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Casual sex - fear = one sexy laboratory!

Episode #447 — May 19, 2015

A woman finds herself in the middle of a poly free-for-all when she falls for a guy who is sleeping with every woman he can get his mitts on. Is this the poly lifestyle, or just a dude with a harem? A woman is nursing a crush on a man she suspects to be gay. Is there any way she can divine the truth? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Andreas Baranowski for a “What You Got” on what happens to women when you take fear out of casual sex in a sexy, sexy laboratory. (Warning! The sound quality in this interview is pretty bad. But we can’t help it when science happens in Germany!) And the show ends where it began- with poly heartbreak. A man is crushed to hear that his girlfriend wants him to take a step back, so her girlfriend can move into his primary slot. And he thought he was so cool with the whole poly thing… It’s not for everyone, kids. 206-201-2720
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With mighty Sherman Alexie!

Episode #446 — May 12, 2015

This week we delight in welcoming the incomparable poet, writer and filmmaker Sherman Alexie. He and Dan discuss white chicks who embrace “Native American spirituality,” how to pretend to be abstinent to placate your psychopathic preacher, and whether it’s creepy to ask your younger girlfriend to call you “daddy.” Sherman is a treasure and this is not to be missed. 206-201-2720
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Men of the cloth.

Episode #444 — April 28, 2015

A priest and a rabbi come onto a podcast… This week Dan welcomes the retired gay Episcopal Bishop of New Hampshire, Gene Robinson, as well as a Rabbi Jeremy Gerber to tackle some thorny religion/sex issues. How should straight men act at gay pride parades? Are facials inherently misogynist? A woman has just discovered that her husband had an affair. But when they finished fighting about it, the sex was hotter than ever! A married man notices that when he and his wife fight, she tends to withhold sex. Is this a strategy, and how can he make it stop? And a ton more. 206-201-2720
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It's Poly Cocktail Time!

Episode #442 — April 14, 2015

Can Dan convince a young woman to accept and forgive her father for having a 9-year-long affair with a married woman? Listen in as Dan deftly navigates through the kind of theoretical quandary that only a conservative silly person could present. Dan interviews Laura Anderson about her Slate article covering the history of condoms and why they could be so much better. On the Magnum, fall down the poly rabbit hole with us, won't you? Dan chats with poly activist and lawyer Diana Adams about the rise of polyamory in our cultural awareness, and how to live the poly lifestyle, while maintaining your precious sanity. Also, don't you want to learn about "Poly Cocktails"? 206-201-2720
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All hail Planned Parenthood!

Episode #441 — April 7, 2015

This week, we are delighted to welcome Dr. Kara Cadwallader from Planned Parenthood to answer a backlog of medical questions about herpes, meningitis, IUDs and the good ole flu. When you cheat and cheat and cheat, is it time to call yourself poly? On the Magnum, Dan chats with writer, journalist, and transgender woman Parker Molloy, about seeking the understanding and acceptance of family members when dating a trans person. And, a gay man wants to try a threeway with a woman included. Does he have to turn in his gay card? And MORE. 206-201-2720 This instant. Donate to Maine Family Planning. http://www.mainefamilyplanning.org
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Mistress Matisse throws shade on 50 Shades.

Episode #438 — March 17, 2015

The Lovecast is delighted to welcome Mistress Matisse. Dan and our favorite dominatrix/sex-worker rights activist talk about getting started with domination, the perils of being a sex worker and (what else?) 50 Shades of Grey. When planning a three-way with your wife and a friend of yours, how do you choose the lucky friend? And how can you minimize the awkwardness when you make the ask? On the Magnum, hear the spooky tale of a mother-in-law's mysterious vibrating couch. 206-201-2720
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Amy Muise on the science of being GGG.

Episode #435 — February 24, 2015

An amputee is offended when her new boyfriend warns his brother about her disabilities. Is she being too sensitive? A man is being ask to lie about his sister-in-law's abortion. How should he handle the complicated family dynamics? How do gay people happen? Do mommies cause them? On the Magnum version of the show, a very smug Dan Savage interviews Dr. Amy Muise about her recent paper which proved, (PROVED!) that being GGG is beneficial to relationships. Science says so. A woman is horrified to discover that her boyfriend has been sending off dick pics to anyone who will look on Craigslist. Dan gently talks her off the break-up ledge. 206-201-2720
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Allison Moon on female ejaculation geysers.

Episode #427 — December 30, 2014

A drunken lass has intellectual crushes on her professors. How can she express her "love for their intellect?" A man is totes bummed when a date ditches him after discovering that he smokes cigarettes. Is this just what online dating is like? One condom. Three people. Does this math add up? On the Magnum, Dan chats with uber-lesbian author and sex educator Allison Moon about female ejaculation and the geyser that sometimes results. And, listen to a cavalcade of remedies for PMS! 206-201-2720
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Katha Pollitt on abortion rights.

Episode #418 — October 28, 2014

It's the triumphant return of Dr. Barak, here to reassure us that drinking pee is still "pretty darn safe." Is guzzling jizz the equivalent of drinking a protein shake? Should a man rat out his boss for watching porn on his phone after work? On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with Katha Pollitt about her new book, Pro: Reclaiming Abortion Rights. And more. 206-201-2720
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Polly Superstar!

Episode #417 — October 21, 2014

Delusion and dysfunction; this episode has more than its fair share. Inevitable break-ups, sexless marriages, cheating and scheming. Feast your ears! On the sweet, sweet Magnum, Dan chats with sex party luminary Polly Superstar! Also, in a "What You Got?" Dan chats with Dr. Rachel Jones from the Guttmacher Institute about the much maligned withdrawal method. 206-201-2720
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