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A woman has started up with a great new guy. The problem? He kisses "like a robot." And not a sexy robot! How can she train him to kiss properly? A man's daughter is non-binary, and dating another non-binary. When they have sleep-overs should the father worry about his daughter when her partner is in male mode? On the Magnum, Dr. Justin Lehmiller is on to talk about his latest book Tell Me What You Want and his research studying what people really fantasize about. Don't you want his job? A married woman's husband loves it when she talks about her slutty past. But she's running out of stories! Also, should she tell him about her current crush?
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F*ck Yes!

Episode #593 — March 6, 2018

A straight man knows he has the dreaded Madonna/Whore Complex. But how can he overcome it? A 47 year-old woman has just started working at a sex toy store, and loves her funky, kinky co-workers. But she's scared to invite them to her wedding for fear that mommy and daddy won't approve. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Emily Best, the force behind "F*ck Yes" -a new channel that offers up super-hot shorts showing how consent can be very sexy indeed. We love what they are doing, and you should check it out. And, did you know that Dan has some strong opinions about guns? The usually shy and retiring Dan Savage offers his take on the argument that "if you ban guns only criminals will have guns."
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Wonder Woman!

Episode #572 — October 10, 2017

The Kissing Clause: should kissing come standard in a relationship? Dan interviews Angela Robinson, the director of "Professor Marsten and the Wonder Women"- a bio-pic about the poly, Dom/sub, super-freak creator of the Wonder Woman comics. On the Magnum, a woman's male co-worker is getting pimped out against his will by his boyfriend. Dan brings on sex worker rights activist Mistress Matisse to discuss how to support the lad. And, a man in a 7-year triad, fears he will soon be replaced.
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Dr. Rachel Gelman

Episode #547 — April 18, 2017

A woman's in-laws have 12 cats. They won't travel to see the caller's family (including the 2 small children,) because they can't bear to leave the mewling kitties. Are they mentally ill and is there any way to explain this behavior to the kids? A bondage-loving lass goes to clubs and gets tied up by a strictly platonic tying partner. Her boyfriend is ok with it, but feels a little spooked. How can she reassure him that what she and the tying partner do isn't sex? On the Magnum, it's our first do-over! Dan realized he cocked up the answer to the woman who would lose bladder control when she gave blow jobs. This time, Dan brings in Dr. Rachel Gelman- an actual pelvic health specialist who knows what the hell she's talking about. She lives in the UK, he in the States. He is her dom, and also her cousin. They are deeply closeted about their relationship to family and friends. So, what's the problem? 206-302-2064
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With AIDS activist Peter Staley.

Episode #477 — December 15, 2015

A stoned gentleman is wracked with guilt for making the dog he’s caring for stop masturbating already! (Maybe he should be hitting the indica rather than the sativa, say the TSARY.) “Virginity is obsolete as a concept,” declares this 20 year-old woman, who is seeing an 18 year-old lad with precious little experience. How can she take care of her little darling and gently guide him to the land of sexual pleasure, honoring the campsite rule? A strident feminist has found a man who can really get her off. The problem is that he is a chauvenist pig! Is it ethical to sleep with the enemy? On the Magnum, Dan and AIDS activist Peter Staley get into a dust-up over PreP and its effect on rising STD rates among gay men. (Don’t worry, they’re still friends.) Get your Savage Lovecast coffee mugs over at www.thestranger.com/savageswag 206-302-2064
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Tracy Clark-Flory on "Involuntary Celibates."

Episode #397 — June 3, 2014

A woman is going nuts because her boyfriend insists on keeping a memento of his previous girlfriend. Is he being unreasonable, or is she the mayor of Crazytown? A straight man wonders if it's too weird to ask his martial arts partner to be his "kink buddy." On the Magnum, Dan chats with Salon writer Tracy Clark-Flory about the "Involuntary Celibates" community, and the rampant misogyny within it. Yikes! Also, meet yet another casualty in the Kissing Wars.
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Ask an Ethicist!

Episode #383 — February 25, 2014

This week on the Magnum version of the Lovecast, Dan enlists heavyweight ethicist Randy Cohen (the former New York Times columnist) to help answer some pretty twisted questions. A woman feels guilty for dumping her boyfriend. She dumped him because he didn't so much kiss her as stab her with his tongue sword. Could she have maybe taught him the subtle art of kissing instead? An impatient male unicorn wonders if he should call, text and otherwise pester his intended couple. And so much more. 206-201-2720
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