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Dr. Sarah Hunter Murray, on the science of male desire.

Episode #747 — February 16, 2021

A woman has discovered she has a taste for bisexual dudes. But so many are closeted, or don't lead with their bi-ness on apps. How can she root them out? Dan wades into drama, intrigue and subterfuge! A gay man's acquaintance has dark designs on a straight man in their life. Should the caller warn his unwitting straight friend? Or stay out of it? On the Magnum, Dan welcomes Dr. Sarah Hunter Murray to discuss the misperceptions about male sexuality and desire. C'mon! Fellas need to feel like sex objects too... And, an introverted lass has a bunch of demanding alpha friends. How can she explain to them that sometimes she needs to curl up by the fire?
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When your wife is buddies with the MAGA crowd: Dan counsels a man whose wife hangs out with covid-denying, conspiracy theory-believing, Trump-loving simpletons. He is pretty conservative himself, but these people! It's too much! A middle-aged man is newly grappling with his bisexuality. The wife isn't into it. How can he find other guys like him in his tidy suburb- you know, guys who just want to get together, play some poker and blow each other off? On the Magnum, "There's a big difference between a bull and a man who just wants to fuck your wife." So says Michael Cee of the Keys and Anklets Podcast which deals with all things related to the wife sharing lifestyle. They talked about consent and race and desire and you should listen. And, how can a woman safely indulge her danger kink? We're talking knife/gun play, fear play and snuff play. The key here is the word "play."
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Curvy Girl Dating, with Elle Chase.

Episode #735 — November 24, 2020

A man in his 60s is just like a teenager! But in the wrong way- he comes too soon. How can he resolve his little PE problem? After a man's girlfriend came out him (drunkenly) as bi, he realized he is bi too! But now he's jealous of his girlfriend's female exes that she maintains friendships with. He is lost at bisexual sea. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Elle Chase, author of Curvy Girl Sex, about body size issues, and dating as a large woman. And, a woman wonders if she should have pepper-sprayed that guy who asked for directions from his car but really wanted her to watch him touch his wiener. 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com
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He's baaaaack. It's Dr. Bummer!

Episode #734 — November 17, 2020

Have you ever had to quickly mute yourself on a Zoom meeting because your girlfriend was getting spanked in the other room? Just asking. Dan brings back Lina Dune from Ask a Sub to discuss the ethics of public displays of *kinky* affection. You know, like, leading your slave around by his leash in the grocery store. On the Magnum, it's the anxious return of the esteemed epidemiologist Dr. Daniel Westreich, aka Dr. Bummer. He's on to talk about the spiking spike of cold cases across the United States. But what a time to be an epidemiologist, am I right? And, a 41 year old man recalls when he was young, he showed up at the studio of his local newscaster to ask her out. He claims he wasn't attracted to her fame. He just thought they would make a good couple. She politely refused. Now he wonders. Was that creepy?
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Sometimes you have to call a rabbi.

Episode #733 — November 10, 2020

Our opening "sexcess" story features a black light. You people are creative! Dan counsels a gay man whose boyfriend is so closeted and scared of his military father, (this boyfriend lives in his parent's basement,) that he has to sneak in and out under cover of night. Kind of fun when you're in high school, but in your 30s? Not so much. On the Magnum: Have you ever heard a rabbi say: "The religion is messing you up"? Meet the fearless rabbi Jeremy Gerber. He and Dan discuss blow job technique as well as the practice of mikvah- where couples abstain from all contact during, and for seven days after menstruation. And a 59 year old man who used to be in a sexless marriage is now getting tons of sex. But how can he retrain his dick to orgasm faster?
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Escape from Conversion Therapy Camp!

Episode #732 — November 3, 2020

Our opening covid-era Sexcess story features seniors in a retirement community huffing on ice bongs and getting it on. If they can do it, you can too. A Wiccan druid witchy woman is dating a Christian dude. They let each other be. But when he requests that they do some role playing where she dresses up as a "sexy witch" and puts a spell on him, she wonders if she should be offended or just hop on his broomstick already. Dan interviews Adam Sass, author of Surrender Your Sons- a YA thriller about a gay kid who escapes from a conversation therapy camp. It sounds awesome! Book sales will support Born Perfect, an organization fighting to ban conversion therapy. Bornperfect.org What do you do, when your boyfriend's mother offers you a baby blanket made by her mother, when you don't have or want kids? A) Tell her you don't want the stupid blanket. B) Take the stupid blanket.
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With disabilities expert Andrew Gurza.

Episode #730 — October 20, 2020

A woman is considering becoming a 24/7 slave for a man in a don't-ask-don't-tell relationship with his wife. But maybe he's just cheating on the wife? How can you be sure? Over a decade ago, a woman was in an abusive relationship. He went too far and they broke up. He has been apologizing ever since. Now that she has forgiven him, she wants to connect with him again. Should she? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with disabilities activist Andrew Gurza about some very inappropriate PDA in a park by folks with cognitive delay. He also unveils his new line of sex toys by and for disabled people. And, is it an acceptable move to guide a woman's hand down to your dick when you are making out? Check out Handi at www.thatshandi.co and, pre-order the book here: https://thatshandi.co/collections/pre-order
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Sex Addiction, with Dr. David Ley.

Episode #721 — August 18, 2020

Have you ever gone snorkeling...naked? On a long anticipated second date? Hear ALL about it... A woman's sister is *still* planning her 100 person wedding for this October. Will covid-19 be over by then? Certainly not. So should the caller go to this deathtrap party, or tell her stupid sister to postpone her stupid wedding already? On the Magnum, Dan chats with clinical psychologist and sex therapist David Ley, about the difference between sex addiction and kinks. And, can extroverts successfully date introverts? Dan seems to have managed nicely. Voicemail@savageloivecast.com 206-302-2064
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A man has been with his boyfriend for a year. The boyfriend's supposedly straight roommate gives intimate hugs and drops obvious homo hints when he's drunk. The caller doesn't like him or trust him. Does he have to put up with this? This lady likes a giant, huge, enormous, really big penis. She proposes a hack for when she's with a more modestly endowed gentleman. Could she insert a yoni egg inside her vagina, to simulate that Big Dick feeling? Would this work? Dan? On the Magnum, we welcome the Kinsey Institute's Justin Lehmiller. Dan and Dr. Lehmiller discuss the difficulty of stating your sexual desires to a partner when your desires are...weird. Or disturbing. It's tough out there for a closet kinkster. Dr. Lehmiller's rational thinking and soothing voice are a balm in these confusing times. Finally, a man is dating a woman he really likes. But her parents are Trump supporters. She claims she isn't going to vote at all in November. (!!!) Is she a secret Trump supporter? Does he have the right to demand she vote for Biden? Does this rise to DTMFA levels?
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What about the gay penguins?

Episode #698 — March 10, 2020

Sometimes people call us when they're drunk. Sometimes they call us about their dogs. Welcome to the center of this Venn diagram. A woman has been invited to a "costume wedding." She will be required to dress up like a character in a movie. Is this asking too much? On the Magnum version of the show, it's a super-weird "What You Got?" with an evolutionary reproductive biologist who mulls over the *possibility* that the animal kingdom is teeming with same-sex behavior. Not just the homo penguins. And, a young woman is turned on by much older men. How can she score a silver fox without looking like gold digger?
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