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With former white supremacist Christian Picciolini.

Episode #669 — August 20, 2019

A 76 year-old woman wonders if everyone is doing polyamory these days, or if there are any monogamous couples left. A woman's twin brother has become a white supremacist, and is getting sucked in to a very scary community. Dan brings on Christian Picciolini, who himself was recruited and eventually left the white power movement. He now combats extreme hate groups, with a message compassion and understanding. On the Magnum, Dan chats with writer Zachary Zane, on the challenges and resources for coming out as a bi man. And, a woman works form home in her group house. One of her housemates has wall quaking, floor rumbling, howling, caterwauling, noisy sex at all hours, sometimes while the caller is on a work call. When confronted the housemate says she won't stop. Is it time to move out, or just live with it
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Get On Your Knees!

Episode #668 — August 13, 2019

A man keeps sending his female friends sexual texts and pics, later apologizing saying it was a mistake and sent to the wrong person. Both our caller, and podcast host know better. A man's husband will sometimes wake in the middle of the night and have wild, uninhibited sex. Then he forgets it happened in the morning. Is it wrong for the caller to enjoy these midnight romps? On the Magnum, Dan chats about one of his favorite subjects: blow jobs- with comedian Jacqueline Novak. And, a bi man's 16 year-old son has come out as bi as well. Naturally, the dad wants to buy his son some anal sex toys. But maybe he should hold off a bit?
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The Pain! The Pain!

Episode #665 — July 23, 2019

A woman has been dating a man for 4 months. She just read on his public blog that he thinks he isn't clicking with her. Should she admit she read his blog? Why would he write such a thing? A gay man encountered a willing slave in the bathroom at an orgy. (As one does.) It turns out this slave wants to be in a 24/7 slave/master relationship. He is also closeted, and politically conservative. Sooooo....is his masochism born out of self-hatred? How can (or should) the caller help this twisted soul? On the Magnum, Dan chats with a sex researcher who recently published a paper on how pain is transmogrified into pleasure within the context of BDSM. It's where science meets magic! And, a drunky lady is sick of her drunky boyfriend wetting the bed when he gets drunk. What could the solution possibly be? 206-302-2064
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Summer sex toys! With Erika Moen.

Episode #664 — July 16, 2019

A reasonable woman is about to visit her over-the-top Christian family. Her sister has invited her to join a book club when she's there. Guess what the book is! Should the caller sit through her sister's stealth Bible study, or find a way to politely decline? Or perhaps there's yet another way... A man used to be the cartoon editor for his college newspaper. This was before he got woke, and he is now mortified to recall some nasty anti-gay comics that he published. Should he apologize? Submit new cartoons reflecting his newly enlightened views? Speaking of comics, Dan brings on the ever-delightful comic artist Erika Moen (co-creator of "Oh Joy Sex Toy") to discuss hot summer sex toys. And, on the Magnum, a man recalls how his ex-girlfriend had an abortion. He was there to help her the whole time, and it effected them both. Now that time has passed and he has a wife and kids, how should he talk about the experience, without betraying his ex-girlfriend's experience? 206-302-2064
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Work-related questions answered: with Rob Walker

Episode #663 — July 9, 2019

A man still has hot videos he took of his ex. He loves his current girlfriend, but the sex isn't nearly as good. How wrong is it to view the historical footage? A straight man has HAD IT UP TO HERE with all this "they/them" stuff! And sometimes, you use "they/them" and they still get mad! "What are we doing here, Dan?" On the Magnum, Dan chats with Rob Walker- Human Resource columnist for Lifehacker, about dealing with various schmuckos at work. Also, a woman and her fiancé happily trade chores for sexual favors. Is this ok? 206-302-2064
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It's the One-Minute Wonder Show!

Episode #662 — July 2, 2019

That's right. Your calls were one minute or less. Dan's answers were 2 minutes or less. We blasted through so much, it feels like a blur. Blowing air in vaginas, toxic Drag Race fans, squirting cleanup, anal skin tags, finding that clit, how to avoid getting things stuck up your butt, jizz enemas, micro infidelities, orgasm farts, figging, Gallagher, sounding- this is just a fraction of the rich content you'll hear today. We are all exhausted, actually. 206-302-2064
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OMG. So. Gay.

Episode #661 — June 25, 2019

Just in time for your pride parade, it's the all gay episode! Calls by, for and about queer people. We got nervous lesbians who are scared to introduce the girlfriend to their moms, we got homos who come too soon, or get spooked by conventionally attractive men. Look! It's a bisexual woman who has never been with a woman before and wants to "scratch the itch" while her boyfriend is out of town. A woman whose trans husband has been outed at work, gay cleaning products...wait. What? Gay cleaning products? On the Magnum, Matthew Riemer, co-author of We Are Everywhere, talks about his work illuminating some of the unsung heroes of gay history. You will raise your fist up high. Happy pride everyone. Keep fighting. 206-302-2064
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With Maddie Corman

Episode #656 — May 21, 2019

A woman is dating a man who used to be a sex addict. He slept with hundreds of women. Now their relationship is solid and monogamous, but his many former lovers keep texting him and trying to keep in touch. The caller feels threatened and creeped out. A man has started going to hot yoga to get in shape. The room is filled with gorgeous women stretching and sweating and wearing next to nothing. Is the sexual vibe just in the caller's head? How can he approach some of them without looking like some kind of tantric perv? On the Magnum, a woman's new boyfriend confided in her that he had spent 2 years in prison for downloading child pornography. But she really likes him and wants to believe that he is a good person. Dan speaks with actor Maddie Corman about her similar experience with her husband, about porn addiction, her one-woman show, and how we sometimes can make the choice to forgive. And, a closeted bisexual man is sick of his queer friends trash-talking bisexuals. How can he muster the courage to come out to them?
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With Dr. Wednesday Martin.

Episode #652 — April 23, 2019

A woman claims that over 90% of the time, her casual hook-ups end with the man orgasming, and she gets...nothing. And then! When she asks for a little reciprocity, these men accuse her of being a demanding princess. Meanwhile, another straight woman loves it when her men say no at first. She loves the chase and her ultimate victory. Is this a kink? Is it something she can work into her long term relationships? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with writer and social researcher Dr. Wednesday Martin, about how women struggle with monogamy. Sometimes we do! And, in yet another shocking upending of our expectations, a woman LOVES to receive dick pics. How can she ask for them, without training these men to send them to every woman they meet? Oh look! It's a text from that guy I just...god damn it. 206-302-2064
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Radicalized! With Cory Doctorow.

Episode #651 — April 16, 2019

A bisexual man and his girlfriend want to try a threeway with another man. But he has never been with a man before and feels anxious. The girlfriend just feels turned on. He wishes she would suppress her desire and support him in this trying time. A woman's friend is beginning the process of coming out as a trans woman. But she wants to be help accountable. She asked the caller to send a coming out announcement to family and friends if the trans woman doesn't do it herself by a certain time. Is this a reasonable request? Should the caller shoulder this responsibility? Then! Dan chats with super-smart, forward thinking author, blogger, and internet rights activist Corey Doctorow about his book, group sex, the gig economy and period sex, among other things. Some of this interview is on the Micro and all of it is on the Magnum. Listen in. And speaking of group sex, how do you tell a lady you're swinging with to go a little more gently with the blow jobs.
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