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A kinky woman is sick and tired of men assuming she's a horny slut ready for anything at any time. How can she explain in her dating profiles that she's kinky AND discerning? A woman was hanging out fishing with her old high school buddy when the buddy asked, "So is it true you like to get peed on?" Don't you hate it when that happens? How should she spread the word among her old friend circle that in fact, this isn't to her taste? On the Magnum, look out! It's a lesbian take-over! The delightful ladies from the Lez Hang Out podcast are here to take on some lezbo questions. And, a woman wonders how to come out to her family as a stripper.
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Erotica by and for women? Yes please...

Episode #604 — May 22, 2018

A 60 year-old man has been dating a woman for 4 months. He wishes she would lose some weight. Oh, and also? She lost her breasts to cancer. Does he have the right to ask her to get a boob job too? Sidle up, dear listener, and hear the tale of the woman, her much older boyfriend, and...and her boyfriend's...son? After hearing this, one of the tech-savvy at-risk youth had to take a walk around the block. But fearlessly, we continue! On the Magnum, Dan interviews Inka, the creator of ForPlay Films: Erotica made by women, for women. And somehow Dan convinced Nancy to talk about sex during a woman's "moon time." This show is a banger. 206-302-2064.
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F*ck Yes!

Episode #593 — March 6, 2018

A straight man knows he has the dreaded Madonna/Whore Complex. But how can he overcome it? A 47 year-old woman has just started working at a sex toy store, and loves her funky, kinky co-workers. But she's scared to invite them to her wedding for fear that mommy and daddy won't approve. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Emily Best, the force behind "F*ck Yes" -a new channel that offers up super-hot shorts showing how consent can be very sexy indeed. We love what they are doing, and you should check it out. And, did you know that Dan has some strong opinions about guns? The usually shy and retiring Dan Savage offers his take on the argument that "if you ban guns only criminals will have guns."
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The Art of the Solicited Dick Pic.

Episode #588 — January 30, 2018

Gather round, and hear two nasty tales of violent, crazy girlfriends. Would you date someone who painted all over your sheets and poured liquor on your clothes? You would? Oh, never mind then. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Nicole Mazzeo, founder of Pleasure Pie and creator of "The Art of the Solicited Dick Pic" a zine for the folks out there who love a naughty surprise on their phones. And, a phone sex worker wonders how she can handle men who want to engage in emotionally scarring sex chatter. What a world. 206-302-2064
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An interview with the author of "Everybody Lies."

Episode #557 — June 27, 2017

A man is just about to end his Grindr relationship with a dude whose girlfriend knows nothing of his exploits. Should he drop the info on this poor girl before he leaves town? Dan interviews Seth Davidowitz, author of "Everybody Lies: Big Data, New Data and What the Internet Can Tell Us About Who We Really Are." Basically, when you look at Google searches, people are just as nasty as can be. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Viro, co-host of the furry relationship advice podcast "Feral Attraction" on furries, bestiality and fetish mis-matches. Also, what is the best way to ask the check-out girl at the CVS if she'll be your unicorn in a three-way? 206-302-2064
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With poly pioneer Allena Gabosch.

Episode #492 — March 29, 2016

The rarest of lovely creatures, a male unicorn, is ANGRY because he sees a double standard among the straight couples he joins. They reject him when they learn that he’s been with other men before them. Whaaaaaat? PSA: Couples! Treat your unicorns right, will you please? In a classic conundrum, a woman is attracted to her husband’s best friend. And Snapchat isn’t helping… On the Magnum, fall down the poly rabbit hole with Allena Gabosch, Founding Director of Seattle’s Center for Sex Positive Culture. She and Dan discuss strategies for making polyamorous relationships work.
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Dad, whose panties are these?

Episode #388 — April 1, 2014

This episode is riddled with parents creeping out their kids. A man in an established open relationship is horrified to learn that his step-daughter caught him chatting with other ladies. How can he explain to her that he's playing by the rules? It gets much worse. We won't reveal all here, but let's just say that your father might be into panties. And finally in our trilogy of parental distress, how the hell do you tell your kids that your family is…special? Dan brings on poly lawyer Diana Adams to help. Over in Magnumtown... In this week's "What You Got?" Dan chats with Dr. Arielle Kuperberg about her study showing that if you marry young, you're more liable to get divorced, duh. A married man and the little lady like to go out on the town and have some sexy time. But he's not as young as he used to be, and likes to enhance the evening with Viagra. Should he tell her about the Tinkerbell pills? And finally, tattoos: Hot or not?
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The Sex Worker Panel.

Episode #387 — March 25, 2014

Dan speaks with Seattle sex workers Mistress Matisse, Savannah Sly and Delia DeLions about the biz. Topics covered: proper client etiquette, telling people in your life that you have done sex work or see sex workers, how to hire your unicorn, and what to do if a client has a really weird looking dick. The Magnum has a ton more this week, so indulge.
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Ask an Ethicist!

Episode #383 — February 25, 2014

This week on the Magnum version of the Lovecast, Dan enlists heavyweight ethicist Randy Cohen (the former New York Times columnist) to help answer some pretty twisted questions. A woman feels guilty for dumping her boyfriend. She dumped him because he didn't so much kiss her as stab her with his tongue sword. Could she have maybe taught him the subtle art of kissing instead? An impatient male unicorn wonders if he should call, text and otherwise pester his intended couple. And so much more. 206-201-2720
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SPORTS TALK with brother Billy!

Episode #379 — January 28, 2014

A first-time unicorn finds herself alone and naked on the bed, while her couple argue. Should she give them another chance? A woman has lost 180 lbs. If her new lovers knew she used to be so heavy, would they still want her? And how can she forgive them if the answer is no? On the Magnum, Dan and his brother Billy talking about sports? Pinch us, we're dreamin'! A man in the music industry works with a rising star. But, the singer is deeply closeted. Should the man urge his client to come out for the sake of his career? And more.
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