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On the opening rant: Coming Out 101. What happens next? A mother's pre-teen daughter wants to wear a leather S&M-style choker. How can mom explain why this might not be a good idea? For both the Magnum and the Micro version we were honored to have Dr. Sara Pentlicky from Planned Parenthood in the studio to answer some gnarly medical questions. Dental dams? Check. Warty dicks? Check. Surf Shorts? Check. Wait, what? As you would expect, she handled them all with supreme calm, poise and intelligence. That's Planned Parenthood. Did you know that you can give some money to Planned Parenthood? You can! 206-302-2064
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With MTV's Ira Madison III.

Episode #510 — August 2, 2016

A man has started dating a woman he suspects is a virgin. She's hot, but he doesn't want to have to teach her about sex. Should he bail, or give her a few lessons? A woman fell into bed with a man so drunk, that he didn't remember going down on her. Now he's asking her friends what happened that night. Should she tell? On the Magnum, Dan chats with MTV's Ira Madison III about the complex issues that come with being a black man with submission fantasies. And, the sleepover that fried a mother's brain. 206-302-2064
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Planned Parenthood to the rescue!

Episode #487 — February 23, 2016

A mature 18 year-old has somehow failed to tell her real age to her new boyfriend who thinks she’s at least 20. How can she come clean? A man is totally into being cuckolded. Does his girlfriend have to tell her other lovers that they are part of a bigger picture? We are honored to welcome Dr. Sara Pentlicky from Planned Parenthood to help answer a plethora of medical and reproductive questions. Herpes! HPV! Birth control for transmen! We’ve got you covered. 206-302-2064
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Football! With Mike Pesca.

Episode #484 — February 2, 2016

If you are a straight girl, is it ok to seek friendship with a lesbian? Even if she has a girlfriend? (Actual question. Actually asked.) A young man is dating a former anorexic, former model and the sex is great. But! She is still living at home and has burned through all of her allowance, and now has $3 to last her all month. The young man is beginning to doubt the wisdom of dating this hot mess. And…football! Mike Pesca from The Gist joins Dan to sportsplain the complicated psychology behind being a “Bengals” fan. A woman and her father’s relationship depends on this. It is very important. On the Magnum, Dan interviews Dr. Ilir Agalliu on his new HPV study. And a ton more. 206-302-2064
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Parents and their trans kids.

Episode #482 — January 19, 2016

A young woman is about to embark on a three-way with her boyfriend and another man. How can she make sure the experience isn’t demeaning? A gay man has incest fantasies. How can he find a man willing to role play a father-figure? A married woman and her husband prefer to use condoms. So why is everyone around her so smug and condescending about it? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Robert Garofalo about a father whose kid calls himself transmale, but often presents as female. They discuss the challenges parents face in keeping an open mind and an open heart as kids and teens figure themselves out. 206-302-2064
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Oh Joy Sex Toy!

Episode #422 — November 25, 2014

If you or someone you love is considering coming out over Thanksgiving, you simply must listen to the Magnum version of the show. A lesbian's father is a religious leader, who begged her to stay in that deep, dark closet or he might lose his "job." He's gonna have a rough holiday this year. Stay tuned. Dan welcomes Erika Moen, graphic artist and creator of "Oh Joy, Sex Toy," a must-read comic. And, Dan issues a public service announcement for all you pee drinkers out there. And so much more. 206-201-2720
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Recovering your sexuality after rape.

Episode #420 — November 11, 2014

This week Dan speaks with Janet Yassen, founder of the Boston Area Rape Crisis Center about recovering your sexuality after a sexual assault. A father struggles to explain an affair to his 12 year-old daughter. On the Magnum, Dan dishes with Dan Pashman, host of WNYC's "The Sporkful" on the connection between food, sex, and general deliciousness. And, does the HPV vaccine really work? The answer is yes. But in case you are still skeptical, Dan brings on an expert to confirm. 206-201-2720 Get tickets to our Christmas Extravaganza!! December 5, at Seattle's Neptune Theatre: www.TheStranger.com/LovecastChristmas
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Katha Pollitt on abortion rights.

Episode #418 — October 28, 2014

It's the triumphant return of Dr. Barak, here to reassure us that drinking pee is still "pretty darn safe." Is guzzling jizz the equivalent of drinking a protein shake? Should a man rat out his boss for watching porn on his phone after work? On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with Katha Pollitt about her new book, Pro: Reclaiming Abortion Rights. And more. 206-201-2720
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The Nipple Thing.

Episode #357 — August 27, 2013

Dan helps a woman determine the fine line between over-permissiveness and slut-shaming for her 14 year-old step-daughter. In more hand-wringing, a young man wants to be sure he obtains consent from his lucky ladies, but how much asking is too much asking? On the Magnum show, a woman's boyfriend enjoys a nosefull of cocaine every month or so. She hates it. Does she have the right to ask him to choose between her or his precious blow? Dan explains the finer points of slut etiquette to a lass who prefers to dash off rather than spend the night. And finally, hear the tale of the woman whose snooping revealed that her boyfriend was having an affair with his mother's secretary. Stop that snooping ya'll, lest you learn something you wish you hadn't.
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The doctor is IN. Kindly, long-suffering Doctor Barak is back to answer your medical questions and submit to Dan's unique brand of torture. Dan and Doc discuss smoking weed while pregnant, herbal abortions, torn penises, and more. Some choice lines to listen for: "We aren't running out of Jamaicans" and "Grab the babies and run." Call us up to make us giggle and squirm. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage    Comment on this episode at thestranger.com/lovecast
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