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Strap it on... with Tristan Taormino!

Episode #628 — November 6, 2018

A woman has been with her fiancé for 4 years. All of a sudden, out of nowhere, he's started moaning and groaning in bed like a porn starlet. Why the sudden vocalizations? IS HE CHEATING ON HER? An asexual, non-binary person feels like an invader when they show up at BDSM parties. Is it alright to join that community when you are uninterested in sex? On the Magnum, we are delighted to welcome back author, sex educator and bitter podcasting rival Tristan Taormino. She and Dan discuss strap-ons, and how to peg your partner real good. Two HIV negative gay men have been together for 5 years. They started acting out role-play scenes where one infects the other. It's been super hot, but the caller is uncomfortable even pretending such a thing. He is old enough to remember the worst days of AIDs. Is this role play ok? Or a thought crime? Do whatchoo wanna. 206-302-2064
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Are Sugar Babies Sex Workers?

Episode #623 — October 2, 2018

A married couple's teen daughter gets super-irritated when her parents have noisy sex. She sends them snarky texts imploring them to stop. Maybe she includes an eye-rolling emoji or a throwing-up kitten or some such teenaged thing. The dad in this couple doesn't want to "break her." What does Dan Savage have to say? Our guest this week, (on the Micro! You're welcome!) is Brook Urick of Seeking.com- a site where sugar babies can meet their ideal sugar daddy. Hooray! But is this relationship by nature commodified? Is it sex work? Dan and Brook don't see eye to eye on this one. On the Magnum, an out bi guy keeps getting rejected by women once they learn he's bi. Are there any women out there who can handle it? And, a ridiculous sitcom comes to life, when a woman AND HER FRIEND have both set up dates WITH THE SAME GUY.
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Sex with your ex's brother: the ultimate revenge.

Episode #324 — January 8, 2013

A gay man started his coming out process by announcing that he was bi to his parents. Now that he knows he's a full 'mo, how can he convince his skeptical parents?  The ultimate revenge: a woman and her ex-fiance are long broken up. But his super-hot brother is coming to town… Sex in a cemetery- any tips?  And a lot more of this ilk.  206-201-2720 This episode is also brought to you by www.Squarespace.com/Savage They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage1 for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.
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Bisexuals! Grab your pitchforks and fire up those torches. This show is all about you.  Also, does a BJ get you into the Mile High Club?  A man who will be staying with his sister-in-law for a few months wonders if he needs to keep his carnal relations inaudible.  Shhhhhhh!  206-201-2720 Neal Boulton is over at www.Bastardlife.com This episode is brought to you by www.xandria.com. Enter the code SAVAGE and get 20% off your entire order. This episode is brought to you by www.Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the offer code Savage4 for a 10% discount.
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More rantings about a man named Weiner. Are garter belts inherently sexist, and is there a male equivalent? Dan interviews Ogi Ogas, co-author of "A Billion Wicked Thoughts" in which two computational neuroscientists embark on the largest study of sexuality since Kinsey. And more. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. This episode is brought to you by FyreTV- the ultimate adult video experience. Sign up for FREE at www.FyreTV.com To comment on what you're heard on the show, go to www.thestranger.com/lovecast.
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It's the one-minute wonder show! All calls less than one minute long! All answers less than one minute long! Why me talking like Hulk? Topics covered: Friends with overgrown bushes, herpes dating sites, more come, less come, loud neighbors, master-slave role-play, icing on boobs and so much more. Call us quickly! 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast
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A woman's boyfriend got fired in May and still hasn't gotten his ass off the couch. Should she cut and run or hang in there? A lesbian grapples with her hypnosis fetish. A woman's new lover whimpers like a kicked puppy when having sex. She finds this… not so sexy. And on and on. Call us at 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve Today's episode is also brought to you by Get STD Tested. Call today for easy, reliable, confidential STD testing: 888-387-1879.
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Angry gay fucking: Her neighbors are doing it. How can she tell them to knock it off or at least keep it down? The tragedy of our inadequate sex education in the U.S. reveals itself in this call, in which a young man wonders how to get an abortion without telling his parents and how to find out if his girlfriend is indeed pregnant. Dan talks a man out of castrating himself. Seriously. And tons more. Call us at 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve This episode was brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today here: http://j.mp/savageaudible
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Dan delivers a lecture to a teenage girl at the behest of her concerned father. Thin walls: The neighbor is making life unpleasant for the couple who just moved in. When she was a drug abuser, she had great, crazy, kinky sex. Now that she's clean and sober, the sex is a little too vanilla. How can she get a little bit of the crazy back? And, an adult baby responds. Call us at 206-201-2720
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Two tales of texting exes: Is obsessive texting a modern way of cheating? Her friend is in a miserable, sexless marriage. Is it wrong to advise her to cheat in order to save the relationship? A betrothed couple have been saving themselves for marriage for religious reasons. But what if they're a lousy match sexually? Would that make God happy? Well would it? Call us at 206-201-2720. This episode was brought to you by Audible.com. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage.
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