's mother so much, that she wants to exclude her from the baby shower. How can he tip-toe his way through this field of turds?  A woman very much wants to pursue amorous relations with a hot fireman. But she has insider information suggesting he might be a dick-head. Should she throw caution to the wind?  Hear mighty Dan Savage blush like a schoolboy at theater camp as he interviews the swoon-worthy Andrew Rannells from Book of Mormon. And some super-sad stuff too.  206-201-2720 People! We need more tales of creepy sex, vampires you've dated, methy zombies and other blood curdling encounters. Our Halloween show is fast approaching.   This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something by October 14, 2012 and you just might win $500. Be sure to enter GGG500 at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage 
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