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It's the food poisoning episode!

Episode #677 — October 15, 2019

A woman has vowed to never date a Trump voter. But she lives in a small conservative town, and she's getting lonely... A woman did some sex work a couple years ago. She's dating someone new and wonders if, when or how to tell him. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Joan Price, author of "Naked at Our Age" about how to combat the effects of early menopause. Poor unicorn! Her couple broke up! Should she ask the lady in the (former) couple if she can continue to be with her ex? Awkward! 206-302-2064 Feel better Dan!
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With former white supremacist Christian Picciolini.

Episode #669 — August 20, 2019

A 76 year-old woman wonders if everyone is doing polyamory these days, or if there are any monogamous couples left. A woman's twin brother has become a white supremacist, and is getting sucked in to a very scary community. Dan brings on Christian Picciolini, who himself was recruited and eventually left the white power movement. He now combats extreme hate groups, with a message compassion and understanding. On the Magnum, Dan chats with writer Zachary Zane, on the challenges and resources for coming out as a bi man. And, a woman works form home in her group house. One of her housemates has wall quaking, floor rumbling, howling, caterwauling, noisy sex at all hours, sometimes while the caller is on a work call. When confronted the housemate says she won't stop. Is it time to move out, or just live with it
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Summer sex toys! With Erika Moen.

Episode #664 — July 16, 2019

A reasonable woman is about to visit her over-the-top Christian family. Her sister has invited her to join a book club when she's there. Guess what the book is! Should the caller sit through her sister's stealth Bible study, or find a way to politely decline? Or perhaps there's yet another way... A man used to be the cartoon editor for his college newspaper. This was before he got woke, and he is now mortified to recall some nasty anti-gay comics that he published. Should he apologize? Submit new cartoons reflecting his newly enlightened views? Speaking of comics, Dan brings on the ever-delightful comic artist Erika Moen (co-creator of "Oh Joy Sex Toy") to discuss hot summer sex toys. And, on the Magnum, a man recalls how his ex-girlfriend had an abortion. He was there to help her the whole time, and it effected them both. Now that time has passed and he has a wife and kids, how should he talk about the experience, without betraying his ex-girlfriend's experience? 206-302-2064
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OMG. So. Gay.

Episode #661 — June 25, 2019

Just in time for your pride parade, it's the all gay episode! Calls by, for and about queer people. We got nervous lesbians who are scared to introduce the girlfriend to their moms, we got homos who come too soon, or get spooked by conventionally attractive men. Look! It's a bisexual woman who has never been with a woman before and wants to "scratch the itch" while her boyfriend is out of town. A woman whose trans husband has been outed at work, gay cleaning products...wait. What? Gay cleaning products? On the Magnum, Matthew Riemer, co-author of We Are Everywhere, talks about his work illuminating some of the unsung heroes of gay history. You will raise your fist up high. Happy pride everyone. Keep fighting. 206-302-2064
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With Maddie Corman

Episode #656 — May 21, 2019

A woman is dating a man who used to be a sex addict. He slept with hundreds of women. Now their relationship is solid and monogamous, but his many former lovers keep texting him and trying to keep in touch. The caller feels threatened and creeped out. A man has started going to hot yoga to get in shape. The room is filled with gorgeous women stretching and sweating and wearing next to nothing. Is the sexual vibe just in the caller's head? How can he approach some of them without looking like some kind of tantric perv? On the Magnum, a woman's new boyfriend confided in her that he had spent 2 years in prison for downloading child pornography. But she really likes him and wants to believe that he is a good person. Dan speaks with actor Maddie Corman about her similar experience with her husband, about porn addiction, her one-woman show, and how we sometimes can make the choice to forgive. And, a closeted bisexual man is sick of his queer friends trash-talking bisexuals. How can he muster the courage to come out to them?
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Bad 'Stache

Episode #637 — January 8, 2019

A Jewish woman is bringing her boyfriend to the Hanukkah party. Great, right? But as always, there's a problem. He has a HITLER MUSTACHE. Because he "likes the look." Dan chats with this woman, and you get to listen. A young man's parents discovered kinky sexts on his phone. How can he explain BDSM to his freaked out mom n' pop? On the Magnum, a man is in an open relationship, but his girlfriend doesn't like that he sees sex workers. He just likes it. Should he try to stop? Or keep doing it and lie? Or break up? And Dan counsels a bi woman on how to support her younger gay cousin growing up in a hostile environment, just like she did.
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Welcome to the Real Doll Brothel.

Episode #633 — December 11, 2018

A woman had sex with a pre-op transwoman. But she didn't make the caller come, or even try. Now the caller wonders if this is a "vagina-bodied" vs "non vagina-bodied" problem, or just a "jerk" problem. A married gay man with kids begs Dan for a quick n' dirty guide on how to add a third partner into their relationship. How can they have adventures and maintain the sanctity of their family unit? On the Magnum version, check out Canada! They are slowly but surely opening sex doll & robot brothels. Is this gonna be ok? Dr. James Cantor, the Director of the Toronto Sexuality Center, is on to discuss the implications of this new phenomenon. Canada- you so freaky. A woman's sister is into drag, and wants to include the caller. The caller wants to dress up in female drag (even though she's a woman) but worries about culturally appropriating gay male culture's appropriation of women. Did you get all that? Spoiler! Dan tells her to chill out. High heels are super weird. 206-302-2064
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With Stormy Daniels!

Episode #631 — November 27, 2018

Well looky who blew into town! Stormy Daniels came on over to our studio to answer callers' questions about blow jobs, toxic men, protecting the male ego and other hazards. Stormy and Dan got on like a house on fire, and you must listen to it. A couple questions are on the Micro version and many more are on the Magnum. Also, how to get used to using "they/them" pronouns, and how to explain the Black Lives Matter movement to your clueless, idiotic relatives. 206-302-2064
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Mindfulness: The female Viagra?

Episode #617 — August 21, 2018

A woman got together with what seemed to be the perfect man for her. Kinky. Into spanking. And social justice! But after they got together she discovered that he is really the married pastor of a conservative mega-church. Dan counsels her on whether to unmask this lying creep. A gay man came out late in life. When he tells his dates this, they balk. How can he reveal his truth to the men in his life and still earn their respect? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the estimable Dr. Lori Brotto about her new book: "Better Sex through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire." Sounds good, right? And, what on earth is "tribbing?" Spell-check sure doesn't like it.
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The neighbor and the négligé.

Episode #594 — March 13, 2018

After 10 years of marriage, a man is dismayed to admit that he married a jizz-hater. His wife detests the stuff and doesn't want to be anywhere near it. What is the solution? The ever-delightful and intrepid Erika Moen of "Oh Joy Sex Toy" is on to discuss a sex toy that will send you packing. A woman's boyfriend wants to get a $2000 anatomically correct sex doll. The caller, and (as you will hear) Dan Savage are super-squicked. Finally, gather round dear listeners, and hear the story of the neighbor and the négligé
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